Wise wife
“A true wife is one who is pure, skillful, truthful and brings joy to her husband.” Sage Chanakya Pandit
A wise wife does not mean smart! In the East they believe that without love a woman will be unsatisfied, no matter how successful she is in other areas of life. This is also confirmed by European sociological studies, according to which the majority of women consider love with a man and a happy marriage (not necessarily legally formalized), where they could receive protection and care, to be the most important things in life. The husband is the owner, the wife is the manager. This is approximately how we can “translate” the ancient Vedic laws of building relationships in the family into modern language. Family life is primarily about cooperation. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is choose a suitable life partner who would be willing to cooperate. At the same time, it doesn’t matter at all how handsome, rich and romantic he is. If he doesn't match your mindset for a certain relationship, he's probably not your soul mate. Example: lovers get married, while he believes that “she owes me,” she believes that “he owes me.” There is no cooperation, everyone is unhappy, six months later there is a divorce. And all because boys and girls do not know the “rules of the game”: marriage was based only on sympathy, and not on a deep understanding of the purpose of life together. Success in family life depends 100 percent on the woman! Moreover, this very state of affairs corresponds to both the interests of the family and the interests of the woman. Think about it: if she takes complete and thoughtful leadership of the relationship, no one (including her husband) can stop her! Therefore, every woman just needs to become a real professional in this “native” sphere for herself - the sphere of relationships. In fact, this is the most important work that needs to be done first. If you don't do this, no one will do it for you! The purpose of the family is unity. “It is very important for a wife to have trust and respect for her husband. He must have a goal in life that you will not be ashamed to support,” say the Vedic sages. If the man’s goal is only to enjoy his wife, and the wife’s goal is to enjoy her husband, nothing will work out for them. It is impossible to satisfy each other all the time! Our feelings tend to become satiated, and if the goal is only pleasure, discontent appears in the family and in the end the spouses disperse. Without a goal, family life turns into a runaway train. What is the right purpose of family relationships? Ancient scriptures say that spouses should strive for unity at all levels of existence: material, subtle-material and spiritual. When all levels are balanced, the spouses turn into a kind of integrity. But if progress is made only in material matters, and spiritual development is missed, then the end is inevitable - complete disappointment: in your husband, in yourself, in life. But when there is complete harmony between spouses, they experience amazing sensations: a sense of security, satisfaction, stability, self-confidence and ever-increasing love not only for their half, but also for other people. They feel full of life and success - and this is passed on to others. Submission is not humiliation! The spirit of competition, the desire for success and dominance in society and family are the hallmarks of male psychology. The male “I” wants to be the “boss” - it demands self-respect and approval! If he is gently pampered, everyone benefits. And a woman in a subordinate, but not inferior position, accepts this natural order of things - and gently yields, thus awakening all the positive reactions of her husband. But our contemporaries are accustomed to strive for masculine goals and achievements, competing with the stronger sex at work and at home. Under no circumstances should you do this! The male ego, when faced with opposition, becomes like an “elephant in the garden” and destroys everything in its path! And then everything is lost. You are likely to be met with anger, stubbornness, irritability, the cold shoulder, misunderstanding, and even insults. Women of Vedic times knew many different “secrets”: with the help of subtle changes in clothing, tone of voice, home interior and a special combination of tastes in food, they easily controlled their husbands and achieved everything they wanted, while remaining affectionate and helpful. But this is “aerobatics”, perhaps unattainable for contemporaries. Another interesting point is that a wise wife does not use manipulation! The main work is on oneself (to be cleaner, brighter, to be faithful and to love your husband), and then the space around itself changes for the better. This happens because women have very powerful energy, it greatly influences the environment. Don’t forget, a woman creates a reason, a man realizes it!
How to be a good wife and always remain that way
You need to be smart first of all
Where the mind is not a commodity that can be bought in a store or obtained after a university education. The amount and degree of education is not an indicator of intelligence or intelligence. In order to make long-term plans with a woman, a man needs to respect and praise her for something. If she doesn’t respect you, even though she’s beautiful and well-groomed, then your relationship with her will be short. The stronger sex respects wives for their understanding, ability to listen and insight.
Therefore, representatives of the fairer sex need to be good conversationalists for their husbands. Who will be interested in communicating with their significant other, sharing their goals or listening to their spouse’s opinion. When a husband is comfortable in his wife’s company, he will consider her a good wife.
Warning. Avoid practicing the “marry yourself” program on a man. Showing him only her strengths, demonstrating what a good wife she will be for him, carefully hiding her shortcomings. This is unlikely to lead to anything good.
