Alien Husband Why someone else's Husband will NOT bring you happiness.
"Let's talk about it. Let us touch upon, raise, stir up this eternal topic. Him, his wife, whom he does not love, and me, with whom he is crazy. Bright, juicy, sweet and sour poisoned apple. We'll talk about it because we both want it. Because I have something to say, and you need to hear it. Because I followed the path of greatest resistance that you lathered your skis on. Put them on the stove and listen to what the old, wise kaa tells you.
I have repeatedly fallen into this triangle. The balance of power was different, and so was the development of the plot. They came to me to settle forever, to live happily ever after, but they didn’t come to me, and I ran away on my own. But it always ended badly. Oh well, it would just be over. This has always been bad, no matter how much I deceive myself. And I deceived myself in different ways. This is what you and I will talk about. About the myths and legends of an adult girl who has inserted her sharp heel into the belly of someone else’s family, but tries to maintain the most innocent expression on her face. Because the case is exceptional. Newest in history. Unique. There's love here, guys. I'm not some kind of predator. I am honorable. And it’s not my fault, he came himself! In short, let's go!
Myth number 1: having a relationship with a married man is immoral, but in our case it is love.
Nope. It's still immoral. Theft remains theft, even if it is stolen in the name of someone else's good. Maybe they’ll lose their sentence, but they’ll still put you in jail. And if I steal for my own benefit, they will also charge me. Don't fool yourself, you are acting immorally. Against human laws. And no amount of love is an excuse. Love is a different story. I won't even talk about it here. But if you feel pain all the time and sometimes feel good, this is not a sign of love.
Myth number 2: if I don’t see my wife, it means she doesn’t exist.
She exists. In every morning, day and - sorry - night too. She lives in his phone and doesn’t always write nasty things to him. Sometimes she writes that she misses you and asks for candy. And he smiles and writes something that would make your and I’s ears turn red. They have their own evening rituals, half-hints, jokes that only they understand. They have a whole life in which you are not and have not been. And damn, she has value to him. That is why he lies to you goodbye with his sad eyes and runs headlong there. Home. To my wife. Believe me, it exists. Very much exists. And she does this every day. I had the good fortune to be friends with the wife of my man - Santa - Barbara of my psyche did strange somersaults. I was unpleasantly surprised by how similar they were. These are very close people, with a huge common backpack behind them. True, she was more honest and kinder than him. And she loved me very much, even me, because at that time I was in his habitat.
Myth number 3. He doesn’t love her, he has nothing to talk about with her.
Stop right there. Let's go in order. It was to her that he proposed to spend life together or simply agreed to it. He knelt down or chose a special place, he made up words or listened to her inertly. But he took this step, you won’t believe it. He did with her what he has not yet, it seems, dared to do with you. Living together every fucking day. Seeing her in curlers, eating her signature scrambled eggs, choosing perfume for March 8th, going to stupid stores to buy a warm jacket for yourself and a new hat for her. And so all my life, guess what? Wife is not a dirty word. This is a measure of a man's determination. And, apparently, the measure of his real feelings. And it seems that there was a strategic reserve of this feeling and this determination. Where did they take it? That's their question, baby. Only them. Not ours.
Myth number 4. he loves me.
We stop again. Let's re-read the previous paragraph. And we try to repeat this mantra again. Thus, if it doesn’t roll, we feel the ears. We remove the stuck noodles from them and stop loving them. Ears are not for love, no. They are there to listen to music, birdsong, your child’s breathing. And we learn to judge a man’s love by his deeds. So what did he do out of love for you? Just give me some garlic. He, joyfully rejoicing, presented you to the world? He took you to his damn mother at their infinitely distant summer cottage (just don’t lie that this doesn’t matter to you? Did he care about the question of your values and included them in his plans of action? Is he honest in his intentions and open to real, behind-the-scenes relationships? To him has anything to offer you besides scanty words and password-protected appearances? He bought a damn ring, chose a damn romantic place and chose the damn right words? What matters to him is what you sweat about at night, when you suddenly wonder if he has sex with his wife? What if! I don’t want to upset you, but most likely there is - they are married. And the worst thing is that it won’t be cheating on you, no. You’re not his wife. He’s cheating on her with you. In short, he’s at least something... did he do it in confirmation of his endless SMS and tear-jerking revelations? Or did he hang on your ears and nobly pester you about his lost life and responsibility for those he tamed? In a word, take a closer look at your ears. And use them for their intended purpose. Or better yet, at least for time to fill them with wax, like the old wizard from Cinderella, so that evil people do not use them for their “Love”.
Myth number 5. I am completely satisfied with everything, I am a person of broad modern views.
