Only 30% of women always achieve orgasm: how to become one of them

Delaying pleasure until the last minute

The anticipation of sex is an exciting moment for both guys and girls. When partners know that a “night of love” awaits them today, their excitement grows as they approach the long-awaited event. You can make the anticipation even more exciting by giving your partner various sexual signals throughout the day. It can be:

SMS of an erotic nature;
calls with hints about what awaits the man upon arrival from work;
voicing your own sexual fantasies;
photographs of intimate content (for example, in a translucent top).

Exotic technique of achieving orgasm: elements of Tantric sex

Having sex is an exchange of feminine and masculine energies, energies of passion, love and pleasure. For the acuity of sensations (stimulation of vaginal orgasm), it is recommended to increase this flow: during the act, it is necessary to be partially distracted by physical exercise - strain the internal muscles or abdominal muscles.

The technique for achieving orgasm is quite simple. In Tantric Yoga there is such a thing as “vibrations” of energy. To provoke them, feel the work of your abdominal muscles during sex, similar to pumping up your abs.

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Plank exercise

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This exercise is ideal for doing at home. It effectively works the abdominal muscles. It also has a positive effect on other muscle groups that need training (shoulders, arms, buttocks, ankles, abdominal muscles and inner thigh muscles). In just a short time you will notice huge changes in your body. Method of execution: Take the position with which you usually start a push-up. Palms are on the floor, transfer your body weight to outstretched arms. Make sure your knees are not bent. Tighten your abs and control your butt. It is important that it does not stick out or “sag”. Fix your body in this pose for 10 seconds, but constantly increase your stay in this pose to achieve maximum effect. Try to stay in the plank position without discomfort for your body for up to 1 minute. The frequency of trips is up to 10 times a day.

Unexpected pleasure

Do men get orgasms from unplanned sex? Of course, and what a one! In its strength, it can significantly exceed the pleasure that a partner experiences during “planned” sex. Seduce a guy while shopping together or while visiting relatives. By the way, many girls also like such experiments - especially if their partner has a high libido and is able to “get turned on half a turn.”

Main features of female anatomy

Surprisingly, but true: in the age of the Internet, many men do not know how the female genital organs work. The lion's share of responsibility for orgasm in girls lies with the visible part of the clitoris - a small tubercle located under a fold of skin called the hood. The clitoris contains a huge number of nerve endings, the stimulation of which leads to a peak of pleasure.

Unlike the head, the body and legs of the clitoris are hidden inside; they are stimulated only during vaginal sex. Men should remember that if a girl gets an orgasm from penetrative sex, this is due to the intense impact on the inside of the clitoris.

Secret point

There are fewer erogenous zones on a man's body than on a woman's body. Ears, nipples, knees, fingers, genitals - that's probably all. It's no wonder that during foreplay girls don't know what else to pay attention to!

Did you know about the existence of a male secret point? This is a kind of analogue of the G zone in a woman, only it is located outside the body. During sex, feel the man's tubercle between the anus and scrotum - and then start stimulating him! This massage will give your partner an even more intense orgasm.

It is best to start stimulation shortly before ejaculation. As you approach orgasm, the tubercle becomes more and more noticeable, so it will not be difficult for a girl to feel it.
To make the massage more effective, choose a suitable position. Not all positions allow you to reach a man's secret spot.

The main stage is orgasm during sex

Once you get to know your body through masturbation, you can try to achieve pleasure during sex with your partner. How to get an orgasm correctly? Talk first! Let your partner be aware of how it is easier for a woman to achieve orgasm, because in his head this process may look completely different! And only then it’s worth moving on to practice.

How to guarantee an orgasm during sex? To begin with, it is worth providing high-quality foreplay. Let everything that puts the girl in the right mood go into use: romantic music, dim lighting, exciting smells, compliments, light touches, kisses. Then, when the level of lust begins to increase, you can move on to hotter caresses.

As for the choice of poses, the emphasis should be on those where the clitoris is stimulated. For example, the cowgirl position, in which the woman's external genitalia is in contact with the man's pubis. Another good position is on all fours. A man can caress a girl’s clitoris with his hands, because he has them completely free.

