What are the chances of maintaining love at a distance?
Let's say you need to make a difficult decision: on one side of the scale is an offer of a profitable job that involves long business trips; on the other - relationships with a loved one. What to choose? Can love conquer kilometers? Is the risk justified or is it better to refuse the offer?
To assess the chances of love winning, ask yourself and discuss the following questions with your partner:
- Have you gotten to know each other well enough during your relationship? Are you really “soulmates” or can’t judge this yet because you still look at your partner through rose-colored glasses of love? Are you sure that you have common views on life, common interests, common life priorities? If you sincerely answered “Yes” to all these questions, then the likelihood of maintaining the relationship while apart is quite high.
- Have you planned anything together in the future? For example, start living together if you don’t already, or buy a house, or move to another city; Perhaps you were thinking about adding to your family. Did you have common plans or have you not yet reached an agreement regarding your future together? Having common plans and a common opinion regarding a joint future increases the chances of love winning over kilometers.
- How long will the separation be? Uncertainty is always frightening and repulsive, so the duration of separation must be known in advance. If this is several years, then it cannot be said that several months, fearing to immediately frighten and hoping to “pull the rubber” later - forgiving a lie is harder for many than to survive a temporary, albeit long-term, separation. And, naturally, the shorter the period of planned separation, the greater the likelihood of maintaining the relationship.
- How do you and your other half cope with the temporary absence of your partner? According to this criterion, people can be divided into two types: confident and anxious. Confident people do not need constant “proof” of love; they feel comfortable alone and know how to maintain a balance between love and independence (their own and their partner’s). People of the anxious type need regular manifestations of love; when they break up, they begin to get jealous, look for (and find!) non-existent flaws in the relationship and in the partner. If both partners are of the anxious type, then there is practically no chance of maintaining the relationship after a long separation. If at least one partner is a confident type, the likelihood of surviving separation increases significantly.
By analyzing the answers to these questions, you can objectively assess your chances of maintaining the relationship after a long-term separation.
Important
A long separation is less likely to affect a mature relationship, and romantic love will be under great threat.
“Mature relationships” do not mean the mature age of the partners, and not so much the duration of the relationship, but rather its depth: if mutual love has a stable foundation in the form of understanding, trust, common interests and unity of views on life, then separation will only strengthen such relationships.
If a couple, regardless of age, is in the candy-bouquet period, then in a long separation the ship of romance will most likely crash on the reefs of reality: too many temptations surround us here and now, and the beloved has left far and wide. Partners quickly lose value in each other’s eyes, if only because they have not yet had time to get to know each other well enough.
Plan for a farewell message to a once loved one
I'll give them to you when you come to me. I will give you all my warmth, all my affection, all my soul... I'll give you everything you want. I write and know that my heart is with you. Forever! It still won't fight without you. It is emptiness if you are not with me. Please come as soon as possible. I know how to wait, but time drags on so much that I want to stop it altogether.
It's happiness to love you! It’s a unique feeling to put on rose-colored glasses and listen to the birds singing, the grasshoppers chirping, the wind rustling; feel the aroma of lily of the valley, rose, jasmine; through them you can see a rainbow after the rain, the sunset going beyond the horizon, the smiles of people around you, your face. And let me repeat myself, but I observe all this because you exist in the world, my beloved! I want to breathe you!
We are just lost in this huge world. You were already too dear to me then, because I felt you in my soul, and your image was constantly before my eyes. Time passed, and you were still not there. A long and tedious pause of waiting has formed in life. It was tiring! But sometimes I just didn’t want to waste myself too much on someone else.
The beautiful words that you choose will remind your beloved man of your emotions, even when he is at a distance.
Touching notes won't hurt, even if the couple sees each other every day. Such mini-confessions will surprise and delight, especially if the guy finds them in different places and at unexpected times.
Pleasant words in SMS will touch your soulmate to the quick, and you will read it in his eyes when you meet. Below are the best author's SMS on the topic “I miss you,” written in prose.
Unfortunately, we were unable to preserve our feelings. We need to break up. Forgive me for the pain I may have caused you.
Personal letters are a piece of our soul. A letter to your beloved guy about your feelings in your own words will be the best gift for any occasion. In it you can say everything you feel, but have the opportunity to convey it in words. Having received such a message, no guy will be able to resist. It's nice and romantic.
How to prepare yourself for a long breakup?
