Psychological anchors: concept, definition, methods of formation, installation and removal, application in psychology

Anchored Emotions

There is such a profession - to defend the homeland!
For example, once in a person’s life he encountered an event that aroused strong emotions in him. The circumstances of this event (clouds, trees, a large mustachioed man, a brown dog, i.e. colors, shapes, smells, sensations) are recorded by the person’s unconscious (anchored), and, even being forgotten, when reproduced many years later, cause a similar emotional reaction.

Just to estimate, in mentally healthy people the share of negative anchored emotions among all other emotions is 10%. For neurotics - up to 30%.

Anchoring an emotion can be either accidental or intentional, arbitrary.

For example, while visiting, you experienced a surge of inspiration and decided that it would be nice to give yourself the same state of inner mood later, when you need to speak in front of an audience at work. To do this, you can pinch yourself moderately-strongly, for example, on your left earlobe. That is, anchor on a state of inspiration. Later, when the need arises to “remember” this emotional state and raise it in yourself, it will be enough for you to pinch yourself once again on your left earlobe. Over time, the strength of the anchor decreases - the anchor is worn out and will need to be reinstalled.

Anchoring is a fairly common pedagogical technique.

Watch the video “There is such a profession - to defend the homeland!” To create interest in finding a calling, the words of an authoritative senior comrade end with a view of the Sublime Mountains against the backdrop of Sublime Music) - anchoring is arranged by touching the hand (pay attention!), sublime pictures and sublime music.

Anchored emotions erase themselves over time, unless they are supported by beliefs and convictions.

“I will never forgive myself for this!” “It’s impossible to forget this, it will stay with me for the rest of my life!”

An anchored emotion can be interrupted by another strong emotion or removed by desensitization. Sleep, baths, sex, sports - and any other procedures that create a relaxing effect - help to remove negative anchored emotions. Another useful line, usually used after relaxing procedures, is distraction, switching to other impressions and activities.

People who worry the longest are usually people who are not very busy and who have a lot of time for memories and experiences. Busy people are usually busy doing things, not worrying. People in the village have the least amount of depression and worry: milk a cow in the morning, chop wood, light the stove, go for water - there’s a lot of things to do, there’s no time to worry.

Text of the book “NLP. Techniques that change lives"

Kinesthetic anchors

Let us remind you that we include tactile sensations, as well as smells and tastes in the area of kinesthetics. How does our state change depending on whether we put on a business suit or a dressing gown and slippers, even if we did not look at ourselves in the mirror at all (we exclude visual anchoring)? Professional soldiers are well aware of the difference in condition depending on whether their uniform is a bulletproof vest or a training suit.

Let's remember how the smell of cut grass makes us feel. What happens to our attitude towards an adult woman if suddenly she smells of the perfume that our mother smelled like when she came home from the cold when we were little? How do we feel when a dish prepared by someone tastes exactly the same as what our grandmother once prepared?

Kinesthetic anchors are one of the most powerful influence anchors.
In psychotherapy, there are a number of powerful anchoring techniques, which mainly use kinesthetic tactile anchors. Using anchors: unprofessional and professional
First, I would like to give examples of how not to

. Let's remember what gifts and souvenirs are, how we choose them and how we give them. It’s hard not to agree that the ability to properly present a gift is no less important than the gift itself. A striking example of how not to present souvenirs are sometimes representatives of companies imposing pens or cups with its logos. Looking later at such a thing, a person remembers some obsessive, wretched type, and it is this memory that will determine his attitude towards the company.

What matters is not so much that

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Souvenirs with logos can be given only after a representative of the company has calibrated or received a direct verbal message that the client, actual or potential, is sincerely interested in the activities and products of this company. Having pleasantly communicated with him for some time (of course, in rapport), a representative of the company can say goodbye: “It was very nice to meet you, this will remind you of our company.”

What is a talisman? Still the same anchor. But the one who provides a “working” talisman is a true anchoring professional.

Where the sea always splashes on deserted rocks
(aud.),
Where the moon shines brighter in the late hour of the evening darkness
(visual),
Where, enjoying the harems, a Muslim spends his days
(kinest.),
There the sorceress, caressing, handed me a talisman
(anchoring),
And, caressing, she spoke : “Keep my talisman
(kinest. - aud. anchor):
It has a mysterious power, it was given to you by love
(parting words)”...
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This is the magical atmosphere the sorceress created in all modalities before handing over the talisman, accompanying it with the placement of a powerful kinesthetic anchor (“caressing”). And she didn’t forget to say the right accompanying words – parting words.

We often have to use talismans in our work, especially with children who love to play fairy tales. And sometimes the “scientific talisman” is in great demand by quite adult people who, like children, believe in the “scientific fairy tale”...

