A few words about thinking stereotypes
Yes, on the one hand, the situation is not very encouraging: it seems that all peers have already been “sorted out”, and those who are not married are burdened with children, alimony, their own complexes, and are generally losers. If there was a traveler, someone argues, he would sit at home with his family, and not look for a new lady.
But in reality, all these are nothing more than stereotypes. Who said that after forty years a person has no right to happiness? Has no right to be loved?
In general, I am surprised by those women who believe that their mothers should devote their lives to caring for their family. Of course, young forty-year-old grandmothers should provide assistance to children, but only of their own free will and within reasonable limits. And a lonely young grandmother can easily devote the rest of her free time to finding a life partner.
Get married after 40 because you want to love and be loved
Oh, but I believe in this option least of all, or rather, in the fact that after forty years you can find true love. Of course, you may not agree with me, but I will still express my opinion. The older a woman gets, the more life experience she has, and if after 40 she is still (or already) single, then this experience is most likely sad. Having experienced infidelity, divorce, betrayal and loss, you involuntarily begin to look at life and at the men in this very life differently. “Scarlet Sails” sailed to other shores long ago, all the princes on white horses galloped away, and it turns out that it is quite possible to live without sails and princes. Still, love must be sought in youth, and after 40 you can find anything you want, but not love...But what about “Moscow does not believe in tears?”, you are rightly indignant? There the heroine met true love just after 40 years. “It’s a movie,” I’ll answer and I’ll be right, although...miracles happen, but very rarely and not to everyone.
Elena Gordina Women's magazine JustLady
How to look for a life partner
But the word “search” does not mean constantly running around the city with eyes wide from effort in endless attempts to “lasso” someone. No, a forty-year-old woman can choose thoughtfully and with self-respect. Why?
Well, firstly, such a woman, as a rule, already has financial stability and is no longer looking for a man to support her, and men value a woman’s financial independence.
Secondly, a forty-year-old lady already knows her style very well, understands what suits her and what doesn’t, and uses it perfectly. She does not wear bright and unrestrained makeup, which is sometimes the sin of young women; her clothes are chosen with taste and, moreover, are in no way inferior to youth clothes.
In addition, official registration of relationships is no longer so important for women at this age, which also attracts men.
Of course, there are exceptions, but in general, women after forty clearly know what they want from life and from themselves. This is precisely what sometimes attracts twenty- and thirty-year-old boys to women of post-Balzac age.
And those around him are surprised: why did he get involved with this old galosh? Let them be surprised and envy themselves, what do you think about stupid gossip?
The ability to flirt will definitely come in handy when looking for a life partner. Do you want to immediately find out what kind of person is in front of you when meeting you or on your first date? Just ask him these 4 simple questions...
Choosing a strategy
And yet, how can a woman get married after 50? It is important to clarify here that meeting a man is not difficult. However, at an advanced age, you no longer want to waste time on useless communication and unnecessary connections. Therefore, you should immediately decide what kind of partner you need, and based on this, make plans for your search.
Decide what kind of partner you need, and you will definitely find one!
To love and to be loved
It's great if you still believe in this bright feeling. Typically, women of advanced age push emotions into the background, leaving common sense as a priority. However, one does not interfere with the other, and it’s never too late to fall in love.
It is important to listen to the call of your heart more often; perhaps your happiness is somewhere very close. If among your single acquaintances, neighbors, or colleagues there are no people you like, feel free to expand your social circle
. Visit theaters, libraries, cafes, just walk around the park during the day. Sometimes it may be useful to have a friend’s help, in case there is a candidate worthy of you in her circle.
Get rid of loneliness
To get rid of melancholy and depression from life, sometimes a woman just needs someone to be nearby. The husband died or left for someone else, and the children had long since grown up and left, creating their own families. To avoid being lonely, many ladies dare to get married after the age of 50.
If you recognize yourself in this description, you should pay attention to older men. They strive for home comfort and warmth, and women place housekeeping above beauty, sexuality and intelligence. You can find such a partner on online dating sites and marriage agencies.
As a self-sufficient and financially secure woman, you have a good chance of finding a relationship with a man much younger than you. We will not exclude the possibility of disinterested mutual feelings, but most often such romances are started by gigolos
There are ladies who are quite happy with this situation; they are ready to complicate their lives for the sake of a young, handsome husband. If you are one of those people, and a man still hasn’t found you on his own, then go “hunting” at an expensive resort or fitness club.
Improve your financial situation
In our country, many women are thinking about how to marry a rich man at 55. It’s not surprising, because finding a job with a decent salary at this age is difficult, and living on a pension alone sometimes seems like something fantastic.
However, in order to attract the attention of a wealthy potential groom, you will have to try hard. You need to regularly monitor your appearance and improve yourself in everything. There are many “hunters” for single and rich men; it is important to stand out among them with beauty, sexuality, intelligence, sense of humor and other qualities. Well, you can meet such a groom on a paid beach, in a closed club, an expensive restaurant and other elite places.
You can meet a rich groom after 50 in a closed club or restaurant
Where can I meet you?
