Every person loves to hear pleasant words addressed to them, including your friends. In our culture, they are not as common as compliments to a loved one. But this does not mean that it should always be like this, because sometimes you really want to say something nice to a close friend. However, the question arises, where to find sources of compliments for a friend, and what should they be? You will learn about all this from our article.
Why are compliments needed in female friendships?
A compliment is an expression of admiration, sympathy and approval of something about a person. As a rule, its goal is the desire to please another or raise his self-esteem, to bring warmth and intimacy to the relationship. With the help of a compliment, we can improve a person’s mood and cheer him up; in general, a compliment is a weapon for all times!
Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to get pleasant words from a man - it is often unclear to them why they need to constantly talk about our beauty and charm. Therefore, compliments from a friend can greatly compensate for the lack of compliments from men, because they are almost as pleasant.
For female friendship, pleasant words have a special meaning. Sometimes we need something from a friend: for example, you want to ask her to go with you to a boring dinner with your relatives, spending the whole day on it. And here it will be very useful to be able to give your friend a compliment: “You know how to infect everyone around you with fun and optimism, and only you can save a trip to a family dinner from the abyss of despondency!” In addition, some things no one except friends notice, for example, small changes in a haircut or a new handbag. A compliment on this occasion can bring a lot of pleasure to both of you.
Types of compliments
There are a great many compliments in the world. They differ from each other in structure, purpose, effect - in general, in very different parameters. Therefore, when you want to please your friend, you have plenty to choose from. The main thing is to know it well in order not to make a mistake with the type of compliment (for example, some people do not perceive antithetical compliments at all due to the peculiarities of their thinking and perception). So, what types of “amenities” are there?
- Direct compliment
These are words that directly indicate the positive qualities of your friends. Sometimes a decoding is added to a message about a person’s dignity, for example: “Masha, you have incredibly beautiful hair! Every time I see them, it feels like someone spilled a bottle of awesomeness on your head.” Such compliments often use superlative adjectives, positive comparisons, intensifiers (the words “such”, “that”), or words indicating time (“as always”, “today”). Often the object of direct compliments is a friend’s appearance (figure, hairstyle, facial features), positive qualities (character traits, abilities) or a positive assessment of her behavior or actions.
- Hidden or indirect compliment
Its goal is to emphasize the merits of the interlocutor in a veiled form. Unfortunately, direct compliments are not always appropriate (or so it seems to us), but you want to say something nice. A hidden compliment can be a lifesaver for us. They, as well as direct ones, often use exaggeration, comparisons and other artistic means. It has the following varieties:
- the praise is not addressed to the friend herself, but to what is dear to her, for example, work results, achievements or children (“Your children are very cute and somewhat reminiscent of angels”).
- the compliment is addressed to a friend indirectly and indirectly (“My mother’s friend is an amazingly strong woman. You are very similar to her.”)
- Praise emphasizes how you feel or how your friend has a positive influence on you (“You make me feel ten years younger”).
- mentioning in a compliment some generally accepted patterns, proverbs and conventions (for example, when a friend complains to you about the mess in the apartment, say: “Talented people are always a creative mess”).
- A compliment given with humor
About some people you can say that jokes permeate their lives. If your friend is one of these, then most likely she will appreciate a compliment given with a dose of humor or even slight irony. For example: “You are very smart. Just like me!". Sometimes it’s fun to scare her a little before saying nice words: “How can you do that?!” It only took half an hour, but the pie turned out so delicious!”
- Compliment-contrast
In such compliments, you can fully demonstrate your creativity and ability to think outside the box. This type of praise is based on a paradoxical combination of negative and positive: first you say something that can be perceived in a negative way, and then you sharply turn it in a positive direction. An example would be the following compliment: “I can’t say that you are a good artist... You are the most talented and beautiful artist!” The main thing is that the positive outweighs the negative, otherwise the effect will be the opposite. Thanks to the contrast, these compliments are very bright and memorable.
- Compliment-response
As a rule, they are very similar to each other - these are pleasant words that we want to say in response to what a friend said. They come in two types: disagreement with the negative things that a friend says about herself, for example: “You are not at all absent-minded, but, on the contrary, very attentive!” Another option is something like a verbal curtsy addressed to her:
- Do you cook well
- I had someone to learn from
- Emotionless compliment
It doesn’t happen that often – after all, praise is usually quite expressive and emotional. This type of compliment, as a rule, rarely causes embarrassment or indignation in the interlocutor, so it can be given even to a modest or reserved friend. An example of such praise would be the words: “You have a nice car. Where did you buy it?” The girl can only agree with this and tell the story of purchasing the car.