And in love... My God, how many stupid things these lovers sometimes do, not understanding some of the laws of anchoring! Here is one real example of a failed anchor. A young man feels that his relationship with his girlfriend is crumbling. In order to somehow impress her, he gives her a bouquet - 101 roses - and says: “This is our love.” The girl, of course, was pleasantly flattered and touched at the moment of presenting the roses. But then, when the flowers end up at her house, they inevitably begin to wither, which perfectly correlates with the young man’s words “This is our love”!

It is strictly not recommended for spouses to quarrel in the bedroom, otherwise this room will soon become unsuitable for anything more pleasant. If you want to advance in the skill of setting the “correct” love anchors, reconsider “Nine and a Half Weeks” as a training manual. By the way, the film is also good because it quite convincingly shows that in love “you can’t live by anchors alone”...

I would like to give an example of incorrect anchoring from the field of parent-child relationships. Parents turned to a psychologist about a mysterious phenomenon: a four-year-old child begins to cry as soon as his mother wants to hug him.

After a detailed collection of information, it turns out that the mother, a supporter of the theory of raising “independent” children, allowed herself to hug the child only in cases when he was very upset about something and cried. Naturally, when she wanted to hug him just like that for once, the child began to cry, because the repeatedly established kinesthetic anchor worked, firmly connecting the child’s internal state with a certain kinesthetic sensation.

In connection with the above-described case, I would like to remind you that loving parental hugs, when they testify to unconditional love no matter what state the child is in, themselves become a powerful resource anchor when the child needs help and support.
Practical recommendations for current life on the topic “Anchoring”
One client complained that she always felt bad in the bedroom - just like when she had morning sickness attacks during pregnancy three years ago. During our conversation, we found out that three years ago she had been sick for most of her pregnancy and usually stayed in bed because she was too weak to get up. There was a pink bedspread on the bed at the time. About two months ago, the new green bedspread got dirty, so the woman put the same pink one on the bed again. That's when she started to feel bad when she found herself in the bedroom.

If there are objects in the house that remind you of something unpleasant or were given by someone you don't like, get rid of them, no matter how much they cost.

For important meetings, wear only those clothes in which you have already felt confident and calm more than once. You should not wear clothes for some time in which you have experienced great troubles. By the way, the Zulus (an African tribe) generally burn such “unlucky clothes.” We, of course, do not suggest literally repeating this ritual, but we advise at least metaphorically and practically updating it by washing it or taking it to the dry cleaner.

If the conversation or negotiations “didn’t work out” in a specific place (office, restaurant), if possible, resume them in another place and in a different environment. And never turn your bedroom into an office by talking with your spouse about business in places where the atmosphere should not be businesslike!

Do not hug your loved one when calibration clearly shows you that he is not pushing you away solely out of politeness and respect for you. In this case, when you later want to hug him, you unwittingly simultaneously activate his negative attitude towards your touch. You can touch your loved ones only when you are sure that they are inclined to do so, so your touch will always be a reliable anchor for certain resource states.

Improve the art of gift giving. Don’t leave a “fading memory” of yourself when you want to save your relationship. It is much better to give a beautiful T-shirt, decorating the gift with appropriate words and touch.

If you are going through a life crisis, you have an easy and reliable way to get out of it by changing your anchors: rearrange your room, wear your watch on the other hand, change your hairstyle, clothing style, start taking a different route to work.

When moving with your partner from discussing a problem to ways to solve it, be sure to change your posture and tone of voice.

Two techniques for setting a resource anchor

Technique “Placing an anchor on a resourceful state of calm”
The meaning of the technique

We have already said a lot above how important it is to be able to connect your touch with pleasant resource emotions in a person - be it a loved one or a psychotherapeutic client (a patient with a doctor). The technique is based on the knowledge of psychologists that living an experience in memories in all three modalities is equivalent to actually living an experience (and sometimes it is lived even more strongly, since in real life we rarely “suffer” from being fully present at any given moment). If we correctly associate our specific touch with our partner’s intense experience of bright, pleasant emotions, then the next time we resume exactly the same touch, the partner will experience those same anchored resource emotions. Thus, you can quietly lift a person’s mood or support him at the right time.

Step by step

The exercise is performed in pairs: Client – Therapist.

Before moving directly to the exercise, ask the client where he wants to find a point, touching which in any situation will immediately cause him to have a resourceful state.

1. Ask your partner to remember a place in nature where he regularly feels complete mental and physical peace, comfort and relaxation. It would be a grave mistake to ask to remember a state of calm: it is necessary that the resource experience be associated with a specific place

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Please name this place, specifying what time of year and time of day he sees there. From this moment on, the client is silent, and only the therapist speaks!
Otherwise, the client will “talk” the experience instead of actually living it. Really experiencing an experience should never be replaced by talking about that experience .

