How to understand that a guy wants to propose marriage
Most modern couples really want to get married, so every girl can recognize the symptoms of this desire. Believe me, every guy has the idea of quickly starting a family marriage and having children over time, and when a lover has such a desire, you can immediately find out about it based on a number of factors. To assess serious intentions and understand that a guy wants to propose, listen to his speech: it will be a little different, more mysterious, as if it contains a secret that is about to be revealed. And the other half must definitely have a desire to settle down. That is, you no longer want to run around to parties and change women, there is a desire to move to a new, more stable stage - marriage.
Another precise factor that indicates that they will soon propose marriage is the emergence of a young man’s desire to spend his life with you, because he can no longer live without you separately, and any evening spent apart seems like an eternity. So you can safely check your loved one to see if they miss you in the evenings and at night. Remember, an accurate test of feelings is separation for a while, while you are far from each other, waiting for a meeting will begin to bring pain, it is in this case that he will not be able to live without you and will propose marriage. Another clear sign that you will get married is the adoration of all your quirks and disadvantages, which would have irritated you earlier, but have now become to your heart’s content. The attitude towards mom and dad (future mother-in-law and father-in-law) will also say a lot: if they are trusting, friendly (for example, your beloved began to go to football and fishing with your father, or often comes to your house and happily chats with his parents over cup of tea), then expect a marriage proposal soon.
If you have doubts and don’t know how to understand that a guy wants to propose, be sure to check the feeling of unity with the family; if there is such a feeling, then close to marriage. To do this, you can walk together in places where newlyweds often visit, but this does not mean that you need to run to the registry office, it is enough to visit cultural sites where many lovers walk and newlyweds often take pictures. There are such places in every city. During such a walk, try to find out the attitude of your sweetheart towards the newlyweds passing by, whether he is happy for them, whether he wants to be in the place of the groom. If all the answers are in favor of the wedding, get ready for the wedding, my dear is determined.
If you still don’t know how to understand that a guy wants to get married, take a closer look at your loved one’s expenses; perhaps he has begun to spend his money more rationally. In this case, the reason for this situation may be preparation for the wedding, because the event itself is not cheap and you will have to fork out a lot.
One of the main signs of a future wedding is that the beloved begins to often talk about his career, so the stronger sex is trying to grow in your eyes and hints that he will be able to support his wife and children.
Take a closer look to see if the man has become more frequent in the kitchen, has he begun to help with household chores more than usual? If YES, the darling is thinking about marriage and has even become a cook, although he had never approached the stove before. Well, if your future husband more often begins to imagine himself in the role of a father and talk about how you will walk in the park with your children and how great it would be, then your loved one definitely wants to marry you.
How to understand that a guy wants a serious, sincere relationship
Both men and women strive for a reliable union in approximately the same way, although each person's goals may differ. Men in most cases may only want an easy relationship without vows and complex obligations. In most cases, “this type” of the stronger sex will prefer to “play” with his beloved. So get ready for an inevitable crisis in your relationship. Every woman should know how to understand that a guy wants a serious relationship in order to avoid further disappointments in her life. If the only one is often interested in the affairs of his betrothed, tries to help with various advice and shows concern, then his aspirations are sincere. Another sure sign is interest in weddings, frequent and varied gifts and flowers.
Remember that real feelings leading to marriage are when a person strives to be with a woman for as long as possible and is interested in hearing about her childhood, memories, and wants to spend more free time together. Take a closer look, does your loved one enjoy laughing and being sad with you, does he always make gifts and give flowers, without boasting about the high cost of the gift, does he come to your aid in a difficult situation? If YES, then the wedding will be soon, especially if the chosen one began to talk more often with the relatives of his future wife and is very interested in communicating. Be sure to invite him to the holidays, and if the future groom makes excuses, then he is not sincere and here you can definitely understand that the guy does not want a serious relationship.
A young man who is serious about a strong union should call on the phone more often, because this indicates that he is thinking about only one thing, that is, to hear your sweet voice as soon as possible, so he will definitely invite you to see him, because he misses you very much. In addition, he should regularly and daily send various messages with cute images, unique, numerous different phrases with declarations of feelings. This may sometimes even seem stupid, although it brings them joy and bright warmth. If the feelings are serious, then this will be immediately visible in the conversation, because a lover should treat his girlfriend as a loved one.
If you don’t know how to understand that he wants to get married, look for the answer in a conversation: if he says the phrase WE in a conversation, then this is a very good signal. Try to see if he can change his usual plans for the sake of you; if you are very important to this person, he will easily change his plans for the meeting. Try to find out his aspirations and thoughts: whether he will be happy to talk about a future together, whether he is pleased to be with you around the clock or not yet. If you don’t yet know how to understand that a guy wants to date, then talk to him about sharing a big house, try together to mentally imagine a life together, distribute responsibilities, talk about children and methods of raising them. If the conversation goes well, interestingly, sincerely, then you have found a person suitable for life together.
