school education influence us . Needless to say, to what extent, at some stage, grades change and even ruin a child’s life. Probably everyone is familiar with these feelings when they can’t carry their legs home, because... The diary contains a disgusting assessment. And she was in the same place yesterday. And in general, it seems that the deuces have been written in the diary forever... Hence not only upset feelings. The child, so that his parents do not scold him, is forced to lie and therefore erases the bad grade in his diary. But the paradox is that he then suffers doubly for this, because mom and dad will punish him, and seriously... What should I do to make my hopes come true? Belt and angle are not the answer. And an even bigger dead end...
What if we treat assessments adequately?
How is that? - you ask. Everything is meant here at once. And the child’s abilities, and the conditions for study and life, and the attention or inattention of parents, and the school itself. What can I say, the list of these points, that is, reasons, is much more extensive. Therefore, it is advisable to figure it out step by step.
Firstly, when you yourself have learned to deal adequately with bad grades, teach your child to draw the right conclusions. Yes, there is not always time for this. Yes, the mood is not always present with desire. But this is your child. And in many ways he learns poorly due to lack of control or heredity. It is unlikely that anyone will deny this truth.
What's the main thing in all this? Not an assessment, that's right, but knowledge. It happens that you and your child have learned everything that was asked, and he seems to understand everything. But the next day he brought a deuce. Why? So figure it out! There could be many reasons. Examine each one under a microscope and take action.
For example, try to convince your child that he needs to listen carefully to the teacher in class. As practice shows, children then do not learn their lessons at home, but only repeat them. putting away textbooks for tomorrow. Explain why a person needs knowledge. We can give examples of people who have achieved their good goals in life and are grateful to their parents for skillfully organizing the process with lessons.
Convey to children the information that studying will take a long time. But you will have to get grades. And better - good ones. Although, to be honest, they are considered some kind of stage that reflects children’s perception of new knowledge.
You can tell your child that he definitely needs to learn to communicate correctly with both students and the teacher.
Let's say a teacher made a remark. Yes, sometimes. But we must learn to correct mistakes. And everyone goes through this, not just one particular child.
There is no need to be offended by a bad grade - it is better to correct it. After all, how does it happen? If a child harbors a grudge against a teacher, his entire school years will be in vain.
By the way, as the same experience shows, many reveal their abilities to the fullest only at an institute or college, where no one humiliated them, where they valued knowledge and him as a person, first of all...
New care allowance for up to 3 years
In the summer of 2020, Vladimir Putin issued an order regarding the development of a project for paying mothers another decent benefit. It will be similar to the first presidential payment related to assistance to low-income families.
This benefit is planned to be paid until the child turns 3 years old. They plan to apply the same principle of accrual - funds are allocated only to families with low incomes. We are talking about the absence of double the subsistence level for each family member. That is, in a complete family with 2 children, the income should be about 80 tr. and more to lose the right to a new payment.
Attention! Do not forget about 2 factors: the conditions for assigning payments can change and this is still a draft law, although it was adopted in the first reading. The law may be rejected later or its implementation may be postponed.
The mechanism for assigning a new benefit and the source of funds for its payment are still unknown. In the case of the first “Putin’s allowance” for care, up to 1.5 liters. For the second baby, money is taken from maternity capital. Therefore, there is a possibility that in the future, receiving such a payment for the first time for up to 3 years will also be from the budget, and reapplying for it from the available MK funds. On the other hand, the MK project has a limited mode of operation, therefore, it is not yet clear what will happen to the previous manual, not to mention the introduction of a new one.
It is worth knowing that the expected introduction of the new benefit will potentially be combined with the emergence of a different system for assessing family well-being. In particular, to analyze real need, they can use state banks, traffic police data and other ways to determine family income and the presence of valuable property, which is impossible with declared low incomes. It is also worth noting the fact of an active fight against the shadow sector of the country’s economy - more and more employers are beginning to pay wages officially in full, which, according to documents, demonstrates true income, and not an imaginary low-income situation.
Payments for a second child in 2020, taking into account new benefits, can really help low-income families support their baby. Also, the program for awarding women maternity capital certificates continues to operate. Otherwise, the various payments are not so generous - even for a second child, the standard social benefit without taking into account maternity payments is quite modest. We can only hope that the fight against the shadow economy will bear fruit and there will be more employed women, which will allow them to receive adequate child care.
