0 257 August 5, 2020 at 07:51 pm Author of the publication: Marina Alekseeva
Passion - burning, enthusiasm, strong attraction to something, strong desire for something. Passion for life and passion for a partner are one and the same. Passion for life makes every day bright and makes you feel alive. Passion for your partner means that the relationship is alive. This is why we are so persistently looking for an answer to the question of how to return passion to a relationship when we want to maintain it.
What will be discussed in the article:
"Passion" or passion? What do we want? Why passion disappears from relationships. How to bring passion back into a relationship: typical scenarios. What to do for those who are too relaxed in a relationship. What to do for those who are disappointed in their partner. Sexual characteristics: who is capable of what and for how long. How to bring back passion for your wife. How to bring back passion for your husband.
"Passion" or passion? What do we want?
Passion and “passions” are not the same thing. Life together can be emotionally stormy, “passions” can boil in it - quarrels, showdowns, which can end in bed. There is obvious indifference to each other. There is no cooling, something burns and even explodes.
- This happens with us. You should have seen what was on the wall here. - What, brains? - No, naval pasta. I threw a frying pan at him.
Such passion shakes the foundation of relationships. Demands for attention, resentment, mutual reproaches and claims are a manifestation of misunderstanding and emotional instability, which will ultimately lead to the fading of real passion.
What kind of passion do we want? The same as it was in the beginning. A strong attraction that glues into one inseparable whole. One breath for two. Completely different emotions: you forget about yourself, you want to think only about your loved one and do everything to make him feel good. I want to dissolve in my beloved. He is perfection. She is a perfect beauty. Crazy happiness.
But time passes, and questions arise: how to return the former passion for your husband, how to return the former passion for your wife? Why does attraction go away? At Yuri Burlan’s training “System-vector psychology” you can find answers to these questions.
Stage one. Beautiful shell
You have already gotten used to each other, you have seen each other in different circumstances. Your husband watches you without makeup, with disheveled hair, he has seen you in tears and on not the best days. You may have gained weight. It’s no secret that many people choose clothes for home that are worse, stained, elongated, from the “too bad to throw away” series. It is not surprising that your husband has lost interest and treats you like comfortable but shabby house slippers. It’s easier to blame a man than to look at yourself from the outside.
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What to do? They love, of course, not only for their appearance. But the “wrapper” is still important for a man. Start the changes with yourself. Do light styling. Tint your lips and eyes, tidy up your figure. The changes will be gradual, but from the very first steps you will feel the difference in your husband’s attitude, who will be pleasantly surprised.
Why passion disappears from relationships
Without passion, strong attraction, a man and a woman would not become a couple. They are hooked by unconscious odors, just as in the animal world, when a male cannot pass by a female emitting inviting odors. Smells trigger a process of violent chemical reactions, turning off the brain and causing us to lose control. Our body is animal in nature, so at first we react more with our body. We are attracted to our partner with furious force. And this is good: if we had thought for a long time and looked at our partner’s shortcomings, we would never have decided to live together and have children.
But the power of animal attraction passes: nature gives a period of time to give birth and raise offspring - about three years. After this, visible cooling occurs.
“In the third year, you no longer try not to look at the fresh girls who make the street brighter. You don't talk to your wife anymore. Spend long hours with her in a restaurant, listening to what your neighbors at the table are babbling... And soon the moment comes when you can no longer stand your other half for an extra second, because you have fallen in love with another” (Frederick Beigbeder. Love lasts three years).
The situation can develop in two scenarios:
- The spouses have a good relationship, but they are so used to each other that they are almost relatives and do not arouse the same sexual interest. As they say in this case: life is stuck. “Well, what kind of passion is it if people discuss their constipation with each other?”
- Relationships are deteriorating. The couple discovers that their formerly beautiful and perfect lover turns out to have flaws. He is not what we would like to see him, he does not do everything as we would like. Disappointment in the partner, resentment, and claims are growing. The more claims, the less attraction.
And yet there is still a lot that connects, so I want to save the relationship. In the arsenal of those seeking a revival of passion - erotic underwear, sexual experiments, stimulation through jealousy. But all these are one-time measures, changing the form without changing the content, so it quickly becomes boring. And attempts to provoke at least some kind of emotional reaction from a partner, even through jealousy, can generally end in the collapse of the relationship. How to return passion to a woman or man for a long time and just as brightly? You need to understand human psychology.