Compliments to a friend in your own words
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Let life pay you back with interest for your kindness of soul and soft heart, for your positive attitude and desire to make the world a better place!
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Girlfriend, be careful with men. Do not communicate with those who are in poor health at all. Otherwise, it will happen as always: if you smile, your heart rate will jump, if you look, your temperature will jump, if you wink, your blood pressure will increase, if you speak, you’ll faint. Your level of charm is such that it strikes like a virus, acts with lightning speed and remains in the body forever.
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I am proud that I have a friend like you, kind and sympathetic, mischievous and cheerful, smart and beautiful, faithful and reliable. Your eternal positivity and inexhaustible energy leave no chance for sadness and problems, and your external attractiveness and inner charm inspire action. You are an example for me, always remain one!
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Girlfriend, your character is softer than light clouds, your advice is more valuable than gold bars, your beauty is brighter than that of chic garden flowers, your image is sweet, like a clearing of field daisies, your support is more reliable than granite rocks, and you yourself are kinder than a fairy fairy!
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You have long become an irreplaceable person for me and, like a sister, dear. I will now be happy to list your best qualities: you are beautiful and smart, resourceful and cheerful, kind and brave, reliable and fair, responsible and non-offensive. You are the best friend in the world and I am constantly glad that I am so fantastically lucky with you!
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Baby, you deserve it! Everything is rewarded according to deserts, and happiness chooses the best. Do not consider it flattery to state the truth - this is exactly about you. By investing your soul and a lot of effort, you only get an absolutely deserved result. And I am another reason to be proud of my friend.
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Girlfriend, you are a real star! I'm glad to see you blooming like a wonderful flower, keep it up. You are so charming that you can charm the most unapproachable prince without much effort. Every year your beauty becomes brighter - keep your mark and conquer hearts!
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I don’t even know what attracts people to you more – your beauty or your beautiful soul? Everything about you is harmonious and logical. That's why I love it!
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If I were a man, I would choose only you! You are an ideal girl with a lot of positive qualities and positive thinking.
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Precious madam! You are unusually good today. No gentleman will remain indifferent when looking at such a beautiful lady. Hoping for your prudence, I friendly recommend that you do not show your beauty to just anyone, but favorably illuminate only the most worthy with it!
Inspiration for compliments
Do you know that feeling when you want to compliment your friend, but don’t know what to say? Should I praise her character or is it better to limit myself to praising her new dress? How nice it would be to have universal instructions on how to compliment a friend! Unfortunately, this does not exist, because all people are different. But the girls have some common features, thanks to which you can come across the content of future praise.
Each of us strives to be unique and inimitable, including each of your friends. So if you want to cheer her up, you can always compliment her on the qualities that make her different from others (or that she considers to be distinctive). For example, if your friend is proud of her unique way of laughing, you can always emphasize this once again in a conversation: “There was simply no chance for him not to fall for your catchy laugh.” If there is nothing that lies on the surface, try to look more carefully at your friend: what does she have that others don’t? That's what you're talking about.
If you know that your friend is proud of something, you can rest assured that this can be the content of your compliment. And don’t worry about repetition: even if you praised this particular thing, action or quality a hundred times, the hundred and first will not be superfluous (this is a feature of human psychology). We can listen to praise about something important and meaningful to us endlessly, right?
An interesting step would be to try to give an unexpected compliment. This has several beneficial and pleasant consequences. Firstly, it will increase your friend's self-esteem. She didn’t even think about the fact that she also had such a positive trait, but you noticed it - now she will have something to be proud of in addition to everything else. Accordingly, she will be grateful to you. Secondly, a lot of pleasant feelings await you from your friend. Which birthday gift do you think is nicer: a surprise or the one you chose for yourself? Probably a surprise. The same is with compliments - if your friend is used to everyone praising her intelligence, and you note her appearance, it will be doubly pleasant for her.
You can also try to praise what your friend generally considers a flaw. This type of compliment requires special skill, so you need to treat it with caution. For example, if a friend considers herself too thin, you can turn this into an advantage by saying: “I would really like to be as slim and attractive as you.”
How to compliment a friend correctly
It happens that the words seem to be chosen correctly, and the moment is chosen well, but the compliment does not bring joy and satisfaction to either you or your friend. This could mean two things: either your friend doesn’t like compliments at all, or you’re saying something wrong. In the first case, nothing depends on you (but this option is quite rare in life), but in the second there is always the opportunity to improve your manner of giving compliments.
