There is no need to train a man, he needs to be raised correctly

The Wire-haired Drahthaar is a smart, courageous, hard-working German pointer, with which they hunt small and large game and waterfowl. The dog is selflessly devoted to its owner, treats family members loyally, is careful with strangers, but does not show aggression. Training Drahthaar dogs is not difficult - they are receptive to learning and remember lessons well.

We rely on male instincts

What strings will a woman pull to get what she wants from a man?

Sexual instinct is the need for sex. A man wants sex with an interesting and sexy woman. A sexy woman is one who loves sex. If a man says that sex is not important, he is either impotent or trying to lull your guard. Control a man with sex. Do not impose too strict a taboo, otherwise the man will find himself a mistress.
Self-preservation instinct - a man does not seek to get married, does not risk his life or health. You can blackmail a man with his health.
Hierarchical instinct is a competitive instinct with other men. Wants to be stronger and more worthy than others, successful, have status in society, loved. This instinct is just as important as the sexual one. Men are ready to break their necks to prove their “coolness”.

If a woman directly tries to command a man, he will lose himself as a man if he submits. He becomes a “rag” and henpecked. Therefore, the control must be hidden so that the man does not have to guess about anything.

A woman should refuse reproaches and advice when managing a man. Instead, we play on a man’s instincts.

Coping with difficulties

Change your behavior with a man. Learn to give the choice to a man who will always work for you.

In order for a man to trust you better, it is important not to ignore the difficulties he has encountered (not to say that he will cope with them easily). By doing so, the man sees that you are belittling his abilities when he is trying to fight real difficulties. He thinks that he will overcome all these difficulties, all his actions will be “down the drain”, because women consider them “ridiculous”. Conclusion : accept that there are serious problems, but always want the man to cope with them.

When a woman shares her experiences with a man, and he says, “Never mind, it’s all nonsense.” Those. your experiences and feelings are devalued. What should I do?

Tell a man that you are hurt.
Tell him “It is important for me that you listen to my experiences, how I feel.”
Tell the man “I love you and I really want this situation to be resolved.”

Women's complaints about men (when she tries to control them)

“He never talks to me heart to heart, doesn’t share his feelings.”
“The issue of our relations comes last. It seems like I’m the only one who needs it.”
“Why is a man so limited? He thinks about sex, food and how to sleep. He’s not interested in anything else.”

Dear women, your complaints are not always justified. Why?

Often a man’s feelings are visible in his voice, intonation, and facial expressions.
A man is no less concerned about relationship issues. He's just trying to put on a face like he doesn't care. But that's not true.
A man is not limited. He just doesn't know how to speak normally (like most men).

L. Makarova - Secrets of training men

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D. V. Grishina, L. G. Makarova

Secrets of training men

Introduction

Men are so different from women that it seems as if they are a completely different species. They think differently, often do not pay attention to very important little things, but they can think for a long time about some completely useless problem. They love us, look after us, become attached, but for some reason they resist in every possible way to staying and living next to us. Contradictory creatures, aren't they? However, there is a great way to deal with this problem. And this method is training!

Sound scary? But watch men, and you will probably find something in common in their behavior with the way dogs behave. Who cannot cook their own food and is able to remain hungry for several hours and wait for a woman to come and feed? Who is capable of occupying a sofa for hours, ignoring any of your attempts to sit next to them? Who carefully guards their favorite toys, who never puts things away after themselves, who litters terribly while eating? Can you understand who I'm asking about? Did you feel the similarity? Then continue reading and you will learn how to raise a male pet.

Chapter 1. Introduction to Psychology

What will help in training

When training a man, an individual approach is very important. In order to correctly analyze the behavior of your chosen one, it is necessary to take into account his state of health, age, his past (if the chosen one is young, his upbringing), the prevailing reaction of behavior, characteristics of the type of nervous system, physical activity, natural habits, habits and, in accordance with this, determine the training method .

Men can be trained at a young age (up to 30 years). They are very sensitive to stimuli, especially emotional ones. They should be trained gradually, strictly following tactics; for this purpose, it is good to use the imitative method (i.e., visual examples). In men of later age (over 30 years old), new skills are more difficult to develop. They have already developed undesirable manners (habits), bad habits that interfere with training. Moreover, in the case of improper upbringing, negative behavioral traits in such representatives of the stronger sex, which are more difficult to correct at this age, can only take root.

Training is facilitated by correct consideration of the predominant behavioral response.

If “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” this means that the food reaction predominates, and when developing the skills you desire, you should use mainly taste stimuli.