2. Invite the client to mentally transport himself to the resource location he has chosen. From now on, we talk about the client’s experiences only in the present tense in order to enhance the effect of inclusion in a pleasant experience

3. We help the client live a resource experience in all three modalities: “And now that you are already there, pay attention to what you see around you, what sounds there, what it smells like there...”

4. As soon as we notice from calibration that the client is close to the peak of resource experience, we gently fix our hand on a pre-selected point on the client’s body. Here you should remember rule No. 5 of setting the anchor. It is not a fact that the end of our therapeutic monologue, dedicated to guiding the client through all modalities, will coincide with the right moment to set an anchor. Most often, we have to anchor while pronouncing the auditory modality, and we continue to talk about kinesthetics (about smells and, possibly, sensations), keeping our hand on the anchor. Let us repeat once again that the moment most favorable for setting the anchor is determined by calibration.

5. We keep our hand on the anchor for about 20-30 seconds, quietly reminding the client that we are somewhere nearby: “So... Uh-huh... Stay there...”

6. We remove our hand and gently return the client to the “here-and-now”: “Come on, look around. Do you see the flowers on the windowsill? You see, the guys are sitting and looking at you.”

7. We resume the anchor with the words: “Now look what happens.” According to calibration, if the anchor is correctly set and accurately renewed, the therapist will be able to calibrate exactly the same experiences as when the client is in a real resource experience.

8. We teach the client to independently, with his own hand, find the place of the anchor on himself and accurately reproduce it.

Environmental friendliness

Without mastery of calibration and rapport, you should absolutely not try to anchor. Calibration ensures the communicator is confident that he is anchoring a powerful resource and not something else. In addition, something unusual and rather strange, albeit pleasant, happens to the client at this moment; but this “strange and pleasant” is absolutely not under his control. That is why rapport is vital for the client to feel safe and feel “right” in everything that happens to him.

It is not without reason that we suggest choosing a place connected with nature to set a resource anchor for tranquility. Experience shows that, no matter how severe the client’s condition, nature acts on him as the most powerful resource, which is also universal for any condition and any situation of the client. And, for example, a comfortable, calm state “at home in a chair in front of the TV” is incomparably weaker than the peace experienced from contact with nature.

And one more important advantage of a resource place in nature, and not indoors. Colleagues have more than once had to deal with a situation where a client, having been transported to some resource house, suddenly in a trance began to live another story associated with this place (the death of a beloved grandmother, the departure of her husband, etc.). It is clear that the anchoring technique stopped at this point and other work began.

Focus on linguistics

1. “Remember the place where you regularly experience the necessary resource experience.” God forbid a colleague blurt out something like “Remember the place where you were

Fine".

2. We don’t say gags. The client very meticulously separates “his” from “not his”, and he is absolutely right. If a person said that his resource place is “grandmother’s garden, the time of year is spring, the time of day is morning,” in our therapeutic speech we have the right to operate only with this information: “Pay attention to what you see around you in the spring in grandma’s garden... The spring garden has some special sounds, especially in the morning... And the smell... The spring morning smell of the garden..." God forbid a therapist starts broadcasting his

a vision of a garden, morning, spring, and even the client’s grandmother! For example, a therapist may dream that there are cherries in the garden, and he will say: “Look at the cherries, how they rustle in the wind!” And in the client’s grandmother’s garden there are no cherries! In this case, a break in rapport and an uncomfortable state for the client are guaranteed. If the therapist does not understand that this is the result of his poor work, he will probably say that “the client resisted.” If the client's resource location is a forest, we can assume that there are trees there, but nothing more! There may be pine trees and pre-dawn silence in the client’s forest, and the therapist will begin to force birch trees and a cuckoo tree on him!

3. The therapist necessarily takes the client as an accomplice in what he does to him.
It is impossible for the client to feel like a guinea pig and absolutely at the mercy of the communicator. That is why we invite him to actively participate in the process, as if not hiding anything from him. From the very beginning, we invite him to choose a place for a resource anchor, which would always be easy and convenient for him to touch without attracting much attention from others. While the client is in his resource experience, with the words “so... uh-huh... good...”, pronounced as the client exhales (see “Breathing Rapport”), we confirm our presence and support, as well as the correctness of all processes occurring with the client, of course, controlled by us. Before resuming the resource anchor (clause 7), we be sure to involve the client in participating in the “miracle” that is happening: he participates in our game for two: “Now look what will happen now!” Handing over the anchor to the client (the last step) is a symbolic final act. We thus seem to give him the “control levers” of our unconscious process, which we had previously managed ourselves, albeit with his active participation. Then the process is truly carried out and completed in an environmentally friendly manner. An example of working with a client using the “Setting a Resource Anchor” technique
Client – Andrey, 25 years old, manager.

