No. 3. Conversation
Or you can just sit down and talk. Of course, no guy likes the phrases “we need to talk” and “where will this lead us” (and both in one sentence are generally guard), but if it’s so important to you and you’re sure that he’s the one, then the risk is justified. The main thing is that later you don’t have the annoying feeling that you yourself dragged him to the registry office (you must admit, in childhood we still dream that the prince would look for us throughout all the kingdoms with his shoe at the ready, and not vice versa).
And if you don’t trust online advice, here’s an expert’s opinion.
Ekaterina Fedorova - psychologist, sex trainer, founder and director of the women's center, coach, author of educational books
Every girl dreams of hearing: “Marry me!” However, not every man is able to understand that the time for the long-awaited phrase has come a long time ago. Many people believe that you need to fight for happiness, but this is a wrong option. Happiness must initially be within. The easiest way: tell the man that you are expecting a proposal from him. Then you won’t need to come up with any complicated schemes where he has to be jealous and somehow try to guess what’s going on in your head.
If the direct path is not your thing, you can use little tricks. When a guy believes that you are not going anywhere, then he has no reason to marry you. Therefore, arousing a little jealousy in your partner is never a bad idea. Usually a loving man starts fussing when there is even a slight possibility that he might lose you. The main thing in this matter is not to overdo it.
Learn to create a comfortable and calm environment around you. It is unlikely that any guy will want to marry that girl who constantly throws hysterics and scandals. He should get better around you. Try to always look good. At home, you are not required to wear a floor-length dress, but if you are gathered in society, try to outshine all the women around you.
If a guy doesn’t understand hints, but to a direct question: “When will we get married?” prefers to remain silent or laugh it off, that is, it makes sense to take a short break in the relationship. A little separation is always a good idea. This technique can be called a “soft parting.”
If a guy continues to bullshit you and feed you with promises like “as soon as we finish the renovations, and then I’ll propose to you right away,” then you can hardly count on a happy future together. No hints will help here and the best solution would be separation. Instead of entertaining yourself with vain illusions, it is better to take a closer look at the other partner. And it is likely that he will not even have to hint at the long-awaited proposal.
How to push your loved one to propose if he is hinting at a wedding
, but doesn't talk about it directly?
Take the initiative
Does your man hesitate to voice the words that you have been waiting for him to say for a long time? At the same time, do you feel his love and desire to spend the rest of his life with you? Propose to him yourself! If your feelings are equally strong and you are confident in each other, there is nothing wrong with the girl taking the initiative to get married. Your happiness is in your hands, and if your chosen one is not ready to take a decisive step, you will know about it and will be able to decide whether to stay with him or not.
If you are firmly convinced that you want to be with this person for the rest of your life, you need to be patient, because men take longer to decide to take a responsible step, even if he hints at marriage
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In our life, there are often cases when you meet and meet with a guy, but you never get the coveted proposal from him. Although it seems that the feelings are present and the relationship is beyond praise. So what to do? If this question begins to come to you more and more often, it means that you are really seriously in love. But you need to remember that love is love, and marriage is a serious and responsible step, and your fairy tale does not end where you put on your wedding dress.
How can you hint to a guy about a wedding and get an offer?
The mistake that, unfortunately, many, many girls make is that they think that through marriage they can tie a man to themselves forever. And that man, who before the wedding liked to look in the other direction, will change dramatically after the wedding and will belong only to her.
By artificially driving a person into a corner and forcing him to go to the registry office, instead of love, such a girl receives hatred when her husband simply tries to disappear from the house at every opportunity.
And sometimes, after some period of living together, your husband may openly tell you that he married you only because he is an honest person and nothing more.
Therefore, when deciding how to hint to a guy about marriage, do not create “circumstances” for him, but just try to talk with him on this topic in order to unobtrusively find out what he himself thinks about the possibility of your marriage.
It is possible that the guy really has the most sincere feelings for you, but does not dare to propose marriage only because he believes that he is not yet able to really provide for his family, as this is necessary.