It’s stupid to think that after your partner leaves, life will remain the same as it was, only your other half will not be in it. “It’s just that now I’ll be bored and spend more time alone or with friends” - it won’t be “easy”, it will be much more difficult. What should you prepare yourself for right away?
Anger and jealousy
Yes exactly. Despite boundless trust and mutual agreement for a long forced separation, in the vast majority of cases, during a long separation, partners begin to get angry and jealous of each other. And it’s no coincidence that these two emotions go side by side when parting: I’m angry because I don’t know how you spend your time without me, so I’m jealous; or vice versa: I’m jealous because I don’t know how you spend your time without me, so I’m angry. Both anger and jealousy lead to quarrels, and quarrels lead to breakdowns in relationships.
Important
Don't let obsessive thoughts and negative emotions take over your mind!
Displace attacks of anger and jealousy from your head with pleasant memories of a joint vacation, of happy days spent together; remember why you love this particular person, how wonderful he is and how good you feel next to him.
Painful loneliness
Even if you are relatively comfortable with loneliness and are able to entertain yourself by meeting with friends or engaging in a favorite hobby, you are still unlikely to be able to escape the painful feeling of spiritual emptiness, as if you have been abandoned. The most “dangerous” days: Birthdays and New Years are holidays that everyone spends with loved ones. You are also used to this, but when the other half is far away, what awaits you is not a cheerful feast, but melancholy and apathy. Among the gathered friends, the feeling of acute loneliness will only worsen, because they are all in pairs, and you...
Important
If you are not mentally ready to relax in a company where everyone is in pairs, agree with your partner to celebrate holidays with each other via video conference - physically you will be alone, but emotionally you will be together.
Feelings of loneliness can come over you not only on holidays, but also on any other day. To make it easier to cope with your feelings, prepare in advance a list of things you will do and/or a list of films you will watch in moments of sadness. It is very important to write such a list in advance, because in apathy you will no longer want to plan things and entertainment.
"Cool" meeting
Psychologists assure that in real life, after a long-term separation, you should not expect strong emotions in the first minutes of a meeting, since people need some time to recognize their partner as “their own.” This is due to our individual pheromones, the elusive smell of which a person forgets within just a month.
Important
According to psychologists, violent outbursts of passion during the first meeting after a long separation are an invention of the screenwriters for a beautiful picture in a film.
Remember how a dog greets you after a long break: at first the dog sniffs you warily and only then, “remembering” its native smell, jumps with its paws on its chest and wags its tail uncontrollably. It’s the same with people, only people’s “smell” is much worse, so it takes a little more time to “recognize” it.
How to behave after sending a letter
It is often difficult to say directly about feelings, but it is much easier to write:
- Darling, I’m writing to you because I don’t dare tell you in words. You became not just a person in my life, you became life itself. I feel inspired when I'm with you and empty when I'm alone. Love you.
- I don’t know why I’m writing this, I probably don’t have the courage to say it directly. But I understand that I can’t hide it any longer. Before, I couldn’t imagine that you would become more than a friend to me, but that’s exactly what happened.
- I’m afraid to utter loud words, I know that all this is unexpected, but there is no point in remaining silent any longer. Regardless of your decision, I tell you about my love. I dream of a response, but I’m in no hurry, because everything “like a snowball on my head.” True love does not require reciprocity and, if you do not consider it necessary to respond to it, I will be grateful for your honesty in this case. I love and hope.
Your loved one is away now... Okay, honey, let’s be on a first-name basis so you don’t feel constrained. Your beloved went on a so-called business trip or somewhere else... He left, you miss him, you think about him...
Since then, the meaning of my life is you. I hope you feel just as good with me. I look forward to your every call and message and I hope my happiness will last forever...”
My dear, know that you are the best gift in life for me. Your hugs give me strength, warm my soul.
If you have received a marriage proposal, you can answer it in a letter. The same applies to pregnancy - in a letter to your loved one you can inform that you will soon become parents. The best recipe for a touching letter is sincerity, without feigned pity. I don't know how I used to live without you. Most likely, I confused life with existence. My life began only when you graced it with your presence. I am happy with you. And I don't need another man. I don’t even know how to think about others! My thoughts are programmed only for you and what is connected with you.
How to survive separation?
Modern life dictates its own rules and sometimes you need to adapt to them: go on a business trip, go home to your parents, and the like. Sometimes you fall in love with a person who lives thousands of kilometers away, what to do then, how to survive this separation? There are several recommendations that will help you get through the days of separation quietly.