You need to talk to your husband like a man, not your girlfriend
It is important to understand the difference in the ways of communication and perception of information between opposite sexes. What is interesting or understandable to representatives of the weaker sex is uninteresting or incomprehensible to the stronger sex. For example, when men talk to each other, they speak directly, even argue, expressing their opinions freely and frankly.
Therefore, men do not understand women’s hints and beating around the bush. Such communication for them is akin to “walking through agony,” which husbands can withstand for a maximum of 5 minutes. Having learned to talk to a man in a language he understands, the wife will not only gain a listener, but will be able to communicate with her loved one on deeper topics.
Love comes first
As a priori, every man has his own view of what a good wife should be. One of the most important components is love, that is, the ability to love. Love characterizes a woman as a person who, first of all, understands, knows how to feel a man, and shares all interests with him.
Thanks to love, she will be flexible with him, kind, open, devoted. Out of love for her marriage partner, the wife does not strive for feminism, but is ready to be second after her husband, giving him the palm.
You need to be a reliable support for your husband
This means it is important for him to be sure that everything is fine in his absence at home. Then his thoughts are occupied with the work he is working on, and not with worries and worries about what is happening at home, during his absence.
Therefore, a good wife does not sit and wait for her husband’s leadership, but she takes on some of the things that he does not have time to do, if she can do them. Women become good wives for their husbands not when everything around them is good, but when they show reliability in difficult situations or difficulties.
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You need to be not only a wife, but also a friend to your man
How to be a good wife for your husband? This means becoming a good friend to your loved one who understands his emotional swings. This means trying to see your spouse's strengths without focusing on their weaknesses.
Such a life partner, without reproach, helps her husband develop his best qualities, while continuing to remain an interesting, attractive lady for him. This awakens in him the desire to improve himself, to strive for self-realization.
Read, 12 qualities of an ideal wife according to men
Continue to develop yourself
In addition to supporting her husband and protecting the family hearth, a woman continues to develop in order to remain interesting to her lover. Because he understands that the husband is unlikely to be able to admire and be proud of his beloved for a long time if, apart from cooking, washing, or raising children, she has no other interests. In a few years, he will lose interest in her, he will be bored with her.
Therefore, in addition to borscht and diapers, she also has other interests: hobbies, favorite activities, work, hobbies, so that it would be interesting to communicate with her. Such a woman is weak, but with a steel core inside. That is, weak enough to make a man feel like a leader and strong enough not to break when faced with life’s troubles.
You need to be a good housewife
This means putting things in order before he arrives. She knows for sure that clutter can annoy her husband, so she keeps the house clean. Together with the children, he will collect textbooks, toys, papers, wipe the dust from the table and wash the dishes. At the same time, he avoids making children the worst, blaming them for the disorder. Because she knows that it is her responsibility to keep order in the absence of her husband.
She is always driven by the desire to create a comfortable atmosphere so that her loved one can relax and unwind in a clean environment. Then the husband will feel that he has reached an oasis of relaxation and order. Taking care of his comfort gives a woman great personal satisfaction.
It is necessary to always have dinner ready when your husband returns from work.
Even if he comes at night, the wife will get up and quickly heat him up so that her man can have a tasty meal. This is her way of showing her loved one that she has been thinking about him and his needs. Usually a man is always hungry when returning home, so the prospect of a delicious dinner or his favorite dish is part of a woman’s warm welcome.
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Conclusion
The role of a good mother and wife is unparalleled in the world. She is not only a companion and partner to her husband, but also the mother of his children. Of all the positive influences on a family, women can do more than anyone else. For example, becoming a mother means achieving greater harmony, peace, contentment and joy in the family than in any other role.
Women are the source of life and those who, as a rule, are always “there” where needed and when needed. Good wives are the ones who go to children when they are hurting and whose support their husbands always need.
This is not a complete list of how to become a good wife and be one for your husband. But even if you implement some of the tips from the article you read, it will become the best for your husband.
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The Wise Wife and the Laws of a Happy Marriage:
* It is the relationship that needs to be improved, not the man. Confusing these concepts is detrimental to a marriage. You chose your husband yourself. It's up to you. * A wife must be ready to follow her husband in everything and share all his aspirations and principles. * A wife's duty is to accept any circumstances in which her husband finds himself. * A husband rarely changes only because a woman wants it - because all changes in a man are in the hands of a woman. * Accepting your husband with all your heart for who he is is the best medicine that will support him and give him faith in success. * Consider him smart and significant, and this will always bring good results for you. * If you have already made your choice and, as it seems to you, it is not very successful - do not despair! Make a list of your husband's good and bad qualities. Cover the negative qualities with a piece of paper and look with great enthusiasm only at the positive qualities and forget about the bad ones. By considering only the good traits in your significant other, you will significantly improve the atmosphere in the family. Tags: Wise wife , Golden rules of girls, Laws of a happy marriage.
