We answer awkward questions about engagement rings

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When preparing for a wedding, many sensitive issues arise that you could hardly predict. We have already written about how to avoid unnecessary gifts, how to respond to tactless remarks about a celebration, and how to defend your boundaries before the advice of relatives. Now we’ll talk about the nuances when choosing wedding rings, which take many brides by surprise.

“How much is it normal to spend on an engagement ring?”

There is only one correct answer here: exactly as much as you think is necessary. There are many rings on the market, so you only need to choose the one that suits your couple's style, budget and mood. For example, today it is possible to buy a laconic silver jewelry with gilding for up to 10 thousand rubles in a stylish jewelry store during an evening walk around the city. Or you can choose engagement rings with diamonds at Tiffany&Co with a glass of champagne. or order jewelry according to your individual design. In any case, both the budget and the selection process itself should be comfortable for you - this is very important.

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What should you never do with wedding rings?

You should not take off your wedding ring soon after the wedding ceremony is over, so as not to scare away luck and love from your family life together. Also try not to throw your treasured ring at your husband when you are angry with him, but handle your amulet carefully.

Never take your engagement ring to a pawn shop. Look for other ways to earn money that do not involve exchanging your family wealth for coins.

“There are so many pre-wedding worries that the purchase of rings was postponed until the last month. Will we be on time?

When the venue has not yet been booked and the menu has not been approved, you want to postpone a trip to the jewelry store - it seems that there are more urgent and important things to do. You may well postpone the purchase, but we strongly advise you to worry about the rings no later than a month before the celebration. Firstly, you have no idea how difficult it can be to find even the most classic and simple model, the ideal image of which has formed in your head. Secondly, many boutiques make wedding rings only to order, and the production time, as a rule, starts from 30 days.

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“Do wedding rings always have to be the same?”

Sometimes brides get upset when they notice that they and the groom like completely different rings, and they just can’t come to the same model. Yes, there is a certain tradition that wedding rings look identical, but you don’t have to follow it - it’s better to play it up in your own way! For example, make different rings with the same engravings on the inside. If you are going to wear jewelry every day, you should be one hundred percent happy with it, you should feel comfortable and good with it - and so should the groom.

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You should always wear a wedding ring when you are married. There can be no exceptions

Home/Articles/You should always wear a wedding ring when you are married. There can be no exceptions

The most tender and touching moment during a wedding is when a solemn voice sounds during registration: I ask the newlyweds to exchange wedding rings as a sign of fidelity and love... And at this moment, when the couple, worried, puts rings on each other, looks into each other’s eyes, and sometimes pronounces wedding vows out loud, everything changes.

Those couples who have been married for years, but have not acquired rings, are losing something extremely important to them. I even feel sorry for them, although they come up with excuses regularly, with imagination, and remain excuses.

It’s impossible to come up with an excuse not to wear a ring. This is extremely important for many reasons. And the first one is like this:

1. Status. The first thing people do when communicating is read the status of their interlocutors. This is true. After all, the position of the interlocutor leaves a certain imprint on both the style of communication with him and on their perception. Married people are perceived as more serious and trustworthy. And people who are known to be married, but without rings, are perceived as people who have something wrong in their personal lives. Perhaps they cannot establish relationships, or are ready to take their problems out in public, or perhaps they simply do not respect traditions enough. But a man who does not take off a ring for years, once he puts it on, commands respect as a devoted family man to his wife and simply a reliable person with whom you can do business.

2. A ring on your finger shows your spouse that you are serious about him. The ring is worn as a symbol of love, all-consuming, voluntary and sincere. It is important for both husband and wife to see them in their own hands, but even more important - in the hand of a loved one. Seeing rings is like knowing that the heart continues to beat in marriage, that the couple is together. Even if you need to separate for a short time, for example on a business trip, the first thing spouses ask each other is whether the ring remains in place?

3. Showing respect for your husband or wife. A marriage with love and passion, but without respect for the other, will not last long. It doesn't matter how many sweet words are whispered into your ears, what matters is what your actions are. Even if you don’t want to wear a ring, it’s important to your husband: is it difficult to wear it? This is a simple act, but one that speaks of sincere intentions, showing the value of the feelings of the other half.

But refusing to wear a ring in response to a request from a loved one is like a refusal to admit that he exists in life.

It hurts.

And offensive.

4. A wedding ring will protect you from casual relationships. Of course, whoever wants to change will change. But random playful thoughts still fly away from one glance at this thin piece of metal. And decent people in the search will immediately abandon playful plans when they see that the candidate is busy. The ring reduces temptation, which means the marriage has a better chance of surviving.

Even if the intention to go out has formed into a serious plan, the fuss alone: taking off the ring, hiding it, being afraid of losing it and forgetting to put it back on is already dampening. And the perception of the offense will be more serious if the matter goes far.

5. Children are watching. This is important to them: all the familiar symbols, as an indicator of established order and stability. Parents are together, married, the rings are in place - which means everything is fine. Everything is serious, neither mom nor dad are going anywhere. Children learn to be faithful and loving, just like mom and dad. Humanity, as a species, only learns from examples, so it is important to present a good one.