Stage four. Main recipe
All of the above actions will be useless without this last skill: to make a man languish and desire you even more. This works not only during the candy-bouquet period, but also in a long marriage. When a woman is intimate with a man, she spends energy. She needs time to recover. Otherwise, she begins to look bad and feel bad. A man often takes his wife for granted, and therefore does not appreciate her.
What to do? Make your man languish. Not giving him intimacy whenever he wants. At the same time, you should not invent standard headaches. You have to show him that you want the same thing, but... And this is where your imagination comes in. You can tell him that you are preparing something unusual for him, then his passion will only increase with interest.
It is now possible to bring back the former passion in family life. Use these four steps to your growth and development. The main secrets of female attractiveness will help awaken old feelings in your man. And you will become the only and most desirable for him. The one for whom he will do anything you want.
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How to bring passion back into a relationship: typical scenarios
Three years later, all is not lost. You can return passion and attraction to each other - the main thing is to know how to do it.
“You won’t believe it... And after 20 years of marriage, this is possible: in a motor boat in the middle of the river, and under a spreading cherry tree in the garden, there’s nothing to say about the beach. My husband and I are still hooligans!” (from the forum).
What to do for those who are too relaxed in a relationship
Don't relax! Relationships are a constant effort to give back to your partner. A man wants to see his woman attractive, but she completely stopped taking care of herself after she got married. A woman wants signs of attention from a man, but he no longer gives her flowers or invites her to a restaurant. And a woman’s libido, by the way, increases when a man feeds her. After a romantic dinner, she is more inclined to have sex. One of the ways to bring back passion for a man in your woman is to invite her to a restaurant more often.
Be apart sometimes. Perhaps you spend too much time together or even one of the partners is dependent on the other. To enjoy food, for example, you need to be really hungry. To enjoy sex, you need to create a lack of it. Even a short separation renews and refreshes the relationship and helps you understand how important your loved one is to you.
Make your wishes come true. Perhaps everyday life has drawn you in so much that there is no time left for personal fulfillment. Sometimes you even get irritated with your partner, because it’s because of him that you haven’t been able to just read a book for several years. Passion is libido, attraction not only to the opposite sex, but also to life. In the language of psychoanalysis, these are the same thing. No passion for life means no passion for your partner. There must be personal fulfillment - a favorite job, an exciting hobby. It is very good if you and your spouse have common interests, but it is impossible for all desires to coincide. You must follow your desires, then your state will change and you will be able to look at your lover or lover differently from a state of satisfaction with life. And your partner reads your state: he is drawn to a happy person, not a sad one.
Talk about your sexual desires. Perhaps, at the beginning, at the peak of love, sex suited you. But the years go by, and nothing changes or changes for the worse - the desire disappears altogether. And I want to go deeper in revealing each other, but false shame gets in the way. Yuri Burlan talks about its reasons at the training:
Talk to your partner about your intimate desires. Explore and develop your sexuality together. Complete openness in sexual relationships creates a special sweet intimacy that is impossible at the beginning of a relationship, when you are not yet ready to be so open with each other.
From Tatyana K.’s review after the training: “Having found out that the reason for my aggressiveness was hidden in sexual frustration, I was able to openly talk with my husband about my secret desires. To his credit, he took my revelations very favorably. However, this is not surprising - for a long time he tried to force me to be frank, but I could not even admit my desires to myself, since I sincerely considered them perversions that had no place in the marital bedroom.”
Cultivate emotional connection. The stronger the emotional connection between partners, the sweeter the sex. If a man has the opportunity to compare sex without love and sex with the woman he loves, he will definitely answer that the latter is ten times sweeter. For a woman, trust in her partner is the only opportunity to experience an orgasm. And it arises as a result of an emotional connection.
An emotional connection needs to be created, it is important to invest in it. Preferably long before the power of animal passion begins to weaken, that is, literally at the very beginning of the relationship. In a couple, the woman is responsible for the emotional connection. She is the first to begin taking steps towards spiritual rapprochement. This comes more naturally to her. A man only needs to respond, follow her, deep into the hidden corners of each other’s souls.
