For your information, laziness can manifest itself in a child from birth. Many scientists even talk about its genetic origin. By instinct, a newborn is supposed to scream to let him know that he is hungry or wet. But some babies (of course, there are few of them) show passivity. They remain silent, and as a result they lose weight and become weak. And these are already signs of the disease.
With age, laziness manifests itself in the reluctance to perform basic self-care activities: sit on the potty, get dressed, put away toys. When entering school, it grows into a serious problem - reluctance to learn.
Lack of clear motivation is laziness.
Sometimes even an adult does not always understand why he is doing something. A child, in the absence of life experience and the need to make independent decisions, does not at all understand the real goals of what adults ask or demand of him.
Also, children's laziness can be caused by a natural instinct of self-preservation, a subconscious need to save energy. If a child is tired or sick, he will not run, jump, or play. For many parents, this behavior is a signal to action.
Social laziness is common in schools. A child who is active at home hides in class and tries to behave unnoticed. He doesn't violate discipline, but he doesn't do much of what other children do. He just quietly withdraws from public activities. The teachers don't scold him because there's no reason to. But one day he may show himself in a completely unexpected way. Dual behavior is often dangerous.
In most cases, children's laziness develops from the incorrect behavior of adults.
In the family - from excessive care on the part of parents, in kindergartens and schools - from the passivity of teachers. Most often, idleness affects those children in whom they did not believe, their freedom and independence were limited.
How to deal with childhood laziness?
- The true hard work of both parents will show the child that it is impossible to remain idle all the time. If, for example, dad works from morning to evening, and mom chats on the phone and lies on the couch (or vice versa), proper upbringing will not work.
- Involvement in joint activities is a good way to develop a hardworking and responsible individual. Asking for help gives the child confidence that he is needed and useful to the family or other adults.
- Independent execution of assigned tasks develops not only hard work, but also ingenuity and the ability to make decisions. Parents must show tact and patience. After all, the child has no experience, which means he has the right to make mistakes. The adult’s task is to suggest and show what should be done in order to get a good result.
- Encouragement and praise for any type of activity from a very young age. Every person should have an incentive. The child definitely needs it. But in this situation, it is important to avoid blackmail: “You won’t go for a walk until you do this.”
- Any business should bring pleasure. If a child does not yet understand how he benefits from the work he does, but sees how adults are happy, he feels satisfied with himself.
Raising a hardworking person is not easy. But adults, that’s why they are adults, is to help the child not become a drone, a burden for the family and society.
“How to deal with childhood laziness?” Consultation for parents
Svetlana Aleksandrovna Mazhova
“How to deal with childhood laziness?” Consultation for parents
If your child is lazy, you should think about how to correct the situation.
Don't forget that children absorb everything their parents , so first of all take a closer look at your own behavior. If instead of cooking dinner, you order pizza at home, leave dirty dishes in the sink overnight, and replace an evening walk with “sitting around”
at the computer or watching TV, and instead of morning exercises, lie in bed for an extra twenty minutes - the child is simply following your example! You need to change your own behavior so that your baby looks up to you.
Encourage your child's independence and remember that excessive care only harms him. Nothing bad will happen if your child doesn’t sweep the floor as cleanly as you would, or breaks one cup from the set while arranging them in the sideboard. This is not a problem or a tragedy!
Do not punish with forced labor ( “For disobedience, you will wash the dishes today!”
,
“If you haven’t done your homework, go clean your room!”
).
Such penalties will cause the child to have an aversion to any work and an absolute reluctance to work. And reluctance to work, in turn, will give rise to laziness .
Give your child small tasks more often, just do it not in an orderly tone, but in the form of a request. This way your baby will feel that you trust him - this will increase his self-esteem. Don’t swear if something doesn’t work out the first time; it’s better to explain in a calm and friendly tone how everything can be fixed.
Make a schedule of household chores for all family members and teach your child to stick to it, assign him several feasible activities. But don’t forget to follow the schedule yourself! Otherwise, while watching you, the baby will one day say that he doesn’t want to put away the toys today and will do it tomorrow because he’s tired.
Monitor your child's routine. Remember that in addition to homework and doing errands around the house, he should walk, play and get proper rest (however, pay attention so that the child does not abuse such “lazy”
leisure activities such as watching TV and spending time at the computer). If a child’s sleep, rest and work patterns are constantly changing, then his biorhythms are also disrupted, and this provokes health problems and the appearance of a bad mood.
Always encourage your child to help you. Remember that laziness develops precisely when you forbid him to do something. Do household chores with your child, come up with a game form for ordinary tasks and do not forget to always praise him for his help.