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In some cases, men can use a similar technique to break up with their partner. In our society, proposing marriage and then refusing your proposal is insulting to the second partner, and very often the couple breaks up after that. This method of separation is definitely difficult to call normal, since it essentially involves shifting responsibility to the other side and, practically, self-humiliation, because in this way you can get anger, hatred and insults from both the partner and society. A normal and healthy way to break up is a normal human conversation from the perspective of two adults. “You know, I want to break up with you” - more often than not, this is exactly what will be correct. By the way, this is a healthier conversation starter compared to “You know, I think we should break up” or “You know, we should break up.” This means that speaking for yourself “I want”, “I think”, “I feel” and so on is a more mature and responsible position compared to pseudo-expressing one’s desires. The opposite party may not be aware of the subtleties of verbal games, but subconsciously feel hidden uncertainty in the partner’s words, the possibility of returning everything and that options are possible - most people feel one way or another.
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Therefore, a clear expression of one’s desires excluding duality, tripartiteness, etc. interpretation is the guarantee of fulfillment of these very desires. Otherwise, it can turn out to be extremely muddy games. Look here, for example. The young man says: “It seems to me that we need to break up.” At the same time, he does not express a firm conviction that he wants this. That is, it seems like if anyone wants, then, most likely, it’s not even him, or not really him, but they (and again not him) are directly forced and forced to part (directly forced to peace) by certain forces beyond the control , as this vague statement of weak human will implies.
Next, with a high degree of probability, the girl will make a retaliatory move, in which she will be absolutely sure that the dark forces can be easily dispersed with a wet towel and give the relationship the same intensity and dynamism. Thus, she takes responsibility upon herself. At the same time, the young man in the future may whine about the fact that his opinion was not taken into account, that he is tyrannized and used, not allowed to breathe, and that in general he simply hates his beloved betrothed with all his big heart. Can we assume that this whole performance was started so that the young man would have a reason to be regularly angry with his other half? Of course we can. Moreover, this is likely to be true (although it may not be true). The question arises - why should he be angry? There are options.
For example, he has a hard time making decisions (a common problem), but he lives in the illusion that he can make decisions (much like a smoker - I’ll finish smoking and quit) and he needs an object to attribute his failures to. But this is only an option, albeit a valid one. Why is this all so? But because that’s how his psyche was formed. Can this be changed? If you wish, of course, you can - psychology actively works with such situations. But where to start? After all, sorry, the young man in these circumstances does not blow the same trumpet, he has a lady who, either through misunderstanding or oversight or is used to it, but finds herself involved in this unplayed orchestra. And, to some extent, supports this whole attraction. However, why until some? There are a huge number of cases when both partners participate in such entertainment on equal terms. So, the question of who to start with often has an answer in the same place as the question.
How do you know that your loved one is preparing to propose to you?
You've been dating for a while now and things are going great for you. It's only natural that a happy relationship makes you wonder if your partner is ready for marriage. Perhaps you're already waiting for him to propose, and friends and family assure you that you won't be without a ring for long.
Of course, it's best not to think about it too much and not attach importance to every little detail - if you try to analyze everything, you may be disappointed. However, if you still can't resist, you should know the signs that indicate that a man is ready to ask you an important question. By paying attention to these details of behavior, you can draw a certain conclusion.
He suddenly became interested in your jewelry
It doesn’t matter whether you wear affordable jewelry or a family ring, most likely, your man has not shown much interest in the jewelry on your fingers before, except for the occasional compliment.
If suddenly he starts asking about what style you prefer, what rings you like best, what size you are, you can assume that there is a simple explanation for all this: after all, you can’t buy a ring without knowing which one will suit you better!
He is in control of his finances
Wedding rings are quite expensive. Many can be purchased on credit or in installments, but you will need to plan ahead. In addition, if you agree, you will need to celebrate the wedding, which will also require expenses. If your man has started saving and suggests spending the evening at home instead of a restaurant, he may be trying to save up for something really important. Don't start asking questions and pressuring if you don't want to ruin your pleasant moment. In the end, even if at the moment saving is explained by other motives, it is in any case good, responsible behavior that should not attract attention.
He communicates with your friends and relatives
Every girl wants her lover to get along with her friends and relatives. If everything goes well, joint meetings are easy and enjoyable. However, if you suddenly notice that your chosen one communicates with your loved ones more often than usual, but does not share the details of the conversations with you, he probably asked them for help with the proposal and wants to arrange a surprise for you! Don’t try to find out everything from your loved ones if you don’t want to undermine the trust of your chosen one; he is preparing something special for you and probably wants everything to go perfectly.