Therapist:

Andrey, where should you put your anchor for calm, so that by touching you can get instant access to a state of calm, relaxation, and tranquility? Where?

Client:

Perhaps here, on the bone of my left hand.

T.:

Great. Please remember now a specific place, preferably in nature, where you fully experience this state of peace, relaxation, tranquility... Where is it?

TO.:

This is in one place in the hilly Crimea, when you leave the house at night to get some fresh air...

T.:

At what time of year do you experience this condition there?

TO.:

It's early autumn, when it's warm, but the nights are already fresh, and there are a lot of stars...

T.:

Okay, Andrey.
Right now, go there, to the hilly Crimea, in early autumn, under the starry sky... ( The client smiles.
) Pay attention to what you see around you... when you go out at night to get some fresh air... Usually at night under the starry sky, and even in the hilly Crimea , there are many very special sounds... (
The client begins to look in front of him with a defocused gaze, breathing deepens. The therapist places an anchor in the agreed upon place and holds it, continuing to speak quietly in rapport.
) And at the same time there is a very special smell there... in the hilly Crimea... at night... in autumn... under the starry sky... (
The client looks motionlessly in front of him with a defocused gaze, breathing is even and deep, his cheeks are slightly pink, the corners of his lips are raised.
) So... Okay... Stay there a little longer... (
The therapist gently touches the client's shoulder.
) And now come back to us gently.
Look around: do you see flowers on the windowsill? Well done! ( The client completely returns to the real situation: he smiles, looks around, etc.
) Now listen to me: I’m renewing that anchor right now, and look what’s happening to you... (
The therapist resumes the anchor. The client’s eyes immediately begin to become unfocused look somewhere in front of you, your breathing immediately deepens and slows down, your microfacial expressions are completely consistent with what you had when setting the anchor for calm
.) Just like that, great.
You can come back to us again. ( Touches the client on the shoulder again.
) Now you just have to learn how to renew your anchor yourself in order to gain access to this experience.
Here with your fingers... ( Helps the client find the right place with his fingers and touch it exactly.
) That's it... Got it!
I see I got it. ( The client sits with microfacial expressions, gaze and breathing that fully correspond to the desired state.
) That, in fact, is all. You now know how to use the anchor you set for peace of mind. Thank the unconscious and use it when necessary for your health, just don’t renew it too often unnecessarily: it can quickly get “overwritten.”

Almost exactly the same, but with minor differences, the anchor is placed on a state of self-confidence. And in general, practice convinces us that in most cases, calmness and self-confidence are the most sought-after qualities, despite their seeming banality. In this regard, we propose to learn how to set anchors for both of these qualities separately. We will not repeat ourselves, describing in detail almost the same steps as in the previous technique, but we will pay special attention to the differences in anchoring calmness from anchoring the resource of self-confidence.

First of all, it should be remembered that the therapist, who is, as we dare to hope, the “leader” in pair with the client, the state when anchoring on self-confidence should be very different from the state when anchoring on calmness. Naturally, in both cases, high-quality rapport is necessary. Figuratively speaking - more precisely, speaking in the language of sounds - when setting the anchor on calmness, the therapist quietly “murmurs”, and when setting the anchor on self-confidence, he speaks quite rhythmically and energetically. There is also a difference in muscle tone. When setting the anchor for calm, the muscles are relaxed as much as possible, but to the extent that both cannot fall asleep. When setting an anchor on self-confidence, the therapist must initially sit in a fairly energetic position and, accordingly, non-verbally force his client to take a similar position.

How to anchor a man

The whole problem is that women are very emotional, they take everything to heart and are overly trusting. Men are diametrically opposed creatures, they are like aliens: what we admire leaves them indifferent, what touches us can irritate them, what is necessary and important for us has no meaning for them. Therefore, it is extremely difficult to understand what they really think and what is behind their actions.

Men perceive sex very differently than women. For most, this is simply a way to relieve stress, comparable to physical exercise that does not require emotional involvement. And a woman is a finely organized creature; for intimacy she needs a special emotional mood, she expects tenderness and affection from her partner.

Emotionality, craving for romance, and gullibility make girls and women very vulnerable. They often become easy prey for hunters of women's hearts - heartthrobs. You must firmly understand: the gentle romantic advances of a heartthrob are just a way to get your attention, to make you fall in love with yourself. When the goal is achieved, he will begin to use you the way he wants, manipulate your feelings and emotions, you will become a puppet in his hands.