So, about the reasons
Find out with your child what it is and why he gets bad grades:
- suddenly he didn’t care at that moment,
- or he was embarrassed by others when they were called to the board,
- maybe I just didn’t learn enough,
- or poorly assimilates school material,
- or the teacher humiliated him with his remark, and now the child has a complex,
- he can react this way to scandals in the family,
- he may protest against something...
And further. Evaluate your child’s potential together with him. What is he more predisposed to, what is he less inclined to? Reveal to him his abilities, show him how easy it is when you know something. He will have an incentive to study! After all, children do not always understand why they study poorly.
Unfortunately, often the teacher does not establish contact with the children. And those, withdrawn, embarrassed or afraid to say the wrong thing, will not ask themselves. That’s why you need to go to school regularly. Communicate with the teacher. Deal with him about grades. Talk about your child's characteristics. The result will appear soon, and it will be positive! And so on in all subjects.
Going to a psychologist? This is an extreme, sometimes necessary. But the main thing is not to get hung up on bad grades and not to kill the child’s desire to learn. Otherwise, his experiences may degenerate into neurosis.
Putin's benefit for low-income families
The emergence of this form of support for mothers who have recently given birth to a second baby has become a powerful incentive not to put off the matter. The very fact of maternity capital provided only ephemeral money, and real payments in the most difficult moments became much more attractive. Before the baby is 1.5 years old, the family is extremely vulnerable financially - the mother cannot go to work and income is completely dependent on the father. This cannot but frighten, because if the father loses his job or if a serious illness occurs, the family is completely deprived of income.
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For families with 2 children at once, this situation is quite dangerous, so having the opportunity to receive at least one living wage for a new family member allows you to partially relax. Now they have this opportunity, thanks to a program to support families with an income not exceeding 1.5 times the subsistence level for each member. Moreover, a probable change in the lower limit of recipients’ income has already been announced. To receive such a benefit, the total income per family member must not exceed 2 minimums established in the region of residence.
Important! It is impossible to say within the framework of one material how much they pay for 2 children. This depends on the cost of living of the region, and the order of the numbers is extremely different. In the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug, the mother will be paid more than 22 thousand per month, but in the Tambov, Voronezh and many other regions they are not entitled to even 9 thousand rubles.
Separately, it is worth highlighting the fact of the peculiarities of paying this benefit for the second child - the money for this will be taken from the total amount of maternity capital. In addition, payments will continue until the child is 1.5 years old, although the government plans to change the duration of receiving financial support from the state.
Criticism? In no case!
What criticism. After all, you haven’t figured it out... Even if you have figured it out, there is no need to scold the student, much less intimidate him with bad grades. The fear of getting a bad grade at school gives rise again - double fear. Skipping tests and classes will become a system. In general, the child will absolutely not want to go to school.
Meanwhile, worries, fears, complexes - they are bad comrades. All this will only reduce the quality of perception of the educational material. But, and this is worse, aggression will come in their place. As a result, the logic will be ironclad - why study, because they will scold you at home, they will give you bad marks at school.
Therefore, it is better to set your student up in a positive way. At such moments, you can’t do without encouragement. After all, the child must be made to understand that he is loved! Even if he brings you deuces, he says, we’ll definitely figure it out together!
The most likely causes of twos
- Errors, misunderstanding of material
Sometimes the result can be negative. Parents should say: “Let the twos correct the course of your thoughts, and not upset you!”
- Indifference to studies, laziness
The situation is difficult - there is no motivation to study. A consequence of mutual misunderstanding with the teacher, a bad program, or missing material. You should find out what the matter is and try to create motivation for the child, at least by explaining the direct connection between academic success and future well-being, as is practiced in the West. A person must be able to work, withstand competition, and endure failures.
- Failure in the literal sense of the learning process goes quickly, not all children can keep up with it. No sooner have you completed the letters than you need to read fluently, etc. Fs are possible due to insufficient speed of work. Phlegmatic people are unlucky: they are often capable, but slow. Temperament, as we know, cannot be changed, so you need to warn the teacher that the child will prove himself more likely in difficult homework than in a quick survey.
