What is it vital for a man to get from a woman?

Sex at home with husband

Why do men decide to cheat? Maybe because sexual relations with my wife leave much to be desired? Probably. A man may get tired of feeling cold and distant from his wife during sex. It is important for a man to feel the attention of his woman in bed and to receive satisfaction from sex. Of course, if his wife does not evoke such feelings, he will start a relationship with another more open and skillful woman.

It’s a strange fact that, according to numerous studies, 80% of women change dramatically in bed after marriage. What happens to them? Why, just by meeting her man, does a woman allow herself both passion and looseness in bed, agree to variety and even offer to have sex herself? And as soon as the stamp appears in her passport, she suddenly has a constant headache, she is embarrassed and behaves awkwardly in bed with her husband. Maybe just by becoming a wife, a woman realizes that cheeky behavior in bed will lead to her husband considering her a slutty girl? If this is so, then women are making a stupid mistake. It’s worth allowing everything in bed not only to the man, but also to yourself. But what does this “everything” mean? In fact, the concept of “allowing everything in bed” includes several simple rules, by adhering to which you can tie a man to you, and thereby discourage him from going “left”. So how to make a man sexually happy?

A man who will make you happy: 5 signs

There are signs by which you can understand that a man is truly strong in spirit and is able to make his family happy. In this article, psychologist Alexandra Strogonova will give 5 signs of how to understand that this is a real man.

Many women wonder who is a real man? Where to look for it? And how to get into your arms. And honestly, for each of us a real man is different. For some, this is the one who earns a lot, for others, the one who sits at home as a nanny for children, for others, the one who behaves rudely and tyrannically, and for others, on the contrary, who cannot say and words against.

5 signs of a real man

He is self sufficient
He accepts himself as he is
He is independent
He doesn't compare himself to anyone
He values himself

But is it true that these are real men, and by what parameters can one understand who is real and who is not? After all, very often for women these patterns are just a figment of their fantasies, based on experience that stretches back to childhood. It is common for a woman to project a projection called “my real man” onto everyone she meets.

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And here is the dilemma: the future happiness of another woman, who will become his wife, depends on the woman’s upbringing of her son. That is, in order for there to be more real men, he must be educated from childhood.

A real man is equally a realized man. Provided that he is happy in all this implementation, especially if he does this because of internal needs, and not for the sake of proof to someone.

A man finds fulfillment in work that brings him pleasure and prosperity, in a family for which he is responsible and loves. A man, just like a woman, wants love and it is important for him that she be in his life, so that he accepts himself as a man and enjoys life.

There are signs by which you can understand that a man is truly strong in spirit and is able to make his family happy. So, I will give 5 signs of how to understand that this is a real man:

He is self sufficient

He does not depend on his woman, his mother, friends, etc. He solves the tasks assigned to himself and his family on his own, without relying on help from other people.

Advice to mothers of boys: teach your sons from childhood that a man is responsible for his life and the family he created. Already at school age, a boy must rely only on himself. For your own sake. So loosen the leash and let your sons learn to be independent.

He accepts himself as he is

He doesn't rely on other people's opinions. His actions and life are built by himself. He does not accept unnecessary advice from his mother, grandmother, friends, etc.

Advice to mothers of boys: teach your sons from childhood to rely on their opinions. Don't compare him with someone else, don't criticize him, don't lower his self-esteem. Remember, if a man does not love and accept himself, then he is not capable of loving others. And it is also important to note that the less confident a man is, the more claims he has against his woman.

He is independent.

I mean bad habits. I also include dependence on a mother or wife among them.

Advice to mothers of boys: A man’s tendency towards addiction is formed in childhood. Most often because they lowered his self-esteem, did not support him in his endeavors and, most importantly, did not trust him and completely controlled him. Avoid this and your boy will grow up to be a real man.

He doesn't compare himself to anyone.

I understand that it is common for a man to compare himself, his wealth, etc., but here we are talking about the fact that a self-sufficient, successful man first of all compares himself with himself, but with himself who was yesterday. This allows him to constantly develop and change his strategy in time both in the family and in work. This motivates him to grow even more, which makes him and those around him happy.