And in general, I must say that somewhere he is right, in this case. Many love boats have crashed on the rocks of everyday difficulties and lack of money. But if this doesn’t bother you, let your loved one understand this without directly asking a question, but simply explain that you are not scared, like some girls, by everyday unsettled conditions. It is possible that such a conversation will be enough for him.
But it also happens that, despite all your love, the guy is simply too childish and is terrified of taking responsibility for the family.
Of course, endlessly proving to him that he is dearer to you than anyone else in the world and that you yourself are quite capable of taking care of your future happiness, if only he were nearby, you can, in the end, bring the matter to the registry office. But think about it, do you need a person who will never turn into a grown man? It will be impossible to remake it, no matter how much you hope for it.
One day, in any relationship that claims to be serious, a moment comes when we have to decide: we are moving forward together or looking for happiness separately.
In the opinion of many men, this moment may not come for a very long time, but women very clearly understand when a couple is approaching this brink.
A year, two, three, five - every couple and every relationship is individual, so turning to statistics in love affairs is absolutely useless. If you already feel that it’s time to make a decision, but your lover has not yet shown you the initiative, you will have to take it upon yourself. Today we will tell you when and how you can subtly hint at difficult circumstances and get the coveted platinum wedding rings.
How to behave
A man's behavior largely depends on how his woman behaves. Sometimes by changing your own behavior you can influence your lover so that he gives gifts without your hints.
Accept gifts easily
There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and considering yourself worthy of gifts. When you are afraid of a man giving gifts, he will feel it. Eliminate the words:
- Come on, it wasn't worth the expense.
- I still have the old one, I don’t need to buy anything.
- I don't like flowers, they will wither anyway.
- I'm so embarrassed, I don't deserve such an expensive gift.
When a person gives gifts, he enjoys the process itself. He wants to see a smile, joy, hear words of gratitude. And if in response he receives negativity, refusal, self-flagellation, he loses the desire to do something good.
Do not deprive the giver of the joy of giving gifts.
Learn to give thanks
A common mistake women make is indifference or even irritation when given gifts. Seeing such a reaction, he may think that you don't like surprises. Or he simply won’t want to try to please you anymore, so as not to get burned.
You need to thank not only for expensive gifts or financial assistance, but also for little things:
- How great! I really like what you gave me (insert name of gift). I've been dreaming about this for a long time!
- Thank you for driving me to work and helping me out. Without you, I would definitely be late. My savior!
- Thank you for these little souvenirs, it's nice that you think of me.
- Oh, how timely you brought this wonderful cake, I was just thinking of running out to buy something for tea.
- I love (name of flowers), they smell wonderful!
The point is to encourage your man to please you again and again with your delight and gratitude. With this approach, every time he will try to present something, pamper, go to a meeting. And that's exactly what you need.
Don't put pressure on him
Women who furiously and hysterically try to deceive their lover for a gift can only scare him away. Men do not want to date materialistic ladies who value their wallet first. Even if it is obvious, they do not need direct evidence of their suspicions.
Use feminine tricks to get what you want. With their help, arrange everything so that he gives the right thing solely on his own initiative.
Give him gifts
It is not at all necessary to spend crazy money on expensive watches. It is enough to give him something, at least symbolic, from time to time. Then he won’t have the feeling that he’s the only one investing in the relationship.
Give your man small but pleasant gifts.
First of all, your contribution should be emotional, not expensive:
- Cook his favorite dish;
- Perform a striptease;
- Make a gift with your own hands (knit a scarf, make a handmade card or mug with a memorable photo);
- Tickets to an event that interests him;
- A cute trinket for his car - this is how he will always think about you.
In a relationship with a married man, you need to choose gifts very carefully. Examples of suitable gifts can be found in this article.
Why doesn't a man propose marriage?