Lingam massage

This is what is called in the eastern practice of tantric sex a massage of the penis, which leads to relaxation and - if the partner tries - to orgasm. It is especially good as foreplay or as a replacement for traditional intercourse. Even if there is no sex, the man will receive maximum pleasant sensations.

Lingam massage does not imply any specific tactics. On the Internet you can find many educational videos on this topic and choose the most convenient option for your couple. In addition, there are special courses where this art can be mastered professionally. And a particularly skillfully performed massage of the penis can bring a man to orgasm more than once. So there is something to try for!

And lastly: nothing turns a man on more than a woman who is literally trembling with pleasure in bed with him. Guys can learn how to understand that a girl has had an orgasm from the articles in the “Love and Sex” section. And if you have difficulties, then come to the “Summer Camp” course, where Pavel Rakov shares secrets on how to reveal your sexuality.

Tell me, do you know other ways to get a man to orgasm? Share your secrets in the comments!

Step-by-step instruction

To avoid any problems during sex, read the sample instructions. You don't have to stick to it from the first point to the last. But if you follow most of them in the correct sequence, you will understand how to bring a girl or wife to orgasm with your hands, penis and mouth.

Get ready

The only thing better than spontaneous sex is well-planned and thoughtful sex. Think over the approximate development of events. Imagine how your girlfriend will behave.

Maybe she will come home from work and you will arrange a romantic evening for her. If you don't live together, then you can invite her to your home to watch a movie. Prepare everything you need for a passionate night.

It is not necessary to recreate a picture from a romantic movie and place candles everywhere, scatter rose petals and light incense sticks. But be sure to make sure that the bed linen is clean, that contraceptives are on hand, and that you smell pleasant.

Find out where the clitoris is

As you already understand, this part of the partner’s genitals is very important so that she can experience pleasure. According to surveys, 25% of adult men have no idea where the clitoris may be.

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If you are one of these guys, fill in your missing knowledge. To do this, you can watch educational videos on female masturbation. But such tutorials should not be confused with pornographic products.

Arrange for sex

This point is important, so it is not recommended to skip it. Imagine - you are prepared and tuned in to intimacy, but your girlfriend is categorically against it. There may be a lot of reasons for refusal: fatigue, other plans, etc. In addition, a woman also needs time to prepare (depilation, choosing beautiful lingerie). She needs preparation no less than you.

A girl should feel confident and relaxed. But if during sex she thinks about the fact that she didn’t have time to get herself in order, she’s unlikely to be able to relax. Respect the girl and her need for preparation during sex. If saying “Let’s have sex today” is unusual for you, then just give her a hint.

Get rid of stress

Just imagine - about 90% of sexually mature people on the entire planet do not get real pleasure from sex precisely because of accumulated stress. Fatigue and anxious thoughts are not the best sex partners. Get rid of them and try to relax the girl.

Before you begin the process of intimacy, take a break and do something pleasant. Exercise, a warm bath, a slow walk in the fresh air, and spiritual conversations help a lot. It wouldn't hurt to have a glass of wine. But only one glass at a time, since more alcohol can ruin the whole evening.

Create Context

You need to know what will inspire your partner to have sex, relax her and make her immerse her body and thoughts in this process. Create an environment around her that will push her to do this. If you doubt your knowledge of your friend’s desires, use the formula:

Reduce your loved one's stress level and make her admire you.
Create a romantic atmosphere and excite her.

Show your beloved that the evening and night are dedicated to her and her desires. This will put her at ease and certainly relax her.

Get to the point

Here you are sitting opposite each other, communicating, everything goes in the right direction. But you should not immediately start sexual intercourse. Give yourself plenty of time to warm up.

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You need to force the woman to voluntarily immerse herself in the atmosphere of sex. Why is this moment so important? Often a girl, having received enough attention during a romantic evening, believes that she must “pay off” with her lover. No, we are not talking about banal vulgarity in the style of “I should give myself to him for a good time.” Everything is much more complicated here. You don’t need to go into these details, just remember that this is possible.

How to immerse a girl in the desired intimate atmosphere? To do this, pay close attention to the following two rules.