If your “pet” has a passive-defensive reaction, you need to carefully and skillfully develop his courage, select a calm or distracting environment to solve this problem (outings into nature, country house, resort). When training an excitable type of nervous system (choleric), you need to carefully and gradually develop inhibitory skills (control, the ability to differentiate concepts), since overexertion can lead to neurosis. When developing positive reflexes, such men show great abilities (that is, they are plasticine chatters). Males of the active type (sanguine) are easily trained using conventional methods. In men of the inert type (phlegmatic), new habits, i.e. changes in nature, are developed slowly.

It is not advisable to train people who are inactive (due to circumstances). A partner with a weak type of nervous system should be tamed carefully and not give him a lot of nervous stress. A person with a sharp manifestation of weakness of nervous processes is not suitable for training.

Therefore, it is necessary to know about the health of your patient’s nervous system.

General errors usually lead to the occurrence of several unwanted reflexes at once. For example, excessive “pulling of the leash” can lead to a reflex of fear in the trainer... This reflex is a change in the direction of movement, regardless of the direction along the trail. In other words, the man will lie, dodge, and cover his tracks. Another common mistake is misinterpretation of the motivation for a man’s actions. Many women try to analyze the behavior of their pets from their own point of view, but in fact, the psychology of men is completely different.

Success in training a man can be achieved through systematic, persistent, pre-planned and creative work.

In the process of general training, techniques are developed that subjugate a man to you.

The development of skills included in general training is based on both the processes of excitation of the nervous system and the processes of inhibition. The complex of all general training techniques establishes in the “pet’s” nervous system the necessary relationship between the processes of excitation and inhibition, which ensures the reliability and clarity of its behavior towards you.

Techniques for general and special training of men should be practiced in such a sequence that best ensures effectiveness in achieving the final goal.

The method of training men is based on a number of principles:

1) the first lessons should be conducted in such a way as to quickly establish the correct relationship between the trainer and the “pet”;

2) practicing techniques and exercises should be carried out from simple to complex, from easy to difficult;

3) adherence to strict consistency in developing the desired, i.e., the emergence of initial skills as the basis for developing subsequent ones;

4) practicing a new technique should be carried out at the beginning of your communication, while the man is sufficiently obedient, or in the first half of the day, when he is not yet tired;

5) the duration of training should be increased gradually;

6) the trainer must constantly take into account both external conditions (terrain, nationality, weather) and internal conditions (hunger, satiety, mood, health);

7) before you start training, you must firmly decide what you want to achieve and in what ways you will achieve your goals. Before you start working on any skill, you need to clearly imagine all the elements and stages of its development in accordance with the diagram:

– purpose of the skill;

– conditioned and unconditioned stimuli used in its development;

– methodology and technique for developing skills in stages;

– the standard of the skill developed (what your companion must do);

– possible errors in the process of “creating” a skill.

Of course, you can say that you lack scrupulousness and endurance. Well, it's up to you. But first you need to weigh everything.

If you are a happy owner of such qualities as perseverance and determination, and provided you love your spouse, you can count on success. But while training a man, a woman must simultaneously work on herself, that is, be calm and balanced. Patience and observation will allow you to study your soul mate astutely. And only when all the features of his psychology are understood, you will be able to select individual methods of influence.

Achieving positive results depends not only on you, but also on the subject being trained, the type of his behavior and on certain innate and acquired personal inclinations.

At first, you should remember that you can start training a man only if he is already accustomed to you (maybe not yet, but already one of his own). At the initial stage of a relationship, one must adhere to the following principle: at the right time, in the right place, with the right person... The right trainer and her ward develop a trusting attitude towards each other and mutual affection. Without strong contact on both sides, successful training is impossible. At a young age, all these activities are carried out much easier. When you take on the task of training an unfamiliar mature man, establishing the correct contact between you largely depends on the first meeting. Therefore, try to first collect as complete information as possible about this man.

When you first approach him, you need to show determination, calmly react to any actions of the gentleman, and not behave extraordinary: too strictly or, conversely, affectionately. It is better if the first meeting occurs when the man is alone, that is, he does not have anyone “on a leash.” At the beginning of the acquaintance, the partner is especially attentive to all the actions of the trainer, so during this period, thoroughly calculate all your actions. In addition, it is necessary to spend as much time as possible with the object. If the approach to him turned out to be correct, then over time trust and affection will arise between you.

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Male learning ability test

Ask your man to call/remind you to do something important at a certain time (for example, call your mom at 7 o'clock). Conclusion : we will find out whether he is oriented in time, and whether we can count on him. If he doesn't do this, indicate to him that this is important to you. If there is no result, repeat the exercise.
Ask him to come to some place (for example, let's go to Ikea this weekend).
Energeticly talk/ask a man to do something (let's go pick out tiles for the bathroom).