A heartthrob is a real pick-up guy (pick-up, in addition to “casual acquaintance,” also means “catch a car,” and this word also translates as “successful purchase”). The heartthrob’s only goal is to “pick up” a girl and sleep with her. This is a person who only wants sex from you. He will achieve his goal by any means, and having received what he wants, he will lose all interest in you. It's sad, but true - this is the harsh truth of life...

A group of psychologists and I decided to conduct such an experiment. We invited guys from the male pickup school to our classes to see how the girls would react to them. Moreover, the girls knew in advance that these were pick-up artists - masters of quick “picking”. During a joint acting class, all participants engaged in an intellectual game, the goal of which was to achieve a state of self-confidence. Then we asked them to write about their impressions and partners. And what? The girls described their emotions, from which it followed that they had fallen under the charm of the young men and were ready to see the long-awaited “princes” in them. Men paid attention to how the girls moved their lips, their figures, and all their thoughts were about sex, about what girls are like in bed!

Therefore, remember the main women's commandment: DO NOT DECLARE!

Not only heartthrobs, but also ordinary men, see in a woman, first of all, an object for satisfying their sexual desires. In one old song there are these words: “If I invented you, become what I want!” So remember: a man will never become what you want, not out of harm, but because he is by nature DIFFERENT. But if a worthy man will not pretend to get you into bed without spending a penny, then heartthrobs are masters at doing this, so for the sake of your own safety, you need to learn to identify them at first sight.

How to recognize a heartthrob?

As a rule, such a man is well dressed, elegant, well-groomed. He is proactive, he can be the first to approach you on the street or sit down at a table in a cafe without an invitation, he will persistently impose his communication, although you did not give any reason for this. A heartthrob man looks at a girl as a sex object. He immediately begins to seduce. The heartthrob is eloquent and does not skimp on compliments. He understands women well and knows who to say what to: to admire their intelligence or sex appeal, that is, to influence the mind or instincts. Skillfully uses such an effective weapon as touch (scientifically speaking, uses tactile contact, or “anchoring”).

When such a man comes up to you and begins to gain your trust, be careful! In neurolinguistic programming (NLP) there is such a psychological term - “attaching to a person.” The heartthrob professionally joins in - agrees with everything you say, supports you emotionally, says: “Yes, yes, yes. And me too…". This is just an NLP technique that allows you to tune in to the same wavelength as a person. And then they just start manipulating you.

Here's an example of manipulation: A heartthrob walks by and sharply says to a girl: “Throw away that hat, it doesn’t suit you.” It would seem nonsense? But no. The heartthrob knows perfectly well what will happen next... The girl first falls into a stupor, and then begins to panic: “Why throw away your hat, do I look bad?” And he immediately joins the dialogue: “Why, why throw it away?” And subconsciously becomes dependent on his opinion. I would like to immediately get advice on which hat is best. And that’s all the heartthrob needs. This is a very common trick of pick-up artists and heartthrobs.

You need to develop immunity against such tricks and not fall for them. Always be alert and immediately “use your brain”: why is a man telling me this? Be careful, you cannot react thoughtlessly to male provocations. Touches are even more dangerous than words - it is very difficult for a woman to resist them. In the male pickup technique, the touch is called an “anchor.” Men are taught how to touch a woman in order to “anchor” her—to establish physical contact.

Therefore - CAUTION AND AGAIN CAUTION! If a man shows you too much attention, excessive activity and excessive persistence, showers you with compliments from the first meeting, tries to gain your trust, do not succumb to provocation. You don’t have to think: “I’m just so beautiful, so he came up to me...”. Of course, you are beautiful, and of course, he approached because you attracted his attention - spectacular, sexy girls more often become the objects of the advances of heartthrobs. But this is not a reason to succumb to seduction. “Yes, I'm beautiful. Yes - gorgeous. Yes - sexy. But you are not the one I need! — this should be the internal setting.

So, remember: the heartthrob pick-up artist always has a specific goal. Heartthrobs know how to exploit women's weaknesses. And then the torment, tears, worries begin: “Why did he leave me, why does he have ten more like him.” Don’t be surprised if later he tells your mutual acquaintances what positions, how and what he did with you.

Before talking about the use of various NLP techniques (methods) in the context of dating and seducing a girl, you should first define the very concept of “NLP technique” and list the most common NLP techniques. So, the NLP technique is an organized abstract sequence of actions aimed at achieving a result in an optimal way and guaranteeing the effectiveness of its work regardless of the level of skill of the practitioner, that is, it has universal applicability. It is important to note that a separate NLP technique or methodology can, in turn, use other NLP techniques, that is, there is some nesting and hierarchy of techniques. Each of the NLP techniques is designed to solve specific problems and is applicable in their respective fields.

