A vacation is remembered not only by the sea, good weather and sights, but also by a beautiful resort romance, because it is this that gives the most unforgettable impressions. We tell you what to do if your soul demands continuation and you don’t want to be disappointed.
It can disappear into memories or develop into true love and a strong union. No matter what happens, you will definitely get a great experience and bright emotions. Follow the tips on how to behave on vacation and, when starting an affair on the Cote d'Azur, you will be able to act not only with your heart, but also with your mind.
Holiday Romance Rules
Natural course of things
The main rule that applies to all men is that only 20% of them are ready to continue the affair. Your goal is to relax and only then meet a man. If you want to hide it, nonverbal signs will give you away. We are not suggesting that you give up flirting and easy feelings of falling in love, but do not take special actions to stimulate this process. Let everything happen naturally, as if you yourself did not expect such a turn of events.
Be on the lookout
This point should always be kept in mind - you should not give a man a hint that he can fool you around his finger. Let's return to the first rule - 80% of the stronger sex are not going to renew the relationship, much less run to the registry office after an affair at a resort.
Self-control is paramount
The heart and head must remain cool. This is especially true for girls who fall in love very quickly. You will quickly find a handsome guy who will turn your head with his impeccable pumped up body and bottomless blue eyes, and before you even have time to come to your senses, you will lose self-control and fall in love without memory. Keep your mind and soberly assess what is happening.
Be ready to change your life and move
No matter how stunning and beautiful the holiday romance is, sooner or later the vacation will come to an end and you will board different planes.
You must understand that the likelihood that your significant other lives in the same city with you is minimal. The romance will not continue if you are definitely not ready to change location because of a man. In rare cases, a man drops everything and flies after his chosen one; this happens more often in romantic films than in reality. To avoid getting caught in the web of emotional addiction, you must make a decision in advance.
Holiday romance: How to relax to your heart's content and not go crazy from the consequences...
There is a joke among people that is similar to the truth that a woman who has returned from vacation complains to her friend that she never had a rest because a holiday romance ... This could be funny if it were not the essence of objective reality . This cannot be said about everyone, but indeed the vast majority of ladies dream of being at a resort not only to sunbathe and enjoy exotic fruits, but also to amuse themselves with a new ardent admirer, albeit with a shelf life of two weeks. However, in pursuit of resort - romantic passions, it is not difficult to fall into the thorns of this temporary love. How to get out of it? – Read the article!
Holiday romance: How to get rid of falling in love?
Holiday romances give us the opportunity to experience the full range of emotions of a romantic relationship. But few people know how to survive the end of this meeting correctly and painlessly.
Each of us, going on vacation, hopes to meet HIM on vacation, to experience passion and jealousy, longing and recklessness. And it is holiday romances that give us the opportunity to experience the whole gamut of emotions. But few of us know how to properly and painlessly survive the end of this romance, although we all understand perfectly well from the very beginning that someday, or to be more precise, in two weeks, it will end and the most real, usually familiar life will begin.
How to find balance after a crazy romance on vacation?
Unfortunately, there is no one recipe for everyone. Everyone will experience this separation more than others, because it was your love that was real, your feelings were the most sincere and the pain of separation was the most unbearable. And at that moment, when you already want to openly burst into tears at your workplace, drop everything and go to your Arab sheikh for good, it’s still worth putting a few tips into practice.
Firstly, you yourself understand that for your summer beau, the time spent with you was a wonderful fairy tale, the repetition of which in everyday life is impossible and even undesirable. The intensity of passions in the holiday romance , the male role in this fairy tale is too difficult. Therefore, you should not be upset about the separation and lack of letters, since, thinking sensibly, you will understand that your conviction that you love him in any way is also not entirely justified. After all, you don’t need “anyone”, but precisely the one: “calm, confident, courteous...”, etc. And this one, perhaps, simply does not exist in nature. This is how he was, away from everyday life, work, and problems.
Be careful - men!
It must be said that in addition to the sudden ending, the holiday romance has one more negative aspect, which, fortunately, you avoided. Not always and not all men perceive the harmless flirting of a woman on vacation quite adequately. It often happens that the slightest signs of attention are perceived as an obligation of intimacy. In such cases, it may come down to the use of force. And instead of the brought fairy tale - another psychotrauma. And only very competent and reasonable behavior of a woman, where every gesture, every look, every word spoken is verified, perhaps intuitively, can help avoid such troubles and make sure that everything happens only by the voluntary consent of the parties. Did you succeed brilliantly? This can also be considered a positive circumstance.
Do not forget that a woman has many ways to change herself, which significantly affects her well-being. Men don’t have such a wide choice; well, they won’t dye their hair red and pluck their eyebrows in patterns! But we can. Therefore, change it. Anything from hair color to work. A sort of new stage in life, with a clean slate, but with a charge of summer energy.
Crying is recommended!
But! You shouldn’t run away from thoughts about your hero, from tears, from suffering. Every psychologist will tell you that healthy depression when breaking up after a holiday romance is the norm. Such depression is not a disease, but a kind of work. And there is no way around this suffering. There is only one way to get rid of pain faster: to live it in its entirety as quickly as possible and with a clear head. Trying to escape from her will only prolong difficult feelings for months and years. Therefore, cry, cry a lot. One day you will get terribly tired of this.
Quite recently, while surfing the World Wide Web, I came across some heart-warming novel. I didn’t start reading at first, but in the end I got carried away, and even ordered the book through an online store. Imagine my surprise that the author was an ordinary girl who was running away from the depression that befell her as a result of an ending holiday romance ! This is the same idea, I thought, but, alas, I don’t any holiday romances
Share your sadness!
