Lady-luxe

What to do if you are in a relationship with an infantile man

An infantile man in a relationship is not the worst option for family life, but a woman should try if she wants to see a mature, courageous, independent person next to her. You may be touched by his touchingness, originality, sensitivity, romance, but know that your union will depend only on the mood of your partner. It will happen - catch the euphoria, if it won’t - get ready to cry.

Sooner or later, every companion of an infantile man has an irresistible desire to change his partner. Why? Because it is natural for a girl to develop her feminine side next to a guy, but next to an immature chosen one, only the maternal side develops. This is fundamentally wrong, the woman feels that she is “burning out”, failing, doing something wrong. As a result, she tries to convey to her companion that he is wrong, that the relationship is going downhill, she is not satisfied, receiving only indifference and a wave of indignation in response. “I’m fine, if you have any problems, solve them yourself!”

How to get a man out of a child?

Be patient, you will need it. Understand that infantilism has been formed, grown and strengthened over the years, so it will not be possible to re-educate an obnoxious guy in a week. You will also have to change yourself to achieve the desired goal.
In order not to frighten off your infantile partner with pressure, instill masculine qualities in him quietly, gradually. For example, stay late at work, let the man meet you (how brave), prepare dinner (caring), make up the bed (attentive).
Stop taking the “adult” position in your relationship with an infantile man. Down with excessive care, let him learn to do everything himself. He will not die if he makes himself a sandwich in the morning, hangs his shirt in the closet after work, puts a clean pillowcase on the pillow, comes to pay utilities, etc. Just make it a rule not to command, not to demand, not to ask.
Stop making family decisions alone; first give this right to your partner. In this way, you instill in him the useful habit of taking responsibility. Let it all start with the little things: make a grocery list for the week, choose a movie to watch in the evening, choose a day to go to the dentist, think over a menu for the upcoming holiday, etc.
Take off your men's trousers and your mother's headscarf and become the weak woman in a relationship. Be a little capricious, ask for a surprise, kiss whenever you want, “get sick” so that they will look after you, etc.
Come up with new traditions together, choose a joint hobby, passion, or weekend activity. Motivate an infantile man, encourage his endeavors, successes, and aspirations. Celebrate his good mood, praise his achievements and avoid criticism. Remember that such guys are quite vulnerable and touchy.
Help him with his own self-realization. If no job is “suitable” for an infantile guy, push him towards it. Carefully, tactfully, and wisely focus on your partner’s strengths and skills. “Has anyone told you that you have a unique oratorical talent? The position of purchasing manager would be ideal for you,” “By the way, you have very strong hands, you would become an indispensable door/window installer,” etc.

If you already have children, make it a rule to treat your husband with respect in their presence. Always! In private, even beat him with a rolling pin, but in front of the children, don’t dare question the father’s authority. Dad is the strongest, smartest, brave, kind, beloved. The classical hierarchy obliges you to play roles! Plus, don’t put children and adults on the same level, it’s wrong. They are not competitors. The father is the head of the family, the children are small members of the social unit. Everyone has their own rights and responsibilities.