And finally, we come to the most important and burning question: where can a woman meet a man after forty years? The answer is simple: in the same place where all people of other ages meet!
Here's one way to meet a great man:
A street, a cafe, the Internet, a festive evening with friends, even your own entrance - everywhere you can find the man of your dreams if a kind, sincere smile shines on your face, and the light of love for life and genuine interest in people shines in your eyes!
Marry after 40 with financial problems
In our country, where all vacancies end with the words “send resumes to applicants no older than 35 years old,” after 40 years old it is practically an afterlife. And in order to find a decent job after 40 years, a woman must show miracles of imagination, ingenuity, and even learn some acrobatic tricks. Sometimes it is much easier to get married so that the new husband will support you and not allow you to die of starvation. However, in order to successfully marry a financially wealthy man, a woman after 40 must be very smart, very beautiful, very well-groomed, very sexy and very wise.
Because there are plenty of 20-30 year old girls who simply don’t want to work, but also want to marry a financially secure man. This is probably the most difficult option, when a woman over forty is forced to look for a rich man in order to provide herself and her children with a well-fed life. Such a woman will have to be on her toes all the time, forgive her sweetheart for easy affairs and give him slippers in her teeth.
To marry a rich man after forty years, you need to look simply stunning, be smart and sexy, and it is advisable to always meet your sweetheart with a smile on your face.
Wealthy men hang out in decent restaurants for “business lunches”, in “closed clubs”, on paid beaches or the hippodrome, near their own stables.
How to get married after 40 years?
Irina, Volgodonsk:
“I’m 46 years old now. Two years ago I got married. And very happy.
It’s strange, I still can’t believe that this happened to me...
My first marriage was, as they say, a student marriage. We were very young, inexperienced, selfish. They quarreled constantly. Even at the wedding we managed to quarrel over some nonsense so that all the guests made peace with us...
Of course, it was difficult in everyday life too. Almost immediately the child was born, I tried to combine study and caring for the baby, my husband tried to combine study and work. We lived with his parents, my mother-in-law did not love me, and she was horrified by my daughter crying at night. There was no money, but who had it in the 90s...
The child and work put an end to the fun student life, and we were only 21 years old!
I wanted joy and carefreeness. My husband wanted it more, apparently. He began to walk. First just with friends, then with girls...
I cried, but endured. And where to go with a baby in your arms, without education, housing, in a foreign city? But after receiving his diplomas, the husband said that such a life was not for him. I, they say, am strangling his freedom and preventing him from breathing... In short, he simply kicked me out the door with a one-year-old child in my arms...
I returned to my hometown to my mother, got a job and gave up on myself. Work and home, clubs and sections, childhood illnesses and teenage problems... Life flashed by in a flash.
When my daughter grew up and left to study, I was overwhelmed. I'm alone, no one needs me. How to get married after 40, and is it even possible? Of course not. I'm not some Hollywood star, not the daughter of a millionaire.
An ordinary woman with average appearance, loans and an old cat.
And life in the provinces somehow does not contribute to an enchanting personal life. Where to go to meet men? To the shopping center? To the dumpling shop?
In short, I once again gave up on myself. I thought it was final.
Miracles happen. And one day at the entrance I met my neighbor. About the same age as me, a couple of years older. I met you... and didn’t recognize you! I’m used to seeing an elderly woman with bags in her hands and a dull look. And then a movie star was walking towards me! She was literally glowing! Noticing my stunned look, Anya laughed: “You won’t believe it, but I found a secret remedy for eternal youth. These are amazing courses!” “Do they know how to get married after 40?” - I asked. “They know everything there!” - the neighbor answered.
That's how I first got into shamanic classes. I went to the group for six months, but never dared to voice my main question. And then one day I finally asked Alla Gromova for an individual consultation. I was so worried that I immediately blurted out: “How to get married after 40 years? Do I have a chance? And Alla replied that there are always chances, and age has nothing to do with it.
Alla Gromova advised me to undergo energetic cleansing of the uterus. Incredibly, the next day after this, my ex-husband called, from whom there had been no news for the last 20 years! He asked for a long time about his daughter and offered help in every possible way. I said that I haven’t needed anything from him for a long time, but if he closes the loan that I took out for tutors for my daughter (but I did it on a budget), then it would be nice of him.
He closed the loan on the same day!
When I told Alla about this, she replied that this often happens: after breaking sans-contact, former partners always show up. Wow, I didn’t even know!
In general, the cleansing got rid of my past relationships (and loans), and it’s time to attract new ones into my life. Alla Gromova recommended the practice of attracting a lover. We made it on the Summer Solstice in the most beautiful Place of Power. I asked the spirits to help me find my soulmate. And they helped!
I was returning from that seminar by train. I talked to my neighbor in the compartment. It turned out that he was also involved in spiritual practices and even attended a shamanic seminar in his city.
We immediately understood, although we were afraid to admit it, that our meeting was not accidental.
I call it a gift to the spirits and the Universe.
That's how I got married two years ago. This relationship is nothing like my first marriage: it is built on love, trust, and respect. Now, when they ask me how to get married after 40, I answer - go to shamanic seminars and never give up on yourself!”