Advice to mothers of boys is the same as in points 2 and 3.

He values himself.

Here I am talking about the value when a man does not humiliate himself and does not run after a woman who does not respect him and rejects him. This destroys his personality and leads to the loss of himself.

Advice to mothers of boys: teach your sons to love themselves unconditionally, to appreciate, give him more support, allow him to express his opinion, separate (separate) him from you in time.

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In conclusion, I want to dispel a common misconception among women about a real man. “Oh, when he comes home from work, we all smile, pretend that we are happy to see him. And this is the truth (she convinces herself more). After all, he is our breadwinner, he gets tired. Yes, I also work and also do a lot of things around the house and cook dinner, and clean up and feed everyone, but this is how it should be? Is it true?" -client R.

No it is not true. And if you think the same way, then my dear girl, you need to understand your relationship.

But the truth is that there are such “alpha males” who really live in the position, I am the master, I am the king, and all family members are my subjects. He really comes home constantly tired, collapses on the sofa and watches TV. And in most cases, he does this not even because he is tired, but because in his family he is in the form of a husband - the breadwinner. A woman, choosing such a man, most likely heard the following phrases from her father: “I am the head of the family, everything is on me, I gave birth to you, you are nothing without me, and I demand silence when I am at home!”

The truth is that such “alpha males” do not know any other way to assert themselves like this. They need to show respect for themselves, they need to constantly seek to assert themselves as a man. He lives with the attitude that others are to blame for all troubles: his wife is a bitch, his boss is a tyrant, his friends are traitors, his children are unreasonable, etc.

Conclusion: a self-sufficient man behaves calmly at home and happily gives his time and love. He happily hugs his wife, gives love and care to his children, and it’s easy for him to say: “I LOVE YOU”! published .

Alexandra Strogonova

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Rule one. Touch your man more often2

The longer a couple lives together, the less often the woman touches her man. But this becomes the first reason why men go “to the left.” They want their penis to be touched and given as much attention as the man himself. But women rarely do this. They have a whole series of excuses in their heads why they avoid touching their man. Why excite him, because then you will have to have more sex. It is not necessary that after “probing” the penis, a man will want sex. Just the fact that a woman pays attention to his “friend” already means a lot.

Rule two. Encourage your man to touch and make him admire.3

A beautiful female body always pleases a man. You need to give your chosen one the opportunity to enjoy small joys. For example, when getting dressed, ask him to fasten his bra. Let him see breasts once again, because it’s not for nothing that they say that men love with their eyes. When going to the shower, you should ask a man to rub his back - let him feel proud that the beautiful body he is rubbing belongs to him.

Rule three. Let the man, during orgasm, choose where he wants to “throw off” the result of his pleasure. Of course, this rule may simply amaze many. Allow a man to cum on his back, stomach or chest? What a horror! In fact, a man should be allowed everything in bed, including choosing the place to “cum.” Men love to see the result of their orgasm on their woman's body. It makes them incredibly excited.

What is it vital for a man to get from a woman?

Today we will talk about a topic that is fundamental in a woman’s life - relationships with a man. Even though we are all unique and each of us has our own balance of interests, there are basic expectations that men have and basic expectations that women have in relationships.

These are not whims or fantasies, it is a vital necessity to obtain certain components. There are three things that a man vitally needs to receive from a woman, and accordingly, three important qualities necessary in a woman’s life in order for a man to flourish next to her.

Because if a man does not blossom next to a woman, then he withers. And if he withers, then his vitality is naturally spent and his health suffers. The question is not that he is capricious or parasitic, he is simply like a baby who does not receive milk, does not satisfy his need for nutrition and is simply destroyed. And if he simply lives with a woman out of a sense of duty, out of some kind of attachment or out of a sense of guilt, it will be worse for everyone: him, the woman, their children, and everyone else.

So, the first female quality is self-sufficiency.