Currently, the following basic NLP techniques are distinguished:

Calibration
Modalities and systems of representation of experience
Access keys
NLP Presuppositions
Congruence/Incongruence Analysis
Oculomotor patterns
Tuning (body, breathing, rhythm, voice, keywords, representational systems, beliefs, identity)
Maintaining
Anchoring, working with anchors (collapse, integration, stack and chain of anchors)
Submodalities (contrast analysis of submodalities, identification of critical submodality)
Literal reframing
Changing Beliefs Using Submodalities
Emotional deflation
Circles of Power
Simple reframing (context, content and outframing)
Complex reframing or language tricks (enlarging a frame, specifying elements within a frame, shifting to another frame)
Meta-model (lack of information, limitation of the interlocutor’s model, semantic violations)
Inverted Meta Model
Milton's model (indirect messages, embedded messages and hidden commands, vagueness and vagueness of expression)
Formation of trance (breaking the pattern, distortion of reality, etc.)

We are mainly interested in the pickup truck and everything connected with it.
Therefore, we will consider NLP techniques characteristic of this practical direction of human thought. Anchoring technique.

The anchor technique can be successfully used in the process of seducing a girl. An anchor is any stimulus associated with a certain emotional or physiological state and triggers the manifestation of this state by association. Thus, by activating the anchor, the corresponding behavior associated with a given stimulus is evoked in a person. You can either install anchors yourself and then activate them, or cause the girl to express any feelings by joining the anchors already installed in the past. For example, in the process of communicating with a girl, you found out that she is extremely romantic; when making love, she prefers leisurely behavior, long foreplay in an intimate setting, and the gallantry of a gentleman. To induce frivolous loving behavior in her and get her in the mood for sex, you will need to invite her to a secluded nest with a romantic atmosphere and gradually lead her to the most important thing. Or, let’s say, you know how to give a massage well and offer to demonstrate your skill to a new friend. She agreed and in the end did not regret it, saying that she had never felt so pleased. If you give the girl a few more sessions, you will thereby establish an anchor that tunes her to a certain physiological state. One evening, with a completely “harmless” intention, you invite her home and the first thing you do is give her a massage (activate the anchor). Next, you just have to take advantage of her state of bliss.

"Destruction" of current boyfriend.

At some stage of your acquaintance with a girl, she may say that she has a boyfriend and that it is better for you not to meet... Just in such cases of difficulties in a relationship with a girl, you should use the “The Boyfriend Destroyer” technique. Let's assume that she really does have a permanent boyfriend, although sometimes girls talk about this so that you get rid of them. The essence of this technique is a hidden hypnotic effect on a girl’s subconscious using various speech and non-verbal techniques in order to change her attitude towards her boyfriend (from positive to neutral) and promote his image in her mind to the background.

If your task is to take a girl’s phone number or invite her on a first date, and she declares that her heart is already taken, then you can use the following technique. You can subject her to disguised suggestion by using the so-called “reality alteration” technique and various workaround phrases. The purpose of the suggestion is for her to imagine that she has known you for a long time, that you have met many times and that she felt good with you... For example, in response you say: “This is not surprising... It would be strange if you didn’t have a boyfriend. You probably value your feelings for him, and I value loyalty in girls. But try to imagine it in a different way, how suddenly you just wanted to meet and chat with me a little. Imagine how we spend time together, talk and walk, how fun and good we are together... Maybe we are very suitable for each other. If you can imagine this, then we should arrange a meeting. Will tomorrow evening suit you?” As a result of such influence by changing the context, the girl may become interested and agree to continue dating. There are other possible scenarios for your manipulation of her consciousness in order to remove the ill-fated boyfriend from there. One of these techniques is based on constant monitoring and interpretation of her state based on non-verbal signals (calibration) with the simultaneous use of speech patterns like “Imagine as if ...” and Ericksonian hypnosis gestures attacking her audiovisual input system.

“Closer-further” technique and derivative techniques.

This technique is considered purely feminine, but why not adopt it for us men? The technique aims to interest the girl you like and keep her near you through the method of contrasts. To do this, first there is a constant process of courting a girl, winning her heart, attempts are made to get closer and increased attention is paid to her on your part - the “Closer” stage. Then comes the “Next” stage, when you deliberately reduce your interest in her, pay very little attention to her, or avoid meeting her, thereby moving away from her. After the advances you have given, it acts on the girl like a cold shower, causing a storm of indignation and indignation in her soul. The durations of these contrasting stages should be approximately the same in time. Next, if your intentions towards the girl are still serious, you initiate a new stage “Closer”. You again show interest in her, but you no longer seek her attention with the same intensity, however, you can ask or insist on some services. This way you can force her to play by your rules, while continuing to feed her with illusions.