Find out what she likes

Sexologists say that ignorance of the desires and preferences of a sexual partner leads to sex becoming boring and uninteresting. There is nothing wrong with frank conversations. It will be worse if over time your intimacy loses all meaning.

Of course, asking a direct question out of nowhere can confuse a woman, so make sure that an intimate conversation is appropriate. Having created a comfortable atmosphere, win the girl over, smoothly move the conversation in the right direction. Give her a compliment. Talk about how sexy and beautiful she is. Then simply ask the question: “What do you like most about sex?” or “What would you like to try in bed?” After that, she herself will tell you how you can bring her to orgasm.

Allow 20 minutes to warm up

As sexologists note, a woman needs at least 20 minutes to be completely ready for penetrative sex. If you're thinking, "I can't bring my girlfriend to ecstasy," think about how much time you spend on foreplay. Less than 20 minutes? Then think about it and correct this mistake. During these important 20 minutes of warming up, you should do the following:

Kiss on the lips. Kissing has been scientifically proven to reduce stress hormones in the body.
Caress your lover's neck. Walk your lips from ear to collarbone.
Don't undress her right away. Start caressing through clothes.
Undress her slowly.
Spend enough time caressing your breasts and nipples.
While undressed, caress her entire body. Don't stay in one place for too long. Women like it when a man “walks” his hands and lips all over his body.

Get busy with her clit

When both of you are already sufficiently aroused, move on to genital caresses. You don’t need to bring a girl to orgasm with your mouth or finger right away. Time it. It takes her between 15 and 45 minutes to climax, so if you stimulate her clitoris for about 10 to 15 minutes, the chance of her orgasm increases to 92%.

Be gentle and careful during this process. Start with slow movements. Don't push him too hard. Increase the pressure gradually.

Experience an orgasm

You can bring your partner to ecstasy and then proceed with penetrative sex, or time it so that you reach the end approximately at the same time. Although the second is much more difficult. As noted above, achieving simultaneous orgasm is almost impossible, so do not focus on this point.

Feel your beloved, but don’t forget about yourself.

Enjoy a pleasant aftertaste

After you reach orgasm, enjoy each other a little more. It's easy to do.

Talk after sex

You don't have to discuss serious topics or everyday problems. There is no need to do this at all, otherwise there is a risk of ruining the pleasant aftertaste.

Ask a woman how much she enjoyed the sex. This is to make your next time even better. Give her some compliments. After this she will feel liberated.

Stay close

After physical intimacy, a woman needs to receive emotional pleasure. To do this, you just need to stay close.

You shouldn’t immediately get dressed after sex, call a taxi and run away. Don't turn your back to the wall. Hug a woman, talk to her and kiss her.

Let your friend lie on your chest while you stroke her hair. This will relax her and help her fall asleep.

Physical orgasm

Physical orgasm is an orgasm that a man achieves by rubbing his penis against various surfaces, while its strength and power is proportional to the force of friction and the roughness of the surface with which contact occurs.

The more perverted and sophisticated a man is in this matter, the more advanced his experiments are in this area, and therefore the quality of orgasms. This type can successfully include all male experiments in the field of monosex, as well as partner sex, when fantasies go far beyond ordinary genital contacts into the realm of extreme possibilities.

— mechanosex

Mechanical sex can include any device that allows a man to achieve orgasm. For those who haven’t tried it, I’ll say: you’ve lost a lot. Indeed, thanks to mechanical devices, you can simulate almost any of the orgasms available in sex, if you dare and apply a little imagination. The number of personal items in sex shops is growing every day, and imitations of women in plastic and metal will soon begin to surpass the originals, so mechanosex has firmly established itself in male sex and often begins to dictate fashion for the quality of orgasms obtained.

— vibrosex

If low-power vibrators are used in mechanosex, vibrosex has no restrictions. If women experience orgasm from prolonged vibrations, such as air pockets, all men “cum” in the event of a vibration attack on both the genitals themselves and the perineum. Anyone who has tried to copulate on a vibrating table knows what we are talking about, but even the most ordinary vibrating vagina from a sex shop can cause a powerful orgasm, especially if you adjust the frequency of vibrations to achieve it.