“...The Russian man is broad, too broad, I would narrow it down! “You and I are not touching on the topic of professional transactions now, it’s not interesting. We are not talking about a business where a man gets his bullish thrill and a woman gets her due bonus. We are about love, ears, modernity and geometry. We're talking about the soul. Let's rewind and try to find that moment in your life in which you castrated yourself for the sake of something. In which you began to talk smartly about freedom, equality and brotherhood. In which you decided that a full-fledged diet is unnecessary, a sandwich on the run is enough. When you closed children's fairy tales with pictures about a knight and a princess in a tower, about victories over dragons and Koshchei, about “The Only Woman and the Only Man” and chose Samantha Jones as your ideal. Listen, do you need it? Are you really like that? There is one more organ in the human body. It's called "heart". Try to listen to it, is it not whining about anything? Are you really okay with a quickie in a hotel? Or do you want radiant, open, fabulous, damn knightly devotion? Be honest with this body. Because he was created for love. And believe me, in our faint modernity, love still exists. And she is still the same - honest, open, ready for anything. She doesn't change anymore. She is alone at all times.
Myth number 6. He will “ripen”, come to me, and everything will be different for us. We will be happy.
We know, we swam, we tell you. He “ripened”, came, and we had the same crap for four years - with complications. Only I found myself in the wife’s place in this geometric equation. Because this is not about her, his hateful wife. And in him, who doesn’t know how to work in a relationship and is used to running around for quick doping. He is simply unable to take responsibility for his choices. Be honest and loyal. To be in sorrow and in joy. He needs someone third, fourth, tenth to take away the “Soul” and loins. Perhaps someday it will change, this cannot be ruled out. But it’s not “Your Love” that will change him, baby. Your love is not able to form someone else's moral framework. This is everyone’s personal work, alone with themselves. Therefore, get ready for a dizzying flight under the circus dome - to the place of his former wife. When he and his suitcase knock on your door.
Myth number 7. Their relationship hasn’t been going well for a long time, and I have nothing to do with it. Our love simply became a catalyst in this half-life reaction blah - blah - blah.
Yeah, and there was a piano in the bushes by chance. Let's start with the main thing. What should fall apart will fall apart without our participation. And if it doesn’t fall apart, it means it’s holding together. And there is no need to put a charge of dynamite under something that is crooked - askew, but stands. We do not have title to this building. It's alien. And is it holding up so poorly that all our tears, reproaches, mental anguish, delicious dinners and fishnet stockings are not able to destroy it? One friend, decorating my auditory organs with noodles, called his marriage a “Business Project” in the name of a child. It took me a while to understand that not every business can survive 10 years. In the process, their project is not so bad, alas for me.
Myth number 8. these are my feelings, and I love him - no matter who he is with.
This is where it gets tricky. Here is the myth of selfless love. And it’s really difficult to get through it. Here you will have to deal with love with a capital L, and this is a slippery topic, a lot of people have broken their legs on it... but let’s talk about love, come on. Let's try to understand who you love? His? Or the “Light Image”, which is not necessarily related to the original. Most likely, it does not, because the producer of this image is you. Someone else produced this real guy. And the chance that your drawings coincide is minimal. Do you know him, the real one? How does he argue that his wife doesn’t need such expensive creams, how does he whine when he is sent to buy vegetables, how does he not want to play with his son, but wants to watch football? Love is a daily joint action, weaving, creativity. And his habitat is reality. And only her. Everything else may not be bad, but it’s fantasy. It is critically important not to confuse these two poles.
Myth number 9. They are not married. Officially.
Do not care. He is not free. Run, Forest, before you get into trouble. And the most paradox is this: most likely, she is good. His wife. And perhaps you are alike in many ways, and if you met in the canteen, pool or training, you would like each other. And they became friends. She's not bad just because he's standing between you. Try making an adult decision not to do shit to her. Out of principle. Out of women's solidarity. Out of the simple conviction that you can’t make candy out of it. Components are not i.e.
I created all these myths myself and destroyed them myself, in the delirium of asymmetrical relationships, trying to find my own stable happiness. At the cost of broken foreheads, broken foreheads and broken foreheads. I had big problems with love and geometry. And finally, I will allow myself a small but practical piece of advice (even though you didn’t ask for it. In the event that you don’t like the married dude who approached you, raise your hands to the sky and thank Jesus, Allah, the universe or someone someone in whom you believe. And quietly crawl away, without entering into dialogues. Only if he turned out to be nice, run without looking back, pray along the way. But if suddenly he seemed mysterious to you, unhappy in his own way and somehow there are like-minded people - here the question of speed becomes decisive. Maximum speed and distance to which you will have time to escape. Only then, having caught your breath and feeling the proximity of the Canadian border, whisper to some guardian who is responsible for your safety: urgently - urgently, help me ! Save me from this! Well, when you meet someone who is ready to be 100% with you, to be old-fashioned, loyal, always - remember the wise old kaa with a kind word. He will be pleased. That he too, so to speak, noted that another moth does not burn on this candle.” Author: Irina Plyotchikova. Article? Subscribe subscribe to psychology about life.