What it is? This is the ability to rejoice regardless of the circumstances. Those. in essence, this is a resource state. If a woman feels good, if she is inspired, if she chirps like a bird, if she is happy about what she does or does not do, she generates energy. Even in ancient Chinese sources, the wisdom was written that a woman is a source of energy.

Therefore, a man, coming home from work, falls to her to get nourished. And if a woman is in a bad mood, he has nothing to gain so that he can do his business later. Therefore, first of all, a woman should do what she likes. If she wants to embroider, let her embroider. If she wants to sing, let her sing.

And if she doesn’t want to, let her not sing or embroider, let her admire herself in the mirror if it makes her feel better. If a woman is happy with her life, then a man will receive the nutrition next to her that will allow him to win the war, create his own income and solve all other men’s problems.

Without a state of self-satisfaction, we women lose our attractiveness to men. Biologically, men and women are designed in such a way that one of them is a donor, and the other is a consumer. And the donor is a woman. She doesn't need to get energy from a man, she gets energy from nature.

No matter how many children a woman has, she is capable of loving them all. No matter how many hobbies a woman has, she can be carried away by them all. Because an endless source of development is hidden in it, it is intended by nature in order to generate new life.

It is very important that you understand this simple thing: a man’s basic need is to receive energy from a woman.

We, the women of our time, took the baton from our mothers, who, unfortunately, were forced to survive. Not even from mothers, from grandmothers. Therefore, we want to combine all the roles at once (or we don’t want to, but we have to), forgetting about our most important role - the role of a source of energy. If you are not joyful, if you are not happy with what you are doing, if you are unpleasant to be yourself, then it does not matter what virtues you have, what a wonderful housewife or mother you are, how much money you earn...

If you are not interesting to yourself, how can a man be interested in you? You must admire yourself, then others will admire you. So, the first point is your own happiness, your personal ability to enjoy life, independent of a man.

The second point is your generosity, your ability to believe in a man, despite the fact that at the moment he is showing weakness.

Mastroianni, the famous Italian actor, said that every man in every woman, deep down in his soul, hopes to meet his mother. If I had heard such words 25 years ago, I would have been terribly indignant. I would say: “Why do I need a man to love like a child?” But having lived life, I know that we just love our children all wrong.

The word “mother” in our Russian mentality has a very different meaning than in Italian. In our mentality, a mother is an authoritarian woman who often says: “You’re an idiot, son.” And in the Italian mentality, a mother is a woman who admires her child. Due to the fact that a woman generates the energy of nature, if a woman demands something from a man (demands - i.e. is dissatisfied with what is), it means, automatically, she does not believe that he can cope with his tasks, that he is able to realize himself in this life, that he is as he should be.

In fact, she gives the man a signal: “You are not what you should be. You have to try, you have to improve, you have to be different.” If you have chosen this person to be with, take the trouble to realize what you value in this person. What strengths would you appreciate in him, even if he were indifferent to you? What about this person would attract you, arouse respect and admiration? This is practical advice, by the way.

If you don't have enough mutual understanding and happiness in your relationship, just write a list like this - if this person were a stranger, what would you rate? Regardless of how he treats you. Because very often they tell me: “Oh! Yes, he is golden with other women, but at home he is a tyrant (lazy, parasite, rude, insensitive idiot).”

And you look at him as a person in relationships with other people. Because if in your home he does not show the qualities that he is capable of showing with other people, then the problem in this case is only in you.

It is very useful to even do such a mutual exercise: the wife answers in writing the questions “My husband likes it most when I…” and “My husband is most annoyed when I…”, and the husband answers similar questions on his part; then you need to exchange leaves.

Unfortunately, very often there are situations when people have lived their lives together and have not bothered to find out what a person needs in a partner!

Genuine family co-creation, a genuine life in which we support each other and exchange energy, is possible when we give energy to the right person. But it turns out that everyone gives the best, in his opinion, but the partner does not need this best, he needs something completely different. And instead of clarifying the situation, people accumulate grievances and endure.

