Who greets first according to etiquette?

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Nowadays HELLO doesn't mean anything... maybe just basic politeness
means the guy is cultured and knows how to behave with girls, that's all

Girl, be that as it may, but He noticed you!

The author Stranger asked a question in the Dating, Love, Relationships

Why do guys often wait for a girl to say hello or speak first? and got the best answer

Answer from Alex Belov[guru] I’m sure they don’t even expect anything like that - they understand that this is their prerogative, but they simply lack confidence in their abilities, so they come up with various excuses for themselves: 1) yes, I’m dressed shamelessly today. . 2) yes, she’s like that, where is she and where am I... 3) what I tell her, her friends will laugh at me 4) there is no time for all this. Then.. . 5) if she wants, she will come up/say hello. . 6) she's not very good. not to my taste. (and it is impossible to determine this taste) Only guys who are confident in themselves and realize that they are worthy of this girl calmly approach and introduce themselves, although sometimes their hearts beat strongly with excitement, they just don’t show it. ) I highly recommend that you be the first to greet and start talking (option: get acquainted) only if you like the guy very STRONGLY. -lack of determination will definitely manifest itself in the future Alex Belov The Thinker (5291) there are levels of mastery, so what seems difficult on one level, on the other it can’t be easier. otherwise - I agree

Answer from Oriy Vlasenko [guru]

Yuriy Vlasenko 02-02-2008 02:29 (link) You know, after reading all the comments, I agree with many. Partially it’s shyness, partially it’s lack of confidence in oneself, in one’s own abilities, maybe previous experiences of dating and some relationships with girls left a not entirely positive imprint on the soul, but from my own experience I can say that if you approach me, say, on the street, to the girl you like and try to get to know her - this is difficult, because girls are different, and they can also react to signs of attention in different ways. You just need to try to take it more simply. But I realized this thing for myself a long time ago - this is that you can’t learn only from other people’s mistakes until you hit your own bumps (yes, it can hurt), until you take the 1st, 2nd, 3rd step (in In this case, meeting girls), then you can walk around for a long time and find different excuses for yourself (later, not now, not her, no time.), but the problem remains, so you just need to gather your courage and take the first step without being afraid of anything. And then be as it will be, and God willing, happiness (in the face of the girl you meet) will smile back!

Greeting options

The first thing communication with people begins with is a greeting; it can show a person’s disposition, his mood and level of culture. Greetings are divided into formal and informal types. Speech etiquette implies:

• formal tone;
• friendly treatment;
• familiar option.

An official greeting is acceptable with unfamiliar people, as well as in all cases where a person demonstrates respect or distance towards another. Typically, this type of greeting begins with “You,” and the words “Mister” or “Citizen” are also appropriate.

Friendly communication implies a less formal tone, and you can address a person with the phrases: “dear friend”, “old man”, “dear colleague”, etc.

The familiar version allows any epithets, except vulgar words, accepted among close people.

How to greet a person usually decides intuitively. In case of doubt, if the opponent is unfamiliar, it is better to adhere to a polite formal form.

From what time and until what time do you say good morning, good afternoon and good evening

You should immediately imagine that the day (24 hours) is divided into 4 intervals. Greeting etiquette implies that morning is in the range of 6 - 12 o'clock, day comes from 12 to 18 o'clock, evening from 18 to 24 o'clock, and night from 0 to 6 o'clock. This division allows us to determine the rules for wishes of “good morning”, “good afternoon”, “good evening” and “good night”. Attention: sometimes it is allowed to write a greeting that is not related to the time of day if people work the night shift. For example, in a letter written to a person who is at 3 a.m., you could write the words “Good morning” or “Greetings.” In a written greeting, it is necessary to focus on the time of the person to whom the letter is being written. This allows for respect and understanding of time differences.

Rules of greeting in social etiquette

There is no clear answer to the question of how to greet each other correctly according to etiquette.
Each situation is considered separately, divided into several nuances. Who should greet you first in seniority?

When meeting male peers, greeting and extending your hand to shake are required at the same time. If there is an older person, then he should be the first to extend his hand for greeting.

Who should say hello first based on gender?

When meeting a girl, a guy should say hello first, but the initiative to extend his hand or not belongs to the lady. If she decides to ignore this action, then no problems should arise.