Someone else's husband: homewrecker women among the zodiac signs
Paulina Andreeva (Libra) secretly met with married Fyodor Bondarchuk // Photo: Legion-media
Unfortunately, not everyone remembers the famous truth: you cannot build your own happiness on someone else’s misfortune. Predators care about the result and the price of victory is not at all important. They do not care about the opinions of others and other people's pain; such women live exclusively by their own rules, not paying attention to universal condemnation.
Sergey Lang, a famous psychologist and astrologer, has long been involved in solving family problems, namely the return of a departed husband to the family. Especially for StarHit, he compiled the top 5 zodiac signs among women who really should be feared.
5TH PLACE SCALES
Libra women are very cunning seductresses. They carefully look after themselves and it is quite natural that men always hover around them. According to statistics, representatives of this sign give preference to married people. True, the role of a mistress does not suit them. They want to have an official status and they can do this easily. They make good wives, but their happiness does not last long.
Tatyana Brukhunova (Capricorn) is accused of the collapse of the family of Evgeny Petrosyan and Elena Stepanenko // Photo: Personal archive
4th PLACE CAPRICORN (Tatyana Brukhunova)
Capricorns are quite selfish. If she fell in love with a man who has a family, then this will not stop her, because representatives of this sign are very stubborn. She will make every effort to take the man away from his legitimate family. And even if he fails, he will not just let the victim go - he will take revenge and turn his life into a real hell.
The romance of Albina Dzhanabaeva (Aries) and Valery Meladze began when the singer was married // Photo: Legion-media
Vera Brezhneva (Aquarius) took Konstantin Meladze away from the family // Photo: Legion-media
2nd PLACE AQUARIUS
Representatives of this zodiac sign are literally drawn to married people, and this magnetism is very strong. She really falls in love and gives herself completely to the man. Therefore, it is not difficult for her to take him away from the family. Such marriages turn out to be quite strong.
Recently it became known about Victoria Lopyreva’s (Leo) affair with married Igor Bulatov // Photo: Legion-media
1st PLACE LEO
Leos love competition in love relationships. It is very important for them to win a man away from another woman - this way they increase their self-esteem and feel like real queens. But, unfortunately, Lionesses do not know how to build strong families.
3rd PLACE ARIES
The Aries woman is very mercantile. She is guided not by a feeling of love, but by the desire to have material wealth. But there is no denying that this predator knows how to make a man happy, who will be sure that he is loved. For the sake of such a woman, the victim is ready to sacrifice what he already has.
Karma for someone else's husband. What to do if you find a karmic married husband
Sometimes it happens that a karmically destined man turns out to be unfree. As a rule, this happens because this partner turned out to be fateful for another woman. Such an epithet cannot be equated with a “man of destiny”, because in the first case it only means that the husband is a catalyst for some external changes for the lady. At the same time, he is not karmically connected with his wife, since fate initially intended that a spiritually given man would change precisely the woman who has to be content with the role of a mistress.
Karmic punishment from such a turn in life is unlikely to occur unless you deliberately destroy someone else’s family and actively interfere in your partner’s relationship with his wife (or, even worse, with his children). Usually fate corrects its own mistakes, so either the marriage of your loved one will end and he will go to you, or you will still receive from him the same wise experience and the life lesson you need, but in the position of a mistress. In the second case, the woman herself at some point realizes that the union has exhausted itself and decides to end the relationship.
The karmic connection with a married man in this situation will, rather, be healing, so the breakup will be natural and painless.
In such conditions, you can and should fight for your happiness if you can tell yourself with confidence that you trust your partner, believe him, that you love each other mutually. If you even for a minute admit the idea that he is indifferent to your feelings about this situation or may even leave you, you must definitely break off the relationship. Don't be afraid to take the initiative, talk to the person.
you can't love someone else's husband
My 14-year-old daughter suffers from a mental illness, because of which her whole life is awry: she has no girlfriends, no friends, no hobbies and interests usual for this age. We live in the small town of Tyukalinsk, Omsk region, in a small family. We have a good crowd, no one drinks or smokes, they go to visit each other. But the child is very unusual; she has a pathological passion for trying on other people’s images and other people’s lives. Either he has a fetish for everything alien, or he just wants women’s happiness.