Be sincere with each other, help each other, do something nice, set up romantic dates, spend free time together, don’t forget to say encouraging words and thank your partner. This is how human connection is created, which takes the passion in a relationship to another level. Another fragment from the training “System-vector psychology” about this:
What to do for those who are disappointed in their partner
It’s difficult to see a person right away, especially when hormones are “blowing the roof.” And the lie of marriage, which Yuri Burlan talks about during the training, distorts the picture:
Could it be that you chose the wrong person? Quite. This happens if people do not have the basics of psychological literacy. Attraction can bring two people together. It is the foundation of falling in love, but it is not at all a guarantee of love. Love arises when there is emotional closeness, spiritual kinship and the desire to give each other happiness. To do this, you need to consciously choose a person, see who is in front of you, what states they are in, and whether the feeling can be mutual. Because when people are in different states, they cannot find common ground.
But sometimes we just don’t see that we are living with the person who suits us. Because we look at him through ourselves, we see the wrong self in him, we don’t understand at all what’s inside him.
According to the laws of nature, attraction pushes us into the arms of a person who is our opposite. So a couple ends up with a nimble woman and a slow man, a self-absorbed introvert and a lover of noisy companies. This combination of properties is the potential for development and a more fulfilling life as a couple. But when you don't know why this is so, the difference is annoying.
Victor remade his wife to suit himself, which constantly led to conflicts. But when he understood who his wife was and what to expect from her, he began to calmly perceive the difference between them. The anger and harsh reaction that spoiled the relationship went away.
It happens that circumstances influence us, but we do not know how to resist this influence in order to prevent relationships from collapsing.
Alfia was on the verge of divorce from her husband after the birth of her child. They did everything for the baby, but forgot about each other. We lived like neighbors in a dorm. Observing silence for the sake of the child, they completely stopped communicating. Even while at home, we corresponded on social networks. When Alfiya realized what kind of person her husband was and how important it was to maintain an emotional connection with him all the time, their relationship again became warm and close. The attraction increased.
Only knowledge of oneself and another person helps to overcome the difficulties that inevitably arise in the life of every family. Therefore, for those who are disappointed in their partner, it is better to psychoanalyze the situation at Yuri Burlan’s training.
How to bring passion back into family relationships
Romantics and realists are two diametrically opposed categories of people. For realists, maturity is more important in family relationships. They believe that love, proven over the years, is much more important than passion, which leads a person in the wrong direction and pushes him to stupid, rash actions. Realists completely reject the very idea that passion can be the basis for entering into a marriage relationship.
Romantics, on the contrary, do not see true love without passion. They are constantly looking for people for whom attraction will never go away, and they believe that this is possible. Romantics equate the loss of sexual desire with the fading of love.
Whatever category a person belongs to, sooner or later it becomes clear that over time strong emotions fade away. Passion and desire are replaced by other feelings: respect, responsibility, constancy. But this is extremely not enough to maintain harmony in family relationships.
Even if the attraction seems to be gone forever, there is still an opportunity to fix everything.
Forget the common myth that you are two halves of a whole.
At first, everything in a relationship is completely different from what it is many years later: you want to impress your lover, every phone call is perceived as a great event. And there is also a feeling of uncertainty: none of you knows what will happen next. It is this ignorance of the future that fuels relationships and ignites a spark in them.
Over time, the main mistake is made: partners get too close, without leaving any unsaid things. As a result, it becomes boring, because the inner world of a loved one is no longer a mystery that you want to solve.
All you can do in this situation is to learn to harmoniously combine the personal space of each family member and mutual trust. Develop separately from each other, and then you will become interested in being together again.
Look at the family with different eyes.
Entering the initial phase of a relationship, people try to learn as much as possible about each other. Over time, it begins to seem that there are no unknown facts left about the partner. This is a delusion that a person accepts because he is afraid to admit that he really wants change and unpredictability.
Look at both of you from a different angle. By driving your loved one into a template framework, you yourself turn the relationship into coexistence without passion. Think about how fragile your connection really is. Relationships cannot be predictable and stable.
You can try to look at your husband or wife as you would look at a stranger. Having seen how passionate a loved one is about his hobby, how he communicates with friends, how much success he has achieved at work, you can again experience a great desire for him.
Don't cage your partner.
It is impossible for two people who love each other to become one without consequences, no matter how much you might want the opposite. Loosen your control, stop interfering in your spouse’s relationship with the outside world. Don't try to protect your family from any shocks. This behavior, oddly enough, often leads to betrayal.