This test reveals a man’s ability to navigate time, space and fulfill a woman’s requests.

This test allows you to look at the strengths and weaknesses of a man. And improve where everything is bad.

Training at home

Where to start training a puppy

As soon as a small and touching fluffy ball appears in the house, it needs to be raised from the first day.

They start by getting to know the territory. The baby needs to explore the entire apartment, understand that it is safe and adapted to life. Give him a place to rest and sleep. A place to eat. As soon as you get used to it, we immediately begin to teach.

Important: The best time to learn new knowledge and skills is 3-7 months. A dog trained at this time remembers commands for life. In a calm environment, play with your baby, let him run around and get hungry. Relieve yourself. After this, he begins training.

The first thing they teach is a collar and leash. It is better to use soft leather or nylon.

Once the puppy is used to them and does not resist, take the treat and go.

A delicacy is something tasty and unusual. Regular food or food from the owner's table will not do. Use pieces of cheese, boiled meat, and savory cookies. Industrial treats - supplements, vitamins, various dog biscuits or chocolate. You will find a huge selection in any store. The main thing is that it is useful and small. And don’t abuse the quantity; for a completed trick or command, 1-2 pieces and that’s it.

Training methods

Guidance. You kind of guide your pet to the desired action with the help of a treat, following it.
Pushing. With the help of hands or a leash, the dog is pushed into action, causing uncomfortable sensations.

It is important to immediately stop the discomfort after performing it and treat it with a treat.

Soon the dog will understand what they want from him.
Passive inflection. Not suitable for everyone. The pet is artificially given the desired pose, accompanied by a voice command.
Behavior selection. The animal randomly performs the action, the owner speaks a command and then a treat. For example, the Dog just sat down, you tell him to sit and reward him.
Strengthening a behavioral trait is a method for adult dogs for retraining. They reward for the more correct option, gradually bringing it to the desired level.
Simplification of the behavioral act. Of a series of actions, only one element is reinforced.
Alternative behavior. With the help of various devices, they make sure that the dog has only one correct way of acting.
Play behavior. They use the need to play or the instincts of the animal. Suitable for young dogs.
Way of imitation. Observing and repeating the action of an obedient dog. Suitable for training puppies.
Defensive behavior. With the help of pain, they are forced to perform the desired action. Not recommended for beginners.
Aggressive-defensive behavior. For professionals.

Dog training should be systematic. The best thing to do is make a plan and stick to it. Follow training guidelines for your breed.

How to teach basic commands

Some recommendations on how to teach your pet to follow commands. Always say the command once, if you didn’t listen, it means you didn’t complete it, try again.

A name is certainly not a command. But it is important that the dog knows its name and responds to it. The easiest way is to call the dog's name before feeding, during any pleasant actions, such as stroking.

To me - also combine with feeding. And when your pet comes to you, tell me and reward me.

Nearby - pronounced when the pet is nearby. When walking on a leash, if the dog walks nearby, say a command in a calm voice; if it starts to break, first make it come closer, and then say the command, it is important not to do the opposite, then you will get a strong association: pulling the leash and saying next.

You can’t (Ugh) use negative reinforcement, put a treat in front of the dog, and say a command, when he tries to take a treat, lightly slap him on the face, teach him until he completely ignores the treat until your permission.

Sit - a treat is raised above the dog’s head so that it raises its head, a command is said and light pressure is applied to the croup so that the dog sits. In the future, you can replace it with a gesture.

Lie down - the treat is lowered down, a command is said and pressed to the ground, not too much.

Place - when the dog comes to its place on its own, say the command and give a treat. Repeat the command after a certain place and when you try to leave it, you can slap the dog lightly or snap the leash. The dog stayed in place, encourage him.

A beginner should choose a breed that is obedient and quick to train.

We fight bad habits in men

First step . Talk about the action (bad habit), and not about the man as a bad, weak-willed person. For example, “I’m very upset that you drink/smoke,” “You smoke, your health worries me.” Those. action and designation of negativity to you.

Second step . Suggestion - you talk about the good that will happen if he restrains himself. For example, “when you’ve been holding back all day, I’ll give you a massage in the evening.” Conclusion: indicate what he will receive if he behaves “correctly”.

Third step . Show him encouragement that he will like it. For example, sex, fishing or hunting, do not pull him while he is watching TV.

Show him an example of how a strong man behaves with a woman.