Adequate assessment of the situation
Unfortunately, you can only talk about successful wedding hints if you are absolutely sure of two things:
- you truly love
this person and are ready to live with him, perhaps for more years than you currently have; - you are sure that
your feelings are reciprocated.
If a man has never confessed his love to you (this is his character) and you are not sure of his feelings, it is better to ask the question directly. A hint is not the best tool in communicating with a man. If, when asked directly about the seriousness of his intentions, a man begins to evade and say: “You see, I’m probably not ready for a serious relationship right now.”
, we will have to upset you, such an answer will not lead to anything good. It means that the man either hasn’t decided yet or doesn’t see you as a wife, and that’s why he’s not ready for a serious relationship now. It's not a matter of the right time, but the right partner.
We love each other, but there is still no marriage proposal from a man
If you ask yourself the question “why doesn’t a man propose” but are sure that the feelings are mutual, but there has still been no proposal, it is quite possible that the man either thinks that everything is fine, or he is tormented by some fears. Men's fears are no less than women's: will he support his family financially? But what about his freedom? what if children? Not to mention the fact that often a modern man does not even understand the meaning of the fundamental costs for such a one-time event as a wedding.
What should you do with fears? That's right - fight!
All methods of pushing a man to take the decisive step can be divided into soft and hard.
Engagement ring - the sacred secret of a diamond
The history of the engagement ring dates back to the 8th century, when Pope Nicholas I announced the use of engagement rings. According to other sources, the tradition of giving an engagement ring dates back to 1477, when the Austrian Duke Maximilian proposed marriage to the daughter of the French king, Mary of Burgundy. He was worried whether she would tell him the cherished “yes,” so he first sent her a ring with a stone as a gift. The story ended with a “happy ending”, and since then they have been giving a ring with a stone as an engagement gift.
Engagement Ring Shape
As for the tradition of giving a ring with one large stone, there are also two versions of its origin. It is believed that the engagement ring must have been encrusted with at least one diamond. This symbolizes the groom’s ability to provide the bride with a decent life. While an engagement ring may have no stones at all, an engagement ring is almost always decorated with one or even several precious stones. There is another interpretation - the size of the stone symbolizes not so much the groom’s wealth as his immeasurable feelings.
An example of the classic form of an engagement ring is the ring given to Olga Buzova by her now husband (the couple got married in June 2012), football player Dmitry Tarasov. This is a platinum ring topped with a 2.5-carat diamond, which, according to preliminary estimates, cost the caring groom 70 thousand euros.
Olga Buzova's engagement ring. Photo: Instagram.com/buzova86.
Nowadays, traditions are fading into the background, so it is not necessary to use a diamond; you can choose a delicate ring with your beloved’s favorite stone or a stone that matches her zodiac sign.
The Duchess of Cambridge's engagement ring is popularly known as the "Commoner's Sapphire". Photo: Facebook.com/TheBritishMonarchy.
For example, the engagement ring of the Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton (more precisely, this is Princess Diana's ring, inherited by Prince Harry, who gave it to Prince William when he decided to marry Kate) is encrusted not only with clear diamonds, but also with a large blue sapphire. The ring was popularly called the “Commoner's Sapphire” for its affordability, but now it costs more than half a million dollars.
And the shape of the ring can be arbitrary - if the bride has long liked some ring in a jewelry store, then why not give such a coveted engagement gift? It will be valued no less than the classic version of the engagement ring.
An engagement ring can be an unusual shape. Photo: Anton Baranovsky.
Which hand should I wear it on?
There is no clear answer to this question. It is worth proceeding from the sequence of actions: according to Orthodox traditions, the engagement ring is put on the ring finger of the right hand by the bride. A girl can wear any rings on any fingers, but if a ring with one stone is worn on the ring finger of her right hand, this means that she will soon become a wife. On the wedding day, the newlyweds exchange rings once again - wedding rings. This ring (in Orthodoxy) is also worn on the ring finger of the right hand. Where to put the engagement ring?