If in the list of a person’s qualities you do not see any advantages that are interesting to you, but continue to exist with this person, then why be surprised that you are not satisfied with this relationship. Think about it - do you need them at all?

Nowadays, a formal family cannot provide either happiness or health. Half a century ago it was possible - to live hating each other, or to live on parallel courses and quite successfully live to a ripe old age and even become friends towards the end of life. Nowadays this is impossible, because we very quickly become physically destroyed by negative emotions.

If a woman is constantly dissatisfied with her man, she begins to experience disturbances in the endocrine system, the reproductive area is sure to suffer... Therefore, you will have to face the truth and ask yourself questions: who am I? what I want? who is he? what does he want? why are we together? Very often such simple questions clarify very important things.

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Rule five. Intimate caresses in front of a man.5

Do you want something new in your relationship? Great! You can surprise and please your man if you start playing with yourself right in front of him.

Men love to watch, and watching their beloved masturbate herself is just a delight for them! It’s better to look at your woman than to admire girls masturbating in hot porn videos.

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How to make a man happy

A successful career, great sex, beer flowing, football - this is male happiness. Is this statement true? Or is this not the whole list of what a man needs to be happy? Men, just like women, are susceptible to stress. The main cause of male stress is, first of all, lack of money, and secondly, sexual dissatisfaction. Of course, these are not the only problems men have. There are several ways to help turn your lover into an optimist. Sex instead of money

Scientists have conducted research and proven that active sex replaces a bank account.
It is very important for men to be a breadwinner and have a fat wallet. But surveys have shown that men who have an active sex life are much happier than those who have large incomes. One of the surest ways to make a man happier is definitely daily sex. At the same time, scientists have found that there is no point in trying to invent circus poses. You need to praise him in front of your friends.
If you want your man to be happy, you need to praise him.
Praises for his exploits, the cooked dinner, the washed dishes, a New Year's gift for you. But don’t forget, you need to praise him in the presence of your friends. Men love compliments, just like women. Sports
When a person is unhappy, it means that something is bothering him.
Exercising can reduce anxiety, and social activities are less tiring. Thanks to physical activity, the body and mind relax, and physical stress toxins are eliminated from the body. The best way to relieve your man of anxiety is to focus his attention on the specific task of building muscles. Strong muscles will raise his self-esteem. In addition, during training, a man feels control over the situation, which is the most important thing in life for him. Friends
For men, friends are an inviolability that cannot be discussed, criticized or generally spoken ill of them.
But friends can be a very bad influence on your man. A man's happiness and health depends on who is next to him. By the way, communicating with a friend makes a man dependent on him. Thus, for example, smoking, drinking or obesity are transmitted. Your man's communication with lonely friends reduces the feeling of joy by about 20%. Communicating with overweight friends increases the likelihood of gaining extra pounds by about 50%. Healthy food
As you know, some foods are aphrodisiacs and you can get pleasure from some of them.
This list includes oily fish, milk, bananas, beef, spinach and peanuts. And if you include these foods in your man's diet, you will see how these foods relieve hostility and make him calmer and happier. Clothing
Nice clothes give a man confidence, just as it does for a woman.
Both guys and respectable men feel uncomfortable standing in a quilted jacket next to gorgeous girls. That is why you need to dress your men beautifully - give him a new shirt, sweater or shoes for the holidays. But you just need to know its taste in advance. You should never buy provocative things. Men don't like to draw attention to themselves. Gifts
The surveys made us understand that men give gifts to their girls 2 times less than girls.
But men’s gifts are more expensive, since they don’t bother with any promotions. A man receives at least four gifts a year, this is New Year, February 23, Valentine's Day, Birthday. This is not counting the little things that girls value, such as the day they met, etc. In practice, men most often receive bath accessories or cosmetics for these holidays. But it’s better to ask your boyfriend about the desired gift. Let it not be a surprise, but the money and nerves will not be wasted. Bad habits
Men don't like demanding women. Among the bad habits, a man does not like smoking, drunkenness, bitchiness, insincerity and arrogance. So if you want your man to be happy, get rid of your bad habits.