He spends less time with friends
When we first meet someone, they usually have an established routine of going out with friends. Maybe it's poker once a week, working out together, or going to football games. This is all quite normal. If your partner suddenly starts going out with friends less often, don't worry that something is wrong. It is likely that he was simply tired of his bachelor lifestyle. He simply prefers to spend more time with you, getting ready to settle down and move to the next level of the relationship. He may not have started thinking about marriage yet, but soon this decision will come to his mind, so behave naturally and do not try to rush things.
He talks to you about the future
Whether he's discussing travel plans with you or just wants to buy a new car, just pay attention to the words he uses. Does he only talk about his own interests or does he mention you too? This slight change in the choice of words may indicate that he is psychologically ready for an alliance with you. Pay attention to how often he says “we”: if he includes you in his plans, he imagines you next to him in the future. All this may well lead to a proposal in the future.
He discusses children with you
During the relaxed stage of dating, if children are mentioned, it is unlikely to be serious. Typically, people who have recently started a relationship try to avoid such a topic so as not to scare off their partner. If your chosen one has started discussing this topic with you, wants to know if you are planning children and how many, he has probably begun to take your relationship more seriously. The issue of children is a major topic to talk about before you get married, so bringing these up in your conversations could be a sign that a proposal is on the way. If your chosen one did not want to start a family with you, he would hardly be too interested in your attitude towards children.
He doesn't let you into certain places in the house.
If you notice that his desk drawer suddenly becomes locked or you've been told not to open his closet, your crush may simply not be doing a very good job of surprising you. In fact, there can be many reasons, so you shouldn’t give in to your wildest hopes. However, if your partner is usually not very secretive, he is most likely trying to hide his engagement ring from you and waiting for the right moment. Don't ask direct questions - this will only make the awkwardness even more obvious. Let your chosen one keep his secrets.
All his friends are married or engaged
It's amazing how at one point all friends turn from young and carefree into adults, settled and married. It seems to happen instantly! If all of your partner's friends are engaged or married, it's likely that he's feeling some pressure. It goes without saying that the proposal in this case will be the result of some kind of compulsion to fit into the team. This is simply a sign that you have reached a certain stage in the relationship and it is time for you to decide on the next step. Be ready! It is likely that soon the happy example of those around you will inspire your partner and he will also want to start a family with you.
Everyone around is acting strange
If all your family and friends suddenly start acting secretive and strange, they are probably trying to hide something from you. You will quickly understand whether it is a terrible secret or a pleasant one. If secretive people still smile, they probably know you're in for an amazing surprise.
If you realize that a proposal is about to happen, stay calm and don't rush things. Don't try to find out more details or spoil the surprise. Your chosen one has probably put a lot of effort into preparing this moment for you, so let him do everything as he intended. It will also be more pleasant for you to remember this moment later if it is unexpected than to know that you yourself ruined the romance.
Don't push
Many men and women want to start a family. This is absolutely normal if this desire does not spoil the pleasure of the relationship. You shouldn’t rush and create unnecessary pressure on your chosen one. If you realize that you have different views on relationships, try to discuss this situation. If your chosen one does not have marriage in his plans, you need to respect his decision.
Insulting someone and insisting on getting married is not the path to happiness, so don't even try. If a person does not feel the desire to tie the knot with you, most likely, your union will be doomed. Remember that marriage comes with a lot of changes - you will have joint bank accounts and many affairs, and then common children. In order for a union to last for many years and be truly happy, it must have a good foundation. Let it begin with an amazing proposal moment! Believe me, this is something worth the wait!
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Revenge is banal, but possible
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Further, a motive of revenge cannot be ruled out. It has many similarities with the previous paragraph, but is worthy of personal notes. In fact, the basis for refusing your marriage proposal may be banal revenge. Unfortunately, this is rarely revenge for some injustice committed by a partner earlier. Unfortunately - because then it would at least be clear to both. More often, this is revenge for a completely unobvious chain of events, which leads to such an unpleasant result. In other words, the young man himself is not always able to clearly explain what it was and why his form of response seems adequate only for himself.
Anatomy of betrayal
You can take revenge for anything - for example, a girl showed too much initiative, and the young man followed the lead; or, for example, a girl often humiliated and insulted a young man who endured all her bullying. And in this vein, there are quite a lot of scenarios for which a young man, on occasion, will a) take revenge and b) take revenge with interest. Of course, such a scenario cannot be called normal. If someone is not happy with something in their family life, then they need to solve problems as they arise and not allow them to build up so that one day they can strike back a crushing blow, and when the second partner most likely does not even understand where such a mountain of discontent came from in the first place. After all, before this everything seemed to be normal - they lived, cursed like everyone else, but then it turns out...