The fact is that my daughter loves to climb around our neighbors’ apartments. Thank God he doesn't steal anything. She just really wants to plunge into her image. There, in the apartments, she puts on the housewives’ clothes: dresses, skirts, sundresses, robes. He even wears their high-heeled shoes around the apartments. He really likes to swim for a long time in his neighbors’ bathrooms: there he can steam, have fun and enjoy himself. And then come out of there in someone else’s terry robe like a real woman. My daughter also helps with housework. She washes dishes, floors, and wipes dust like a real housewife. And then he loves to lie on the beautiful and soft bed of these women, so that he can certainly come into contact with their world.
How do our neighbors themselves react to this? We have a very friendly small family, like one family. And women don’t really have husbands or children. And often my daughter’s attention to their lives only makes them happy. They say that you have a very beautiful and good daughter. Well, she’s not a drunk, and she’s not some kind of major or fifa with a chicken brain, who has more than enough arrogance and show-off. In addition, there is nothing particularly valuable in the apartments: no money, no jewelry, very little equipment. No one is afraid for the safety of their housing, since everyone has had experience with how to leave seemingly healthy people who do not suffer from mental illness at home. So they did such a thing that any patient would seem more adequate.
More than once there were cases when a neighbor came to her home from work and saw a picture of my fashionista bathing there, or walking around bathed in her robe. And instead of making a fuss, they compliment and rejoice, saying: well, my beauty? Oddly enough, my child manages to communicate well with these aunties. She was in no hurry to leave someone else’s home, she could even change into some other things of the housewives, even take out their wedding dress and, somehow putting it on, drag it around the apartment.
I myself know that this cannot continue indefinitely. Either we ourselves will move from Tyukalinsk to another more promising city, or the neighbors who are loyal to my daughter will leave. And what to do with her passion for other people's things. If she starts interfering with strangers, they will immediately call the police and submit her to court for treatment. They will also present something to me. I want my fashionista to be like a normal woman. And now, it turns out, she can live only in a narrow circle of favorably disposed people.
Myths about loving someone else's husband
Myth No. 1. A relationship with a married man is immoral, but in our case it is love.
Nope. It's still immoral. Theft remains theft, even if it is stolen in the name of someone else's good. Maybe they’ll lose time, but they’ll still put you in jail. And if I steal for my own benefit, they will also charge me. Don't fool yourself, you are acting immorally. Against human laws. And no amount of love is an excuse. Love is a different story. I won't even talk about it here. But if you feel pain all the time and sometimes feel good, this is not a sign of love.
Myth No. 2. If I don’t see my wife, it means she doesn’t exist.
She exists. In every morning, day and - sorry - night too. She lives in his phone and doesn’t always write nasty things to him. Sometimes she writes that she misses you and asks for candy. And he smiles and writes something that would make your and I’s ears turn red. They have their own evening rituals, half-hints, jokes that only they understand. They have a whole life in which you are not and have not been. And damn, she has value to him. That is why he lies to you goodbye with his sad eyes and runs headlong there. Home. To my wife. Believe me, it exists. Very much exists. And she does this every day. I had the good fortune of being friends with my man’s wife—the Santa Barbara of my psyche was doing strange somersaults. I was unpleasantly surprised by how similar they were. These are very close people, with a huge common backpack behind them. True, she was more honest and kinder than him. And she loved me very much, even me, because at that time I was in his habitat.
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Myth No. 3. He doesn’t love her, he has nothing to talk about with her.
Stop right there. Let's go in order. It was to her that he proposed to spend their life together. Or he just agreed to it. He knelt down or chose a special place, he made up words or listened to her inertly. But he took this step, you won’t believe it. He did with her what he has not yet, it seems, dared to do with you. Live together every damn day. Seeing her in curlers, eating her signature scrambled eggs, choosing perfume for the Eighth of March, going to stupid stores to buy a warm jacket for yourself and a new hat for her. And so all my life, guess what? Wife is not a dirty word. This is a measure of a man's determination. And, apparently, the measure of his real feelings. And it seems that there was a strategic reserve of this feeling and this determination. Where did they take him? That's their question, baby. Only them. Not ours.
Myth No. 4. He loves me.