If two married couples meet on the street, then the rules of etiquette for greeting when meeting include:

• Women greet each other first. Exchanging handshakes is optional, and in winter-autumn, thick mittens must be removed, but gloves can be left on.
• Men must greet the ladies first. If women want to shake hands, they should shake hands by taking off their gloves.
• Lastly, men greet each other by shaking hands with their right hand, making sure to remove the glove.

The custom of why one should not say hello while wearing gloves came to modern times from ancient times - it denotes a friendly attitude towards a person and shows that the hand is unarmed. By the way a person shakes hands when greeting, you can determine his character:

• a careful, gallant handshake reveals a person who knows how to adapt to surrounding circumstances;
• if the palm is hard and firm, the owner is used to commanding;
• a slight bow when offering a hand is typical for a person expecting some benefit from an acquaintance;
• a sweeping gesture from the side reveals a good-natured person who will always come to the rescue at the right moment.

Video on how to say hello according to etiquette

If a walking couple meets a person unfamiliar to one of them, then the men greet and shake hands, and the girls can be greeted simply with a nod of the head.

Welcome to a big company

The rule of greeting in a large company depends on whether the person entering knows everyone present or not, what gender he is.

If a man or woman from a company meets a friend who is unfamiliar with the others, then the right to introduce him to the others or not remains with the person. You can greet him with a nod of your head, step away, apologizing to the others, for a couple of minutes for a short conversation.

How to say hello according to etiquette when entering a room where there are many people, familiar and unfamiliar:

• The woman who is the owner of the house should be the first to be greeted.
• Then say hello to the rest of the ladies present in the room. You can limit yourself to a general greeting and a nod of the head with a bow.
• Men are greeted last, whether to shake hands or not is at the discretion of the person entering. If you give a hand, then to all the representatives of the stronger sex in the room.

How to say hello correctly

Modern etiquette implies a competent greeting in style, according to the situation and environment. For example, in companies, the secretary is obliged to greet everyone entering, addressing you, but without adding the words Mr. Such an address allows you to convey both respect and a friendly attitude, and at the same time, not too formally. If you interact with people at work, then one of the conditions for politeness is a slight smile, a friendly tone and a clear pronunciation of greeting words. After greeting the company's clients, over the phone or in person, you need to ask the question: “How can I help you?” In this case, your interlocutor will feel your interest and attention.

Who says hello first

The question of who should greet first according to the rules of etiquette is especially interesting when several people of different ages are present. The one who entered a room where there are already people should say hello first. The greeting words must be pronounced clearly and loudly enough.

Who should say hello first, senior or junior?

When studying etiquette, they explain that the one who is younger should greet first. Exception: if several people are visiting, then according to the rules, regardless of age, the first mistress of the house greets.

Who should greet first, boss or subordinate?

In a business environment, greeting rules have their own peculiarities. Upon entering the boss’s office, the subordinate is the first to greet him (in this case, it doesn’t matter at all how old the boss and the subordinate are). If an employee enters a room where there are other employees and a boss, then he can greet everyone with one nod of his head, but at the same time, only the one who is senior in position can extend his hand first.

Who should say hello first?

Managers and employees, men and women, children and adults greet each other. When choosing who should greet first, you need to act according to general rules of politeness. It depends on the specific situation who greets whom first according to etiquette. The main thing is to remember that a polite person is not ashamed to be the first to extend his hand when meeting you.

Senior or Junior

When peers meet, it doesn’t matter who greets whom first. Usually the initiative is taken by the one who is better educated. What if the interlocutors have a significant age difference? Who should greet first according to the rules of etiquette: the youngest or the elder? It turns out that everything is decided by the nuances:

• When familiar people meet in everyday life, the younger one greets the older one with words. This is how you show respect for your interlocutor. But the older person offers his hand first for a handshake.
• When meeting, the initiator of the greeting will, on the contrary, be older in age. He says hello and extends his hand.
• In a situation requiring publicity, age is not taken into account when greeting. For example, the lecturer is the first to greet the audience before the lecture, and the teacher is the first to greet the students before the lesson.

Boss or subordinate

Communication at work between the manager and employees is regulated by the norms of business etiquette. In an official setting, they show their respect to each other, without taking into account who is older and who is younger in age, regardless of gender. The main criterion is the position a person holds. The senior is considered the boss, and the junior is the subordinate.