Based on the “Closer-Far” technique, a number of derivative techniques have been developed that pursue different goals and are applicable in appropriate contexts.

For example, the “Pendulum” technique is used to seduce women who themselves often practice “Closer-Farther”. You play your game in parallel with the girl, who, in turn, plays her own game. The point is that you first initiate the “Closer” stage, and then, of equal duration, the “Further” stage, without paying attention to the woman’s play. If your “Further” stage coincides with her “Closer” stage, stick to your line and don’t give in to her rules. This is followed by the second swing of the “pendulum” with successive stages of “Closer” and “Farther”, but with shorter durations of the stages. Then again the oscillation with a smaller “amplitude” and so on until the stages become one-day. By this moment, the girl will be in a disassembled state and confused, because, although you are with her, you are not playing her game at the same time. The rapprochement she has planned will not have any effect on you, thereby forcing her to move closer and closer to you. All that remains is to catch the girl’s moment of maximum “Closer” and selfishly take advantage of it.

The “Needle Prick” technique is useful for shaking up an established relationship with a girl in those moments when she becomes arrogant and tries to sit on your neck. Actually, a “needle prick” is a kon, performed with the maximum permissible intensity, so as not to completely frighten the girl and to achieve the desired effect. The injection should be given at a time when your relationship consists entirely of positive moments for her and is developing in the way she needs. For you, this state of affairs becomes boring and wrong, so you try to “break the pattern” with the help of an injection. After the injection, you should apologize for your “inappropriate” behavior as quickly as possible. As a result of the impact of the injection, the girl should understand that you can be unpredictable and she did not have time to get to know you completely. This shakes her up and, as a rule, makes her think about improving your future relationship, because she hardly needs such “surprises” in the future.

Another special case of the “Closer-further” method is the “plus-minus” technique, used during a conversation as an advanced means of making a great compliment. The main emphasis here is on the contrast between the girl's positive assessment (plus) and her negative assessment (minus). First, the minus is pronounced, then the plus, and in terms of emotional impact, the plus should be much stronger than the minus. For example, the following compliment would be correct: “That woman has pretty sexy hips, but she’s very far from yours...”

An interesting derivative technique called “Removing the Mask”. The sequence of actions is as follows: you get acquainted, try to give the impression of a “macho” and cold-blooded man, and if you have impressed and interested her with your “bulletproof” appearance, at some point you tear off the mask and demonstrate all your human qualities: sensitivity, responsiveness, vulnerability , tenderness, etc. But don’t take off the “tough” guy mask for as many hours as it takes for her to get used to your fake image. Try to match your new role in all the smallest details. Patterns of your behavior should be fixed in her head. Then break the mold and show her your true colors. Such a contrast will cause her some shock and emotional dissonance - akin to a slight hypnotic effect on her subconscious. This will bring her closer to you. In the future, it will be useful to periodically put on and take off the mask.

As a development of the contrasts technique, a special case of acupuncture is known - the “opinion in a cube” technique. This technique is used to impress a girl and make her interested in you. Simple compliments in this case are not enough. Your task is to first put her in an uncertain, anxious and uncomfortable state, and then make her feel euphoric and elated. The options for implementing such a contrasting transition of states are determined by your creativity and resourcefulness. It is precisely this sharp contrast between states that probably transforms a woman into a special, extremely emotional perception of external stimuli. The effectiveness and, most importantly, the effectiveness of your efforts will be guaranteed.

Another modification of the “Closer-Far” technique is the technique according to which you tell the girl about your disappointment in her and/or about the erroneous assumption that you love her. It is necessary that you are already sufficiently familiar with her and that for her she is not at all an empty place. To influence her psychology, you declare your delusion when you thought that you loved her, but for some reason you realized that this was not so, and, probably, you are not suitable for each other. Then an incomprehensible mechanism starts up for her, and she realizes that she doesn’t want to lose you. She will hang around your neck, convincing you that everything is not so bad with you...

Various speech techniques of hypnotic influence.

Before manipulating a girl's consciousness, you first need to join her and induce a trance. There are many methods for this: mirroring gestures; adjustment to posture, movements and breathing; pattern break; altered reality; polar reality, etc.

A person does many things automatically, routinely, without thinking at all about what he is doing, and without breaking his actions into component parts. If a person’s pattern of actions is broken, then in a moment of complete confusion you can inspire him with anything. This popular technique is called “template breaking,” which has become almost the main line of behavior for pickup artists.