At first, as a drug addict, you can’t live without your loved one, because you’re used to having him constantly nearby, and being able to hug and kiss him at any moment. For many, this time is accompanied by tears, melancholy and even depression. But don’t be upset, because today it’s the 21st century and compared to our grandmothers, who waited for their men from the war for years, everything is much simpler. Then people wrote letters to each other and waited for an answer for months, not fearing that during this time their love would fade away, because faith lived in their hearts.
Take a break
The fact that you will sit with his photograph and cry for days on end will not change anything, except that it will significantly shake your psyche. Therefore, focus your attention on something else, for example, start working hard. In addition to the fact that you will take your mind off your heart problems, you will demonstrate to your superiors all your talents and capabilities. At home, in order not to get bored, find yourself an interesting hobby, for example, embroider, draw, weave with beads, do various crafts. So, for the arrival of your soulmate, you can prepare him an exclusive gift with your own hands. Do something that you haven’t had time for for a long time, for example, start learning a language so that you can go on a trip with your loved one, or sign up for a swimming pool to improve your condition, both physical and psychological.
As if we never parted
Today there are a huge number of opportunities to contact a person, even if he is on another continent. Mobile phones, social networks, Skype will help you keep in touch and even see each other. Thanks to this, separation will be much easier.
Time for yourself beloved
It's time to take time for yourself, go to the SPA, hairdresser, go to a shopping marathon, buy yourself various cosmetics. During separation, we will be able to freely walk around the house wearing a green mask and not be embarrassed by anyone, or lie in front of the TV on the couch in our favorite pajamas and watch a melodrama.
Communicate
If your significant other has left, this does not mean that you should sit at home and not go anywhere. Chat with friends, go to parties, just remember that everything should be in moderation. You can also go to visit a school friend you haven’t seen for many years.
Good test of feelings
Separation can show you whether it is really love or not. Many relationships do not pass the test of separation and often because of this, couples call it quits. As they say, separation, like the wind, either extinguishes the fire of love, or helps it flare up even more. But if everything worked out and you waited for your soulmate to arrive, and the love did not fade away, maybe then it was fate.
Extreme measures
If your patience is running out and you can’t wait at all, then pack your bags and hit the road. Thank God, today there is a huge choice of transport, you can get there by bus, train, car and even plane. It all depends on the distance and your financial capabilities.
Long-awaited meeting
The day has come when you can hug your loved one again, feel his tenderness and warmth. You think that this day should be just perfect, long before that you figured out what you would do, planned out every minute, but when you see your own eyes, you forget about everything in the world and you no longer need romantic dinners, dates, you just want to hug him and don't let go anywhere else.
Pleasant words to a beloved man in separation
Theme of the collection: Pleasant words to a beloved man in separation. Love me as I love you with unearthly feelings! Love me, don't forget, and don't hang out with others!
I sit in sadness without you, you are far away and don’t call, and I miss you madly!
I love you my dear and sweet, one and only! I never stop missing you, and I’m really looking forward to hugging you!
Love me as I love you, feel the pain of my heart because you are not with me. I love you.
I want your evening to be the most long-awaited, romantic, cozy and in my company!
I miss your look, I feel good when you are near, my most gentle and beloved! My best and most extraordinary!
When you allow yourself to be tamed, you sometimes cry.
I will never see you again... Goodbye... I will remember you.
Love for you! She will never leave my heart! I love you!
For love there is no yesterday, love does not think about tomorrow!
It’s cold and cloudy outside, but there’s a rainbow in my heart because I’m thinking about you.
I love you and miss you, and I don’t notice anything else around you, because I liked you very much, I love you, by the way!
Bitchiness is not a vice, but an immunity with beautiful appearance.
My beloved, the only one! I'm so glad that i met you! I love you so much!
I can imagine how passionate our meeting will be! I miss you and wait!
You endure all my whims, my dearest and dearest! Love you.
Very short statuses about love
I'm sorry, but I can't find any kind words. I just want to say that I love you!
Love for you! She will never leave my heart! I love you!
My love, you are my life. I need only you
Shut up! I want to hear what your heart is saying.
I love you more than life itself, I can’t live without you! I always want to be with you, I can’t stop loving you!
You are my life, my ray of light. I love you! So strong, so crazy! You are my whole life, I simply cannot live without you, you are my best!
I want to come to you, my boy, and I don’t need anything else at all.