Rule seven. Morning sex is mandatory.7

Morning sex is great. And men, by their nature, feel an unbearable erection in the morning and they want to have sex. And a woman must satisfy a man in the morning, especially since she herself will feel good. And the result will be excellent. Not only will the man be satisfied with the morning release, but he will also leave home with “empty balls.”

We have collected proven methods for satisfying a man in bed in the article at the link.

A few simple rules and your sex life with your beloved man will be filled with vivid emotions and deep feelings. Therefore, you definitely need to allow everything in bed, both for yourself and for your chosen one.

What about the question “How to make a man happy?” says the all-knowing internet

No woman can be happy if the man next to her is not happy. Are there specific ways to bring happiness to your loved one?

A happy man is...

If we take into account regular opinion polls and research, for women the most joyful moment in life is a wedding. But the same studies also show that in marriages, men are more often happy than the fair sex. How do wives achieve this effect, making their life partners happier?

In order for your beloved husband to enjoy life next to his chosen one, it is important to follow several rules, not forgetting about them even after many years lived together. After all, a truly happy man is a man who:

Hurries home after work.
Smiles at the sight of the woman he loves.
Thinks first of all about family.
Becomes more responsible.
Strives to maintain his happiness.

A representative of the stronger sex will create a positive atmosphere around himself if his life is filled with harmony. When a man is happy, it is visible not only at home. He will be joyful and satisfied at work, on business trips, and at friendly gatherings. And if the mother-in-law sees how happy and calm her son is, then his chosen one will move from the category of daughters-in-law to the category of daughters.

The best ways to make the guy next to you happy

In most cases, the happiness of any man depends on the attitude of the woman he loves towards him. Work, friends, career, hobbies - everything fades into the background when a soulmate appears in a person’s life.

But if you lose sight of at least some moments, life will become completely different, happiness will pass by and will not return. What are the best ways to fight for your man’s happiness?

Accept him for who he already is. If your chosen one does not have obvious harmful habits, everything else can be left. It is important to show your loved one that he is dear and close just as he is, that you accepted and loved him with all his shortcomings and disadvantages. A dissatisfied man will never become happy, and he will remember your reproaches for a long time.
Encourage, praise, highlight. The feeling of happiness and satisfaction will always be there if a man understands that his other half is proud of and admires him. It is important to be sincere, then your loved one will realize that his behavior pleases you, that you notice his merits. By doing something pleasant or useful, he will continue to try to please you.
Become everything for the man you love. It is important not only to satisfy your husband well in bed. The only woman should become a muse, a lover, a friend, and a mistress for a loved one. Moreover, the mistress of the house needs to be ideal - a man needs to be warm, comfortable, satisfied and fed.

It is worth remembering that intuition is much better developed in women than in men. Therefore, you need to feel your chosen one, choose the moments when you can find out something, and when you need to praise. You should not blame your loved one for lack of attention - men are designed in such a way that they cannot always remember memorable dates that are important for both, or they will not immediately understand when they need to support their lady. Forgiveness is another concept that should be a constant companion in any relationship.

How to make your husband happy in bed?

A favorite theme of many glossy magazines is bed. They write reports about how to make a man happy in bed, interview stars, and share advice from experts in this field.

What needs to be done so that a man not only does not look to the left, but also wants to be in bed with you every second? You can use the following methods:

Sexy style lingerie . If you like teddy bears on your flannel pajamas or lilacs on your flannelette nightgown, this is your thing. And it’s quite possible to sleep in this. Sometimes. In other cases, you should choose sexy lingerie - tunics, negligees, slips. You should have at least several pairs of stockings in your arsenal. For more liberated ladies, we can recommend a minimal set of toys and accessories for adult games.
Environment . Just darkness or ordinary chandelier light will not add piquancy. It is advisable to use the light of bedside floor lamps or sconces, light several thick candles or turn on special lamps with yellow, orange, and blue light. Bed linen, blankets, and pillows should also not be washed out or uncomfortable.
Food and drinks . If you want to please a man during long sexual games, you should take care of reinforcement. These should be light meals and drinks; in some cases, many prefer alcohol. Variety of poses. It is important to show your beloved man that you are ready for new sensations. You shouldn't show that you've had a lot of sexual experience, even if that's true. But you must be relaxed and confident. Then you will be able to respond to a man’s caresses and give him pleasure in any way you like.