Brides usually find the answer themselves - they wear it either together with a wedding ring on their right hand (jewelers even offer a pair - wedding and engagement rings in the same style), or on the ring finger of their left hand. However, in our country, divorced ladies or widows wear rings on this finger. Another option is to not wear an engagement ring at all. Our ancestors cherished this decoration as a family treasure, a heirloom that is passed down from generation to generation. In any case, this is a personal matter for each bride.
How to choose?
Advice to grooms - before buying an engagement ring, be sure to ask the future bride (or her friends and family) what kind of ring she would like. Because she is the one to wear the ring, and if the girl doesn’t like this long-awaited decoration, there is every risk of running into, if not a refusal, then definitely a negative reaction, and the bride will not want to wear it later. Be sure to find out whether she likes a ring of a classic shape, or whether her beloved wants a ring of an unusual shape, maybe even created especially for her, to order. It is worth asking what precious metal (red, yellow or white gold, platinum, but not silver) she likes, as well as what stone the bride wants to see in this ring.
Read about how to present an engagement ring in my previous article - “Engagement: Wedding tradition or legal aspect?”
The price is not important, the main thing is attention?
Wealthy grooms pamper their brides with expensive engagement rings, and the paparazzi learn about the personal lives of stars by whether this jewelry is worn on the “same” finger of the possible bride.
The most expensive engagement ring is the one Richard Burton gave to Elizabeth Taylor. The ring with the 33.19-carat stone cost just over $300,000, but in 2011 it was auctioned for $8.8 million.
One of the most expensive rings was presented by Paris Latsis to his beloved Paris Hilton. The large diamond of the decoration weighed 24 carats. This ring cost 4.7 million dollars.
Jamie Lynn Spears engagement ring. Photo: Instagram.com/jamielynnspears.
Not very expensive (by Paris Hilton standards) engagement ring from Britney Spears' younger sister Jemeli Lyn - a classically shaped ring with a large diamond costs about 30 thousand dollars.
George Clooney gave Amal Alamuddin a platinum ring with a seven-carat rectangular diamond. Photo: Facebook.com/Amal-Alamuddin.
George Clooney gave Amal Alamuddin a platinum ring with a seven-carat rectangular diamond worth $760,000.
For her engagement, Kim Kardashian received a gorgeous ring with black diamonds from Kanye West. Photo: Instagram.com/kimkardashian.
A beautiful ring was given to Kim Kardashian by her third husband, Kanye West. The jewelry, encrusted with rare black diamonds, cost about 770 thousand dollars.
Wedding planner Olga Marandi
How to hint to a guy about a wedding: soft methods
A woman needs to help her partner overcome her fears and concerns, convince him that marriage is not the end of life, but the beginning of a new one, even more interesting, unpredictable, full of borscht and other goodies.
Cultivating self-confidence
How confident a man is in himself directly depends on the woman. So, girls, let’s help our heroes feel like superheroes! When a loving man sees your helplessness in simple life situations, he wants to surround you with care and take you under his wing. After all, you simply cannot survive in this harsh world without him, and he loves you so much...
We create comfort
For a man, a wife is the archetype of a mother. What did the mother do? That's right, she fed. Where they feed is home in a man’s mind. So even if you have always consciously tried to avoid the kitchen and eat in restaurants, you will have to overcome yourself and approach the stove at an unsafe distance. Believe me, even the dish will not turn out like the chef, he will still appreciate your efforts, and perhaps you will open up to him from a new unknown side.
“I give you a beacon”
Whether you're attending friends' weddings, married couples' homes, or watching movies with happy endings, you'll probably want to talk about what you saw. Be sure to take advantage of this opportunity. Give free rein to your imagination, dream a little - your man should clearly understand what you dream about. Otherwise, how can he make you happy?
In everyday life you can find a lot of situations where having a stamp in your passport makes it easier to obtain visas or other documents. This is also your great chance. Use it in the subjunctive mood: “If only we were married...”