I miss your eyes looking at me with tenderness...
I want to meet a guy like me who wants to meet a girl like me.
I always miss your lips! I miss you here and there... I never stop thinking about you, because I love you very much!
I miss you madly, my beloved, I feel so lonely and empty without you, I want to come to you!
It’s easy to say I love, but not everyone can feel it...
Darling, for your sake I will learn to cook, I promise. Without you my life is a waiting room.
I am a child, I need care, affection and just one toy - you!
0You are an angel who gives me hope, you are my dream, my ideal. I love you, my unique, desired one, only you give me moments of pleasure and happiness!
It's hard to be friends when you want to kiss
Darling, I miss you! I keep thinking sadly for minutes, when will I be able to see you, you are my only love!
My beloved, the only one! I'm so glad that i met you! I love you so much!
Birds miss spring, they are cold in winter,
Love is a voluntary renunciation of brains.
It's better to hold back ten times than to break once.
Sometimes love makes you happy, and sometimes it makes you strong.
I know that you and I have a future, because I can’t imagine anyone next to me except you.
I love you madly, as soon as I think about you, the world around me blossoms! Promise yourself to me, that’s my big dream!
I am writing to you with love, I am in a hurry to see you. I miss you very much, I love you, I want to see you as soon as possible!
Without you I will get cold like tea, I will melt like ice under the sun. You are my only man and my heart sings with love!
Friends say - forget, your heart says - remember...
I miss you very, very much: morning, evening and night. I dream about you, here is a text message for you. It cannot be expressed in words how sad I am when there is such a distance between us...
I adore you! Darling, I can’t live without you, I need you like air...
Dear, dear, good boy, I want to hug you and gently kiss your sweet lips, cling to you and not let go. I miss.
Very short statuses about love
I love you, I dream of being with you always! I need only you
The subscriber's heart enjoys love...
Smile! A smile is the second thing I love about your lips!
Please don’t be silent, write me an answer as soon as possible. You are the most loved in the world, my best on the planet!
I want your evening to be the most long-awaited, romantic, cozy and in my company!
I want to go to a desert island... with my beloved... and no one else. And you?
Darling, I don’t know how to say it, but I probably miss it very much. Like a network, my days are lonely! Call!
You are my beloved and dear, I am with you, and you are with me. This makes me feel good, you always know this, and don’t forget about me!
After all, you can fall in love not with the ideal.
The sun doesn’t shine through my window, the birds get wet on the path, tears are dripping from the sky. Well, send me an SMS!
You can't argue with lovers and crazy people.
There are too many of you in my thoughts...
I don’t know how to write poetry, but I can talk about feelings; I’m just in awe of you, and not in a dream, but in reality!
Alas... But it’s not you that I’m sick of... Just a joke... Or not... Try to guess...
I know for sure that everything will always be super good when you are next to me!
I will always love you, my gentle and only one. I want to shout to the whole world that I am happy!
You are the best in the whole world, you are my kind and gentle, I love you madly, and I really want to always be with you.
He is not mine... but I belong to him.
I don't commit to being yours forever, but I vow to love you forever...
Why are you so indecisive? I've even wiped off my lipstick.
I decided to appoint you as the guardian of my heart!
I have everything... except your post on the VKontakte wall...
Love is an alluring mixture of delight and feelings.
Why is there no delete button in the heart... to press and forget...
Love is a fairy tale... Love is a dream... Love is a caress... Love is him...
But I don’t need much to be happy, only you are nearby
The last kiss... A slightly tired look... You're leaving forever... You're no longer happy with me...
I will always love you, my gentle and only one. I want to shout to the whole world that I am happy!
The light has been turned off in the heart, and there is no comfort in the soul! What happened with me? I answer: I miss you a lot!
For me, life is you, you are my joy and all my dreams! You are always in my thoughts, you are the most precious thing I have! I love you!
I love you, dear and dear... I open my soul to you, and I’m happy that you are with me
The best time for me is the time spent with you! My love for you is limitless.
How to find a common language? - Kiss!
If you and I broke up, this does not mean that you and I will not get married.
What will happen to us next? And I love, I love everything, more and more...
There is great wealth in writing to someone I love and miss you and knowing that someone needs it.
The rain falls, the wind blows, the fire burns, and I love you.
Always, at any time, waiting for you to come home! Love you.
Dying for love is not difficult. — Pleasant words to a beloved man in separation.