If for some reason a girl doesn’t want to pay attention to you, then you should try to use adjustments. First, you should adapt to her pose, and your pose should completely repeat her pose, or be its mirror image. The second stage should be adjusting to breathing. You should pay attention to the breathing structure: girls usually breathe with their chest, and men with their stomach. Tracking your breathing and repeating it will not be difficult. A person who has adjusted to our posture and breathing instantly stands out from the crowd, makes a favorable impression, evokes sympathy and subconscious trust. If in this case there is no positive reaction from her for you, you need to come up and say something like “I’m glad to tell you that you are the most beautiful and persistent girl I have ever met!” Thus, you will “break the pattern” and join her.

Then you can use speech techniques of Ericksonian hypnosis, which can overload her consciousness. Let's give just a couple of them.

According to the technique of assumptions, with the help of figures of speech indicating the time or sequence of actions, sentences are constructed that allow the occurrence of a certain behavioral reaction. For example, you say to a girl you just met, “Before you give me your phone number, take my business card.”

When using the “Right of Choice” technique, drawing the girl’s attention with your intonation to the reaction you want to evoke in her, you seem to offer her complete freedom of choice. She feels relief because she begins to understand that she does not have to react in any particular way. You should use a dismissive tone to emphasize the reaction that does not suit you. “I suggest you go on a date with me tonight... Or do you not date guys at all?” - you tell her during the meeting. Here is another example: “I see that you are not very busy and, therefore, I would like to keep you company... You don’t like loneliness and boredom, do you?!”

Summarizing the information provided about NLP techniques, we can state the following: no matter what a woman says, no matter what she does, you will always have a response weapon that will help you achieve your goal.

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How to anchor a man

Unmethylated CpG DNA motifs

predominate in bacteria but not in vertebrate genomic DNA and are recognized by host cells bearing TLR9. TLR9 is not expressed on the cell surface but is localized in vesicles associated with lysosomes. Some CpG motifs are very potent NK cell activators and induce INF-u production by lymphoid dendritic cells (DC2), while other motifs are potent B cell activators that trigger the cell cycle and antibody secretion. Nonspecific activation of innate immunity by CpG motifs, based on data obtained in animal models, may enhance resistance to intracellular infection and sepsis.

It was discovered that CpG

promote the formation of a Th1 T-cell response to a greater extent than the gold standard, Freund's complete adjuvant, as assessed by their ability to direct the differentiation of cytolytic T-lymphocytes and INF-y secreting cells. Stimulation of the immune system by bacterial CpG motifs causes the production of numerous cytokines, including IL-12, INF-y, TNF-nt and I-6 by monocytes/macrophages, DCs, expression of costimulatory molecules on APCs, proliferation of B lymphocytes, and production of immunoglobulins.

Lipoarabinomannans

(LAMs) are lipoglycans restricted in Micobacterium genes. The carbohydrate contains a D-mannan core and a D-arabinan domain. The mannan core is constrained by a glycosyl-phosphatidylinositol anchor, and the arabinan domain binds to mannosyl (ManLAM) or phosphoinositide residues (PILAM). The content of PILAMs predominates in rapidly growing microorganisms (M. smegmatis) and PILAMs activate mammalian cells that secrete TNF and IL-12 through signals coming from TLR2. In contrast, ManLam is not a TLR2 agonist.

RNA double helices

(DsRNA) are produced by many viruses during their infection cycle. DsRNA induce activation of protein kinase R through recognition of TLR3, which is expressed predominantly on myeloid DCs, making them the primary targets for initiating the innate response against viruses. In TLR3-deficient mice, the response to viral RNA and polyinosinic-polycytidylic acid (poly l:C) is correspondingly reduced.

Cyclophosphatidylinositol-anchored molecules

(GPIs) are the predominant antigens present on the plasma membrane of protozoans such as Trypanosoma cruzi and Plasmodium falciparum. T. cruzi GPIs, through signals from TLR2, induce the production of nitric oxide, TNF, and IL-12 in mouse macrophages. GPIs are largely composed of unsaturated fatty acids required for optimal biological activity.

FimH

is a subunit of protein type 1 adhesins present in many enterobacteria - Escherichia coli and Salmonella enterica. FimH can bind directly to a GPI-anchored receptor also present on the surface of mast cells (CD48). Binding of CD48 by FimH-expressing bacteria causes entry of bacteria into caveolae chambers, which allows bacterial survival in the cytoplasm and promotes the release of inflammatory mediators by mast cells.

Glycans

and pectins from parasites, for example, eggs of Schistosoma mansoni or filarial nematodes, initiate a response independent of TLRs mechanisms, but induce a powerful Th2 response. For example, through cross-linking of S. mansoni egg lectins with IgE on basophils—producers of IL-4 and IL-13.

In recent years it has become apparent that TLRs

can recognize a number of endogenous products, the appearance of which indicates the presence of another danger (not of an infectious nature). Endogenous activators of innate immunity include: heat shock proteins, fibrinogen, hyaluronic acids, uric acid.