- The program is too complex
Often parents make excessive demands on their child, send him to a prestigious lyceum with many difficult subjects, and send him to school too early. After classes, the child has a headache, he is tired and nervous. “In this lyceum you have to suffer all evening to get at least a C!” - then the parents worry. You should choose a school where studying, although difficult, is enjoyable, where difficulties are completely surmountable and you can get A’s with adequate effort.
- F's are not for knowledge
There are deuces because of behavior. There are character traits that “contribute” to getting a bad grade: absent-mindedness, inattention, thoughtfulness, self-doubt, anxiety. Helping the child become confident, strong, collected - this is the task of the parents in this case.
- Conflict with teacher
A teacher can cause both love for a subject and hatred. A lot depends on the relationship between the child and the teacher. The teacher does not always give grades objectively, and the child, even with good knowledge, may be afraid to answer the lesson. If it turns out that grades are influenced not only by knowledge, but also by the relationship with the teacher, parents should meet with the teacher more often, showing that they know what is happening and are ready to defend the rights of the child. You should not allow the teacher to dictate your will, you should try to establish a cooperative relationship - for the sake of the child. There are cases of obvious incompatibility between teacher and student. If such a situation arises in a primary school, it is better to transfer the child to another class.
- Accident
A certain percentage of random twos is always acceptable, as long as it does not exceed the norm.
- Conscious refusal to learn
Some children, having decided that they will not become engineers, may refuse to study mathematics, chemistry, etc. In this case, we need to talk about the benefits of general education, that even purely humanitarian professions (journalist, psychologist, lawyer) will benefit from technical knowledge invaluable.
When you look at the diary, pay maximum attention to positive assessments. You can remain indifferent to twos. Just ask: “Why are there not enough A’s? If you don’t know something, I will help you!” If the parent is not very well versed, for example, in intricate chemistry and is unlikely to be able to help, he can, on the contrary, ask the child: “Come on, I’ll sit with you, and you will explain the new material to me. I'd like to know that too." In short, pay more attention to scientific truth, not to estimates! If you discuss a bad grade with a child, then speak in a businesslike manner, without emotion. You can’t draw generalized conclusions from two, such as “you’re a fool” or “you don’t know physics.” On the contrary, it is necessary to localize the area for which the estimate was obtained as accurately as possible: physics - mechanics - Newton's second law. It is this second Newton’s law with all the variants of problems that must be properly studied and understood.
You should explain to the child that even with his good intelligence, failures can still happen and you need to be able to calmly correct them, and not fall into panic or rage. The ability to courageously overcome difficulties and not give up is very useful for later life.
Many parents are concerned about the question: “What to do if your child gets a bad grade?” Scold him or forgive him? Read below on how to behave in this difficult situation.
Support the child!
Explain to him why school knowledge is needed. Give an example of, say, a cleaner and a person in another profession that could attract the child’s attention. Show their capabilities and reality. Very impressive! Or, in the form of a game, show what it’s like to be illiterate among educated people. But at the same time, instill confidence that he can, he will achieve his goals.
It is important to think more, and even together with the child, about a plan for further action. And make sure that he understands that he is still responsible for this or that. This will help improve your academic performance.
In a word, as we see, it is not the children’s fault that they fail at school. At a minimum, we, the parents, and the school. We do so because we deprive children of attention and abdicate responsibility. The school - because more often than not it has no contact with the family and is not interested in ensuring that ALL children do well. And a two, by the way, is not a child’s grade. This is the teacher's assessment... And ours!
Maternal capital
Women giving birth in 2020 were subject to another extension of maternity capital (MC). A certificate for a fairly substantial amount is awarded to women who have given birth to a second child. Moreover, it is not the fact of childbirth itself that matters, but the number of children. Those. Maternity capital can be received only once. Therefore, for some, it will be given after the third birth, if it was not previously received.
Worth knowing! The MK program has so far been tentatively extended only until 2021. At the same time, starting from January 2020, the payment amount is planned to be increased.
For several years MK was not indexed, so its amount remained unchanged. Inflation compensation will not be carried out for all years; its estimated value will be 4%. The total amount is expected to be 470 thousand rubles. Only mothers should still count on the same MC value for now, so as not to be upset later. Currently, the value of the certificate is 453,026 rubles.
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