What is the secret of a good compliment? Firstly, it must be spoken sincerely. There should not be even a hint of ambiguity or ridicule of a friend - it should be simple and understandable. Secondly, reality should not be greatly exaggerated. Enhancing your friend's assets a little won't hurt, but if you tell your chubby friend, “You're incredibly slim,” she will not only not be happy, but will most likely be offended. Thirdly, do not forget about the correct manner of delivering a compliment:
- Don't forget that compliments should be appropriate to the person, place, time and situation in which they are uttered;
- The compliment should be spoken kindly and confidently. In a conversation, a smile is an indicator of openness and sympathy, so you can safely use it;
- Avoid cliches in your speech: in most cases this causes either boredom or irritation;
- Pay attention to the person you compliment. You shouldn’t overdo it with solemnity, but sometimes a compliment given in passing can offend;
- Excessive emotionality, theatricality and enthusiasm are not encouraged in the manner of giving compliments. This makes the praise seem insincere and causes irritation;
- Avoid hints of irony and sarcasm in your compliments. If you want to offend your friend, this, of course, will be the best way, but if you want to do something pleasant for her, then irony and sarcasm will be unnecessary;
- The best indicator of truthfulness is whether your facial expressions and gestures match what you say. Agree, it will be strange and unpleasant if you confess your love to your friend, and your eyebrows will be frowned.
The compliment should be short enough, otherwise it is not a compliment, but a whole monologue on the topic “what a wonderful friend I have.” This, of course, is pleasant, but difficult to perceive: your friend may get tired and not understand what is so important you wanted to tell her. Try to choose words that correspond to the level of your friend’s outlook: for example, you can praise a girl with a higher education for the level of development of verbal-logical thinking, and for a girl who has barely graduated from college, it is better to say pleasant words about her beauty.
In conclusion, I would like to once again note the undeniable benefits and advantages of compliments. Thanks to them, relationships are improved and restored, love arises and destinies are built. “A kind word also pleases a cat,” says a well-known saying. Of course, we are not cats, but sometimes one nice remark is enough to cheer us up for the whole day. But it's so simple! So why not use compliments regularly when communicating with your friends? After all, who, if not us, should please, support and protect each other!
Beautiful compliments to a friend
You have a good character, both appearance and figure. I am proud of you every day, After all, you are my friend. I'm so lucky to have you, And you're the only one. I obey you in everything, you are my dear friend. You are always an example for me, I look up to you. You are the best of all friends, I’ll say it without hesitation!
When I look into your eyes, It’s like I see a ray of sunshine in them. And you all glow from the outside, You are the best friend on earth! I’m not jealous of you guys at all, because you don’t even give a reason. You spend your energy selflessly, You give all your best to others. It’s so rare to find caring, attentive friends these days. Therefore, I will appreciate you more, And I will not get tired of giving compliments!
You are the best of all friends, everyone around you loves you so much. You are always ready to help, And this is your whole essence. Your manners and words, Your clothes are stylish, People are always so attracted to you, Everyone wants to be friends with you!
Girlfriend, you are a great person! I wish you happiness in your personal life, You are good in appearance, in soul, Much brings us closer to you. You are interesting and cheerful, You have energy and strength, It enchants and leads you... Let happiness come into your life!
Girlfriend, the warmth of your soul is wonderful! I wish your life to be light and clear, Energy and joy, a stormy volcano, Happiness and goodness, a huge ocean! Let luck spoil you with gifts, Let love kiss you tenderly on the lips, Let your cherished dreams come true, Harmony and beauty to you!
You are near when there is a blizzard in the heart, You are a close person, my friend. You radiate positivity and kindness, communicating with you is a pleasure! Let your eyes also sparkle, Let love and beauty surround you, Develop the gifts of nature in yourself, And receive everything you have in mind from life!
I admire you all the time, and I set only you as an example to everyone around me. You are the best in the world, you are just my golden priceless friend! Throughout my life, you have always helped me a lot, and found the right words. I will always be friends with you, I can’t imagine my life without you!
You are beautiful now, on this holiday. This is how your hair looks and your smile is brighter. Well, your dress has no equal, it fits so beautifully, its color is so good. The shoes match the dress, the gait in them is easy, it’s simply impossible not to notice you in the crowd.
The most fashionable, the best, The only friend I have, I never get bored with you, I always have fun with you! You will be able to support and understand, You can give advice, hug, I always want to walk with you, And I can’t be a friend without you!
Girlfriend, you are the best person! I wish you happiness for a whole century, so that you strive and dream, and surprise with your victories. Be also sincere, kind, full of energy, full of love, May heaven favor you, May luck always knock on your door!
My dear friend, Thank you for always being with me in difficult times, You gave me peace. I appreciate you for your loyalty, for your wisdom and deeds. You have given me a good example with your entire life!