You can drive a man crazy in bed with Kegel exercises. The world-famous gynecologist has created a whole system that helps maintain muscle tone and control the vagina during sex.

Torsunov on how to make a man happy

Video lectures by O. G. Torsunov helped many people in building relationships. A general specialist, a psychologist with extensive experience in the field of reflexology, acupuncture, acupuncture, and herbal medicine helps to competently understand the problems of existing couples.

The books of the esotericist and the doctor are known not only in our country, but also abroad. According to the professor, a man should devote himself to life, be on the move, and only in this case will he be truly happy. Therefore, it’s worth thinking about how you spend your weekends, where you go on vacation, and what your hobbies are. The main theses of the healer in this direction:

A developed man can be seen everywhere; his wife will be faithful to such a man.
A real man is one who takes responsibility for his family.
A happy man must tolerate his wife's emotions.
A man must work and get tired, forgive and ask for forgiveness.
A woman should give her man the energy of love.

If there is a need to change something powerful in this world, this must be done gently and gradually. Reproaches and complaints can have the opposite effect. In addition, according to the esotericist, a man is able to hear a woman only in a relaxed state - for example, after rest or after eating.

Psychology on how to give happiness to a man

One of the main goals of modern psychologists is to solve problems that arise in married couples. Psychology has its own concepts about how a chosen person can be made happy. And if you listen to such family healers, you can bask in happiness for many years.

When living together, you can't make everything too obvious. After all, a woman wants to make a man happy because she loves him, and not so that he can see it. What does a representative of the fair sex need to know for a man to flutter on the wings of happiness next to her?

You must always remain attractive.
A sense of humor is your faithful assistant.
Talk about his shortcomings gently and unobtrusively.
Be confident and purposeful.
Create an atmosphere of comfort always and everywhere.
Always say something nice.
Support your loved one in different situations.
Emphasize its importance in your life.

It is very important not to just sit at home, study, work. A woman must develop in order to match her chosen one. In this case, the man will not only be happy - he will be confident in his soulmate, he will be able to take her to corporate events, get-togethers with friends and colleagues.

What is more important for a man’s happiness, making love to him or feeding him?

Men live by their own rules, laws and concepts. Therefore, it is important for a woman to either live in accordance with these rules, or pretend that she lives in accordance with them. At the same time, the most important thing for any man is quality food and decent sex. But what comes first in this case? This will depend on the woman.

If the chosen one does not cook deliciously and variedly, the man will no longer consider her a good housewife. But at the same time, it is now fashionable to order various delicacies in restaurants and food delivery points. And if you approach the issue wisely, leaving more time for yourself and your loved one, the woman will look in his eyes as both a wonderful lover and an ideal housewife.

It is worth remembering that sex should not be on a schedule, unlike eating. You need to make love a lot and spontaneously. This will help you feel closer to each other.

The best books on how to make a man happy

Nowadays, not only a person with a specialized education can write a book, but also an author who decided to share his positive experience. There are many works on how to make a man happy.

Among them are the following options:

Steve Harvey, "Act like a woman, think like a man."
Bradley Engler, Men on My Couch.
Alisa Metelina, “Rules of the game with men.”
Steve Harvey, "You Know Nothing About Men."
Natalya Tolstaya, “Men’s secrets that you need to know...”.
Belle de Jour, A Guide to Men.

But it is important to understand that the best book for you will be the one that will help change your relationship with the man you love. Only effective advice will help you turn your chosen one into a happy person, and your union into unbreakable.

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