The spouse is a free person, an independent person. This is how he once chose you as his life partner. And if loyalty and the desire to be close to your family cease to be voluntary, your partner will certainly want to break out of your captivity at any cost.
Don't spy on the person you love, don't control his every move by studying the contents of his email and watching his movements. This pattern of behavior may make him want to seek personal space elsewhere.
Recognize that there is a third character in your relationship.
The third subject always looms somewhere on the border of family relationships. Perhaps this is your first high school crush, your gym coach, your cute salesperson, or your children's school teacher. Maybe it was just a stranger on the bus who smiled at you. All these people are the third characters in your family life. They seem to materialize our desires to receive something forbidden, outside the framework of what is permitted by conscience.
Oddly enough, the presence of a third subject only makes the marriage relationship stronger. Understand that your partner can also have secret desires and fantasies without you being there. You are both independent.
You can discuss the third party of the relationship in a humorous manner, turning conversations about this person into a kind of game. Having made sure that a partner cannot be completely owned, you can feel that the relationship has been filled with new shades.
Learn to distinguish between passion and love.
And although some people believe that sex is about achieving sensual intimacy, many will disagree with this. More often than not, people want completely different things in love and sex. You can love your partner and treat him with great tenderness, but at the same time want to experiment in bed, show aggression and power. Don't expect the same things from marital duty that you expect from love. And vice versa.
Get rid of the cult of the child.
For several decades there has been an unpleasant trend - the cult of children. We fuss and run around the child, just to make him feel happy and content.
When mom or dad consider it their duty to be with their children every minute, there may not be any time and energy left for their loved one to provide all the benefits of civilization. It's time to stop. The spouse is also worthy of attention. Discuss with your partner how you can organize communication for just the two of you without worrying about what's going on at home.
Set aside at least a couple of hours to go to a cafe together or spend a day off in some picturesque place in nature.
Distribute areas of responsibility.
Don't put all the housework and child rearing on one person. It would be surprising if by evening he still had the strength and desire to fulfill his marital duty.
Divide the responsibilities, you can create a written schedule and indicate who should do what: go grocery shopping, take the child to kindergarten, take out the trash or walk the dog. Try to distribute the load fairly, in equal shares. A compromise in resolving this issue will free up a lot of time to spend with each other.
Sometimes you can act not according to plan: let your beloved wife sleep a little longer on Saturday, and cook breakfast yourself at this time.
Be a little selfish.
Your own pleasure is very important. Often people try to please their partner and forget about themselves. By concentrating on satisfying your spouse's needs and being afraid of doing something wrong, you can completely lose attraction.
Oddly enough, people behave this way quite often. Think about it, because your partner is unlikely to feel happy and satisfied if he notices that you are very tense and worried.
Just relax and enjoy the process. At such moments, you should not think about the end result, because such thoughts only distract. Concentrate for a while only on your feelings, be selfish - the passion will definitely return, including from your spouse.
Figure out what exactly each of you wants.
There is nothing difficult about understanding each other's desires. Take sheets of paper and divide them into two parts. Each of the columns is an association with love or sex. Both you and your partner write on your sheet what each of these categories means to you personally. By comparing what is written, you can learn a lot about each other and about the relationship of each of you to love and passion. This will help you adjust your behavior according to the wishes of each of you.
Go beyond the everyday and routine.
Marriage is considered a serious and responsible matter. This is comfort and reliability, which supposedly cannot exist together with risk, pranks and flirting.
Relationships should be lively and dynamic, so you can’t do without flirting, games, jokes and fantasies.
Stop treating family life like work, let your imagination play one of the main roles: start flirting with your spouse on the phone, make a date in an unusual place, create an erotic atmosphere at home. In true love there is a place for everything: both peace and adventure.
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Sexual characteristics: who is capable of what and for how long
It happens that due to ignorance of the sexual characteristics of the spouse, a false feeling arises that there is no more attraction. Often such cooling can be temporary, but one of the partners begins to panic that the passion is gone for good.
The psyche in “System-vector psychology” is described through eight vectors, four of which determine human libido: cutaneous, anal, urethral, muscular. Libido is also influenced by a person’s condition and his temperament (innate strength of desires).