We stop again. Let's re-read the previous paragraph. And we try to repeat this mantra again. If it doesn’t roll, we feel the ears. We remove the stuck noodles from them and stop loving them. Ears are not for love, no. They are there to listen to music, birdsong, your child’s breathing. And we learn to judge a man’s love by his deeds. So what did he do out of love for you? Just give me some garlic. He, joyfully rejoicing, presented you to the world? Did he take you to his damn mother at their infinitely distant summer cottage (just don’t lie that it doesn’t matter to you)? Did he care about your values and include them in his plans of action? Is he honest about his intentions and open to real, behind-the-scenes relationships? Does he have anything to offer you other than scanty words and password-protected appearances? Did he buy a damn ring, pick a damn romantic place, and choose the damn right words? What matters to him is what you sweat about at night when you suddenly wonder if he has sex with his wife??? But what if! (I don’t want to upset you, but most likely there is - they are married. And the worst thing is that this will not be cheating on you, no. You are not his wife. He is cheating on her with you.) In short, he at least did something in confirmation of your endless SMS and tearful revelations? Or is he hanging on your ears and nobly nagging you about his lost life and responsibility for those he tamed? In a word, take a closer look at your ears. And use them as intended. It’s better to at least fill them with wax for a while, like the old wizard from Cinderella, so that evil people don’t use them for their “love.”
Myth No. 5. I am completely satisfied with everything, I am a person of broad modern views.
“...The Russian man is broad, too broad, I would narrow it down!” You and I are not touching on the topic of professional transactions now, it’s not interesting. We are not talking about a business where a man gets his bullish thrill and a woman gets her due bonus. We are about love, ears, modernity and geometry. We're talking about the soul. Let's rewind and try to find that moment in your life in which you castrated yourself for the sake of something. In which you began to talk smartly about freedom, equality and brotherhood. In which you decided that a full-fledged diet is unnecessary, a sandwich on the run is enough. When you shut down children's fairy tales with pictures about a knight and a princess in a tower, about victories over dragons and koshchei, about “the only woman and the only man” and chose Samantha Jones as your ideal. Listen, do you need it? Are you really like that? There is another organ in the human body. It's called "Heart". Try to listen to it, is it not whining about anything? Are you really okay with a quickie in a hotel? Or do you want radiant, open, fabulous, damn knightly devotion? Be honest with this body. Because he is the one created for love. And believe me, in our faint modernity, love still exists. And she is still the same - honest, open, ready for anything. She doesn't change anymore. She is alone at all times.
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Myth No. 6. He will “ripen”, come to me, and everything will be different for us. We will be happy.
We know, we swam, we tell you. He “ripened”, came, and we had the same crap for four years - with complications. Only I found myself in the wife’s place in this geometric equation. Because this is not about her, his hateful wife. And in him, who doesn’t know how to work in a relationship and is used to running around for quick doping. He is simply unable to take responsibility for his choices. Be honest and loyal. To be in sorrow and in joy. He needs someone third, fourth, tenth to take his “soul” and loins away. Perhaps someday it will change, this cannot be ruled out. But it’s not “your love” that will change him, baby. Your love is not able to form someone else's moral framework. This is everyone’s personal work, alone with themselves. Therefore, get ready for a dizzying flight under the circus dome - to the place of his former wife. When he and his suitcase come knocking on your door.
Myth No. 7. Their relationship hasn’t been going well for a long time, and I have nothing to do with it. Our love simply became a catalyst in this half-life reaction blah blah blah.
Yeah, and there was a piano in the bushes by chance. Let's start with the main thing. What should fall apart will fall apart without our participation. And if it doesn’t fall apart, it means it’s holding together. And there is no need to put a charge of dynamite under something that is crooked, but standing. We do not have title to this building. It's alien. And is it holding up so poorly that all our tears, reproaches, mental anguish, delicious dinners and fishnet stockings are not able to destroy it? One friend, decorating my auditory organs with noodles, called his marriage a “business project” in the name of a child. It took me a while to understand that not every business can survive 10 years. In the process, their project is not so bad, alas for me.
Myth No. 8. These are my feelings, and I love him - no matter who he is with.
This is where it gets tricky. Here is the myth of selfless love. And it’s really difficult to get through it. Here you will have to deal with Love with a capital L, and this is a slippery topic, many people have broken their legs on it... But let's talk about Love, come on. Let's try to understand who you love? His? Or a “bright image”, which is not necessarily related to the original. Most likely, it does not, because the producer of this image is you. And this real guy was produced by someone else. And the chance that your drawings coincide is minimal. Do you know him, the real one? How does he argue that his wife doesn’t need such expensive creams, how does he whine when he is sent to buy vegetables, how does he not want to play with his son, but wants to watch football? Love is a daily joint action, weaving, creativity. And his habitat is reality. And only her. Everything else may not be bad, but it’s fantasy. It is critically important not to confuse these two poles.
Why you shouldn't complain about your husband