But if you are planning one or have already had one and you are in grief and tears, then this is the green light for you. Take it, open a blog on LiveJournal or on another resource and describe your novel with taste, with gusto, in all the smallest details. Re-live how you met, how he looked at you, how you... Not only will you throw it all out of yourself, maybe even cry in front of the monitor from the flood of memories, but you will also become the most read author!
Another great option to cope with love that suddenly appears is online forums. Oh, this is actually a very good thing, I’ll tell you. Find two or three actively visited women’s sites, start a topic there with the title “Fell in love, I’m dying”, describe your love there in detail and, most importantly, do not forget to remember something not very good, for example, if during the ideal romance your chosen one once blew his nose in your handkerchief, or, for example, one day he got drunk until a pig squealed, asked you to “stimulate” him and ... fell asleep. But write this in the context of the series: “He is so cute, so cute... I still keep that handkerchief in which he blew his nose...”. And that's it, it's done! Women are in many ways in solidarity with each other, this is one, and, secondly, you will not hear such turns of speech addressed to your chosen one, indicating what kind of a radish he is after all... a radish and not appreciating you, anywhere else. After reading a couple of pages of such reviews, you will very soon understand that your hero is a radish.
Smile and leave on time!
If you are just about to go on vacation, and you suspect that you will definitely have some kind of crazy holiday romance with an aborigine, remember one important and interesting thing: there is such a psychological trick: force yourself to smile - and your soul will immediately warm up. It’s the same with declarations of love: if you say “I love you” five times, then on the sixth you will believe it yourself. Therefore, having met, do not transfer the relationship to other tracks. You don’t need to convince yourself of eternal love for your new acquaintance, otherwise you yourself will believe it, and you yourself will suffer.
And one more thing – leave on time. As soon as you feel that your relationship is becoming too close, go to the sea, to the mountains, to a disco, to pick up a new boyfriend - it’s all the same, just leave. You came to relax, not to be burdened with problems, so you take everything easier!
Love zone
Well, and finally, you just need to find out what is really going on with you. From a scientific point of view, it has long been proven that in people in love, in the brain - the “falling in love” zone - a substance known as dopamine is produced, which makes people strongly desire something or expect reward for something. Previously, dopamine was studied using gamblers as an example, and then studies showed that winning led to a sharp release of this substance. In the case of love, it turned out that a sharp release of dopamine makes us experience passion, attraction, and lust for a person, which sometimes goes beyond the control of the mind. In our desire to achieve reciprocity, we are ready to do anything.
Interestingly, the “love zone” turned out to be located in our brain in the same place where the main centers that regulate a person’s need for food and water are located. So love, in fact, can be equated to the most natural need.
In the case of separation from a loved one after a holiday romance or a break with him, the brain’s reaction, as a rule, turns out to be extremely active. Dopamine generates the desire to be close to a loved one, and his (beloved) current absence creates a tragic contradiction of desires and needs. Scientists have proven what has been known for a long time: love does not depend on the mind, and it is useless to fight it. And a relative consolation for all those experiencing a break with a loved one can be the fact that, according to people of great intelligence, at least unhappy love cannot be eternal. The reaction of the “love zone” to the object that abandoned you gradually becomes less and less violent, and then, as a rule, stops altogether. And your brain becomes free to search for new love.
Therefore, cry as much as your soul needs, just don’t forget one thing: falling in love with holiday romance is like a runny nose - if you treat it, it will go away in seven days, and if not, then in a week...
I wish you great health and unreal attractiveness!
Author: Beauty-Code Based on materials from: Women's portal “ASKWOMAN.RU”
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How to prolong a romance after returning home
Find out as much as you can about each other
Ask about interests, field of activity, what goals everyone sets for themselves. Every little detail is important, because the more points of contact, the better. This will help to properly build your relationships outside the resort.
Try to get to know him for who he really is.
Feel the man who is in real life.
Do the same on your part - show yourself as you are outside of rest. In a relaxed environment, we behave differently because we are not burdened by anything. We are euphoric and turn into a sweet, sexy girl. Men feel it, so they are ready to carry it in their arms. But the reality is different, in ordinary life you behave differently. Think about it, what kind of man would want to see an iron lady after an affectionate bunny? His idea of you will be destroyed, because he fell in love with a positive and charming creature. With a man, too, in life he may not be so charming, charming and gentle.
What topics should you talk about?
- Job;
- schedule;
- job responsibilities;
- how complex is his field of activity;
- how often stressful situations happen to him;
- how and in what way he conducts his life.
Take off your masks, friend, and behave naturally. Start with yourself, show who you are. Tell us what kind of life you are used to, make it clear that you may not like something. It is very difficult to get out of the image and pretend all your life, so give up this game from the very beginning.
Show interest in his plans for life
Talk about your plans and easily learn about his ideas. You must understand exactly what to expect from a man later. Are your goals the same? If not, you have minimal chances of building a strong and long-lasting relationship.
Always stay in touch even when you're apart
Thanks to modern technology, staying connected is a snap.
You can make a video call, chat in instant messengers, or just talk on the phone. In such communication (by telephone, Internet, correspondence) there are subtleties that are very important to know and understand in order to build truly high-quality and desirable relationships.
It is important to remember that a man loves with his eyes, which means he needs to always look at you - video communication, photo exchange and other benefits of the 21st century will help realize this after returning from vacation. Later you can meet again - he will fly to you or invite you to his place.