For example, the libido of a person with the skin vector is balanced and does not bother him much. If somewhere up to the age of 27 he can be called a sexual acrobat due to the frequent change of partners and love of experimentation, then after this age the attraction is greatly reduced. To the point that after sex, he finds his partner’s touch unpleasant. What in a partner’s reactions is his natural feature, and what is only a consequence of emotional alienation in a couple, is worth understanding with the help of psychoanalysis, and then you will understand how to improve the relationship.
It happens that an engineer or top manager with a skin vector, at the peak of a long work project, experiences a complete sublimation of sexual energy into social realization and simply has no desire for sex. And this can be regarded by the other half as cooling.
The leather worker is also inclined to conserve sexual energy, practice abstinence, self-restraint, rationalizing this by saying that nature allots a certain number of intercourse to a person (by the way, this is not true).
She practices yoga and periodic sexual abstinence for spiritual development and does not understand why he cannot wait a little longer to have sex.
This happens when there is also a sound vector. And when this vector is in bad conditions (for example, depression), the person becomes asexual. When your soul hurts a lot, there is no time for sex.
Knowledge of sexual preferences will help increase the sexual desire of a person with a skin vector. How to bring passion back into a relationship for a person with the skin vector? Change positions, the environment (in the shower, in the car, in a hotel), do not avoid sexual experiments. For skinners, tactile sensations are of great importance for satisfaction, and hence the love for oral sex.
A person with an anal vector has a strong libido and is able to show passion for a long time. But, for example, he does not understand the needs of his skin partner for long-term tactile caresses, because he himself does not experience such pleasure from touching. You just need to tell him about it, and he, as a very sexually caring person, will do it.
A person with a muscle vector tends to have monotonous, monotonous sex, which seems completely devoid of passion. But with a partner who has a urethral vector, you will never complain about the lack of passion, since his libido is excessive - four times more than everyone else. But this same passion can take him away from the family when it is not satisfied. Therefore, the urethral man is the only polygamous man.
About the sexual characteristics of people with different vectors - a fragment of the training:
Understanding your partner and his capabilities will allow you not to demand what he cannot give, and to ask for what he is able to give. When you know exactly what gives your partner the most pleasure, you act not on a whim, but precisely. And the result - fantastic sex - will not be long in coming! When people understand each other, there is a dialogue between them, which means an emotional connection is formed, which is the basis for long-term and intense passion in a relationship.
In addition to Yuri Burlan’s “System-vector psychology” training, two thematic classes on female sexuality are held, which are entirely devoted to revealing the secrets of sexuality. These are powerful lectures that help people understand each other’s deep, subconscious desires, see the roles of men and women, and take relationships to a new level. Here's what people write in their reviews after completing the training:
“After three years of living together with my wife, there was a complete misunderstanding of each other in the relationship. As in the fable “The Swan, the Crab and the Pike,” everyone defended their values in life... Thanks to SVP, I found a solution to take personal relationships in the family to a new level. I began to realize: when my wife is happy, I am happy, that my fulfillment in society depends entirely on my wife.
Another important result is the realization that when you give love to your soul mate, you receive even more love in return. Thanks to this, sexual life has changed radically, it has become of a higher quality (it began to blow your mind with pleasure, and no millions are needed) ... "
Ivan B. Read the full text of the result
“...my wife fell in love with me, and I with her. And everything was heading towards divorce, most likely, because... drugs, etc.! Sex of incredible sensuality, it’s just passion)..."
Pavel E. Read the full text of the result
“I used to think that everything was fine in our sexual relationship. But when I now compare how it was before the training and how it is now, the difference is very big. I want to have sex, I get a thrill from the process. Previously, it was like a marital duty...”
Antonina V. Read the full text of the result
Vera Ts. quotes her husband’s review:
“When the last lesson was left, suddenly my wife’s love of love increased. From almost frigid, she became a woman with a spark. After 1-2 times a month, we started loving several times a week! Such changes pleased me and prompted me to write this review. Now you will have to undergo training yourself to improve your weak points. THANK YOU SO MUCH, YURI BURLAN!”
Read the full text of the result
So let's summarize:
- the initial passion goes away after an average of three years of relationship;
- To prevent the attraction from disappearing completely, you need to work on creating an emotional connection;
- to form an emotional connection, you need to understand your partner;
- To bring back passion, you need to start with yourself.
Relationship. Love. Passion
Tip #1. Play and flirt with your man like it’s the first time!