There's no reason to give up rings. Unless work requires taking it off sometimes, for example, for a cook, an electrician and a nurse. But we're not all chefs and we're not all nurses all the time.

It's so simple: put on and wear. Your loved one will be happy, proud and calm: what additional reasons are needed?

AlinaAuthor of the article

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Comments (28)

Tatyana July 24, 2020 at 5:38 am
-Where is your ring? -I didn’t get married to wear a ring! This is the truth. And what the author wrote is the thoughts of a complex person. Morality is in the head, and love is in the heart, not on the finger!
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Vera August 11, 2020 at 2:45 am
Tatyana, these are not the thoughts of a complex person. This custom is hundreds of years old. This is a ritual. The union of two loving hearts, forever and ever. And you got married to be with your wife until the end. In sorrow and joy. And when both people wear wedding rings, this is an act. And there is proof of love. This is the meaning behind them.
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Tima August 30, 2020 at 06:49 pm
Those. it is not necessary to support, look after, etc. main ring on the finger. Or does all this count when there is only a ring on your finger?
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Evgeniya Sep 1, 2020 at 4:58 am
The act is to cook broth at night so that you can bring it to the hospital in the morning. Get up two hours earlier so that you can take the car to the other end of the city to work. Yes, even holding your hair while vomiting from a binge is even an act. And demanding to wear a ring is a fucking bullshit
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Taras Today at 16:11
Rings are a fetish. You may or may not wear it. I only wore the ring at the wedding. Never wore it again. Yes, and it’s already small.
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Svetlana July 28, 2020 at 8:22 am
What nonsense... Neither I nor my husband wore rings for a single day. And when we moved, we lost them altogether. Married for 12 years.
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This is it July 28, 2020 at 10:09 am
Shit in the author’s head…..
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Muris July 29, 2020 at 10:52 am
Nonsense. What is the connection between rings and respect, love? My father never wore a ring, only my mother. And they lived for almost 60 years. My husband and I didn’t even buy them, I knew that he wouldn’t wear them anyway, and I generally don’t like wedding rings. And we’ve also been living for 20 years.
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Tatyana July 30, 2020 at 2:57 am
Does safety not count as an excuse? Surgeons should not wear rings; doctors should not wear them in general. The food industry also has requirements, and not only for rings. They even forced us to take off our earrings. God forbid the test, but you have carnations in your ears. Although maybe the author is right about something? Is it better to walk around without a finger that was torn off by a ring than without a ring?
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Anna August 1, 2020 at 02:01 pm
It seems to me that the author of the article really wants to explain to his spouse with this post that he should wear a ring. Guys, sort it out among yourselves. If you can’t agree on rings right after the wedding, then it’s a disaster. There will be more serious problems ahead.
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Kira August 1, 2020 at 03:13 pm
Probably, everyone puts their own meaning into any action, and in general we do a lot of things driven by some subconscious motives. In my first marriage, I didn't wear my wedding ring for long. My chosen one revealed himself and disappointed me. Formally, we remained married, but I did not feel protected, there was no shoulder nearby, no reliable hand, by holding which together we could master and overcome a lot. I realized that in life I would have to rely only on myself. I am my own wife and husband. And along with this, the desire to wear a wedding ring disappeared. Now I understand that this was an unconscious statement of my disappointment and loss of respect for the man in whom I was mistaken. And my husband lost his ring in the first year: he loved to twirl in his hands anything that was at hand. Our marriage was unsuccessful, although everyone considered us an ideal couple and envied our well-being. But we separated as soon as the child grew up and lived his own life. My second husband appeared in my life at a very mature age. He is the complete opposite of the first chosen one. And from the first moments of communication, I observed men’s actions. Most of the burdens of life were lifted from my shoulders. All issues were resolved easily and simply with this person. I learned what truly masculine care is. For three years I didn’t dare, or rather, I was afraid to formalize our relationship. I delayed it, moving the conversation to another topic. Every time he started talking about it, I was overcome with an inexplicable panic caused by the fear of making a decision and taking responsibility. It seemed safer to me in an open relationship - a syndrome formed in past painful relationships. And one day he acted in the genre of old traditions: in the morning at breakfast, he silently put a box with 2 wedding rings in front of me. My heart sank and suddenly my old fear disappeared somewhere. The husband just asked: “Yes?” And I nodded silently. There is probably something in the old traditions: some kind of secret and power accumulated over centuries that affects people in an inexplicable way. Now I wear my wedding ring with a warm feeling. I really like how it literally fused with my hand, because my husband and I fused together. We are not so young, we have already entered a time of loss, and in a short period we have experienced and overcome a lot together. My husband also never takes off the ring, which has lost its original shine a little from constant wear. But that’s not the point. This is more than a piece of jewelry. In general, traditions are wonderful.
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Raspberry August 8, 2020 at 09:12 pm
My husband does not have a ring finger on his right hand. Isn't that a reason too?
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Nata August 8, 2020 at 10:08 pm
And I know people who wear these rings and live like two dogs, scratching every day, but my husband and I were asked, how can this be?! Why don't you wear it? Scribe... And we have been living in perfect harmony for more than 10 years, unlike them, and everything is fine with us. We wore the rings for a couple of years, then my husband lost them altogether, we decided not to buy him a new one, I sent mine for melting down and made earrings. So what? This does not in any way interfere with our very strong and happy marriage.
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Lu August 8, 2020 at 10:25 pm
I’ve never read more nonsense on the Internet... I’ve been married for 15 years, the rings were worn only for the first month, then I took them off, I can’t stand any jewelry on my hands, and my husband took them off after half a year, I don’t know why, it means he wanted it that way. We live in harmony and love for each other, happy without rings)) These are just rings, they don’t carry any meaning and certainly don’t mean anything to a couple, I didn’t even think that someone would bother with it so much...
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Elena August 9, 2020 at 9:34 am
Thank you for the article, author. Married for 20 years, I suffered a lot from my husband, he cheated on me all the time. I was the only one wearing the ring. After his next spree, I set the condition: either wear it or run away. I bought a signet, not a wedding band, wore it for two days and took it off. And again on a spree.
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Alexey 10 Aug 2020 at 14:46
Is the author generally in her senses or has she completely gone crazy in her own little ways? A ring is a piece of metal. If everything is bad, it will not save you in any way; if everything is good, its absence will not be a hindrance.
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Anna August 11, 2020 at 3:45 am
On the street, the ring must be removed. And the robbers killed for less!
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Zhuli4ka 17 Aug 2020 at 10:39
28 years ago there was a wedding, only I wear the ring, my husband, working as a foreman at a construction site, jumped off a truck and got his ring caught on the side, 10 years ago he had surgery on his finger, the tendon was cut because it had grown and the finger could not bend. My husband has both old rings; they wanted to make one out of 2
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Katerina August 19, 2020 at 01:38 pm
I absolutely agree with every word of the author!!!
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Svetlana August 23, 2020 at 04:22 pm
Married for 20 years, my husband and I wore rings for two months after the wedding. I almost lost mine - well, I don’t wear rings, my fingers don’t fit), but for safety reasons he’s not supposed to. Nobody walks, we live in peace, ... and I myself rarely pay attention to the presence of a wedding ring on someone’s fingers.
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Elena August 24, 2020 at 06:45 pm
Bullshit. Some people wear rings and get divorced, while others live their whole lives without them. We have been married for 25 years and have not worn rings.
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Yana Sep 1, 2020 at 07:25 pm
It seems that the author is one of those girls who run to get married the fastest and then wave the ring in front of their interlocutor’s nose.. Dear girls, you can wear at least 10 rings on your finger and have a husband - a cable, and not a family, but a ruin... Happiness not in the ring, but in the heart and head
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Ekaterina Sep 5, 2020 at 11:04 am
I won't take off the ring!
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Deceived 5 Sep 2020 at 11:51
We don’t wear rings, we didn’t have a wedding so that everyone would die of envy, we live for each other, and don’t poke rings in everyone’s nose
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“Who pays for wedding rings?”