• Special rules of conduct apply in situations where you need to enter the office. In an institution, the person who enters the premises always greets the person who made the appointment first upon entering. If other employees are present in the office, you can show your respect to everyone with a slight bow.
• Who should greet first: a subordinate or a manager? In business communication, respect is shown by a junior in position. The middle-aged employee is the first to greet the boss, who is younger than her. But according to etiquette, it is not the one who first greets who extends his hand for a handshake, but the one who is senior in position. There are some exceptions to this rule. When a manager enters his subordinates’ office, he is the first to greet everyone.
• A business meeting partner is greeted first by a subordinate (both a woman and a man), and then by the boss.
• The rules of etiquette require a person who is late for a business meeting to be the first to greet those waiting for him.

Man or woman

Etiquette standards determine who greets first: a girl greets a man or a man greets a woman. You must also understand that specific rules of social etiquette apply in each situation.

1. The gentleman is the first to pay his respects to the lady. A polite man stands up if the meeting takes place in the room. But first the lady extends her hand, who, if she wishes, can do without a handshake.
2. If a girl and an older man meet, it is customary for the woman to be the first to greet her interlocutor as a sign of respect.
3. The rules of etiquette determine the behavior of two couples meeting on the street. The lady greets the lady, after which the gentlemen - representatives of the fairer sex - complete the ritual with men who mutually show respect.
4. A married couple, meeting an acquaintance for a walk, follows certain norms of social behavior. When a person walking alone comes towards a couple, the men must shake hands. When you meet a lonely woman, you just need to bow and smile.
5. When getting into a taxi, passengers first greet the driver, then give the address.
6. A man who meets a group of people shakes hands with friends and nods at strangers.
7. The one who walks is always the first to show respect to those who stand. If one person overtakes another on the street, then the one who overtakes greets first. This applies to both young men and girls.

Guest or host

In order to determine by etiquette who is the first to say hello at a party, you need to follow the rules of good manners.

1. In someone else's house, you should first greet the hostess, and then everyone else present. This rule applies to both women and men. The hostess offers her hand to each invited guest.
2. If there are many guests in the room where the company is gathering, then the person entering one by one greets the owners of the house, then other ladies, starting with the oldest. Last but not least, respect is shown to the other male guests. A handshake is not necessary in this situation.
3. When visiting, a woman must respond to every greeting, even if the greeting man is unpleasant to her or they are in a quarrel. A personal showdown should not ruin the mood of the other guests.
4. A late guest, who comes up when everyone has sat down at the table, first greets the women and then their companions. If her husband is present at the table, then the lady greets him last.
5. A late man pays respect to the women, then to his wife, and only after that greets the owner of the house and the rest of the male guests. Spouses should be polite to each other.
6. If a celebrity is invited to dinner, then this person is greeted separately and at the very beginning.

Seller or buyer

Communication between sellers and buyers includes some nuances that determine who should greet first according to etiquette. The order of greetings depends on the size of the store and trading rules. In any situation, it is important to remember politeness and goodwill, which will make visiting the store comfortable and will not ruin your mood.

• When entering a small store or trading department, the buyer needs to say hello to the seller. In accordance with the rules of etiquette, the person entering the room greets first.
• A regular visitor to a supermarket, who encounters the same salesman every day, is the first to express his respect.
• A well-mannered person, when asking a consultant for advice, will not forget to say hello. On the other hand, the seller will show respect if he himself wants to help the visitor with the choice of goods.
• If the buyer and seller know each other, then they greet each other, taking into account gender and age.

Child or adult

The rules of good manners are the same for everyone: for children and adults. It is important to teach your child the rules of etiquette, which explain how to say hello correctly and who should say hello first. The child, as the youngest, greets adults (acquaintances, neighbors) first.

There are certain situations where this rule does not apply. In an educational institution, the teacher greets the children first when starting the lesson. In the store, sales assistants greet a child who has come to buy something. An adult can say hello to get the child's attention.

Communication within the children's group is also subject to the norms of etiquette. Boys should greet girls. And girls must show their good manners and respond to greetings. When two girls or two boys meet, the most polite one greets first.