And this question often arises, especially if you and your fiancé do not maintain a joint budget and share expenses during preparation. Here, too, do what you think is more convenient and harmonious in your couple. Many modern brides and grooms buy their own rings, especially if they are slightly different in design. It happens that parents take on this expense - and then the rings become their wedding gift.

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Who wears a wedding ring outside of marriage?

A recent divorce or death of a spouse is a big stressor. Some women are not ready for a new relationship. They do not part with the ring, subconsciously not letting go of the deceased. For everyone, a ring is a sign that a person is busy. And in this way a woman or man protects himself from unwanted relationships.

Civil marriage. The reasons why registration of relationships and marriages are not formalized are different for everyone. However, as a symbol of a strong union, people living in civil marriages also wear rings.

The main thing to remember is that a wedding ring is a symbol of marriage, and not just a decoration on your hand. You need to treat it with care, sometimes remove it from your finger to clean it. And in some places you shouldn’t take it at all - swimming pool, sauna, hiking, where it’s easy to lose it.

Many people wear their wedding rings before marriage and are happy. Therefore, whether or not your couple can wear rings is up to you to decide.

“Does the ring need to be looked after somehow?”

As a rule, no special care is required - the decoration, of course, is a fragile thing, but it is not a pet or a flower. Most often, it is recommended to remove rings before showering, playing sports, or cleaning with chemical cleaning agents. If possible, do not remove the ring when washing your hands in a public restroom - there is a high risk that the jewelry may fall into the sink and be lost there forever. For your peace of mind, you can show the ring to a jeweler once a year: he can clean it and identify some minor defects, such as a loose stone, and fix everything.

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“What should I do if I don’t like the ring?”

It’s nice to play up this situation and choose new rings, for example, for a wedding anniversary. You can renew your vows at the same time!

@skyvory.ru