Remember, when you met, you probably flirted with your husband because you wanted to please him! You may have laughed contagiously when he told a joke, even if you didn't find it very funny. Or maybe when he complimented you, you looked away shyly. And when he asked you a question, you smiled mysteriously with the smile of the Mona Lisa.
You wanted to win his heart, and you apparently succeeded, since he married you. But the moment the prey is caught, you can relax, right? No not like this! Remember how you once flirted with your husband and resume this game ☺. Have you ever done this? Then quickly learn the art of flirting and charm. This is an indispensable skill in family life, which solves a lot of problems and issues in almost any life situation.
Unfortunately, as a rule, we radically change our behavior after getting married, and not for the better. As in the joke: A son asks his father: “Dad, is it true that in the east the groom finds out who his bride is only after the wedding?” “This is in any country, son,” the father replies.
We become unrecognizable, and then we ourselves are surprised: why did he stop loving me? And he yearns for that girl with a smile, a playful look and a sparkle in her eyes. But instead, the “aunt” stands in front of him, grumpy and dissatisfied with life. But he didn’t marry her!
So!.. We remove the aunt, smile widely, add sparkle in our eyes and act as if “I am happy and I have everything”! In a word, flirt and flirt with your husband as if he has not yet married you, but is just getting ready.
Tip #2. Be NOT a convenient woman, but a real woman!
Many women make the same mistake over and over again, they try to be a “good and comfortable wife”, and then - bam! - and one very bad day he goes to some bitch. How so?! I cooked borscht, and picked up socks behind the refrigerator, didn’t ask for much, did everything myself, and brought money into the house, but it wasn’t all right for him. A man does not need a convenient woman, but a real one.
As they say, a man is judged by the woman who is next to him, and he knows it. A man needs you to be cheerful, happy, and to be able to surprise him every time and be new and unpredictable for him. He needs you to not let him relax (in the good sense of the word), so that you want something, strive for something, so that you motivate him and inspire him to do great things, so that next to you he feels like a hero, and you were a real woman next to him.
If your husband lives with you according to the principle: if I get divorced, then who will cook for me, then things are very bad. There are some men who don’t need a woman as such at all, they need service personnel. The bad news is that he is no longer a man. The good thing is that you most likely brought it to this point yourself, which means, under certain conditions, it can be fixed.
You are not a service staff, you are not a housekeeper, you are not a laundry lady, not a cook, not his secretary, and you are not even his mother - you, first of all, are just an amazing woman - so be it!
Go to a beauty salon and let the manicurist and pedicurist work their magic on you. Buy yourself new underwear, a couple of chic dresses, and in order not to spend a lot of time and effort on this, you can use the Salery.ru search engine. She will help you choose a stunning outfit from a number of offers from different online stores at the best price in a matter of minutes. Then go up to your husband and say: “Darling, for your sake I don’t feel sorry for anything! I invested so much money and time so that you could enjoy me!”
Tip #3. Talk to your husband about sex, think about sex and breathe it!
If you want a fire at night, you need to stock up on firewood during the day! Put in the right amount of effort to create that very desired passion.
Don't wait for something to happen on its own. Don't expect your husband to become a romantic. Don't expect anything at all. Just take action!
If your sex is monotonous and predictable, then things are bad. If during sex you think about whether it will rain and whether your underwear will get wet, then things are very bad. Bring brightness and variety to your intimate life. How to do it? This is a topic not only for a separate article - it is a topic for a separate section.
But first, I recommend doing the following: put on a sexy outfit, open a bottle of wine, light candles, turn on music and talk to your husband about his secret sexual fantasies, in return telling him about yours. Then simply, as the Americans say, just do it - just make your fantasies come true. It's that simple.
- What if I don’t share my husband’s fantasies?! - you ask.
“Then reconsider your views on life,” I will answer.
As a last resort, to be on the safe side, ask your husband to voice several fantasies so that you have a choice.
And the last point for today, but perhaps the most fundamental.
Tip #4. Fall in love with your husband!
“Is it really possible to do this? “It doesn’t depend on me,” you may say and you will be wrong. It is certainly possible to fall in love with your husband again, and participants in my training have repeatedly spoken and written about this experience.
Here's an example - this is written by a woman with more than 20 years of marriage experience:
“I have already developed the habit of being happy! Girls, I fell in love with my own husband again! Whoever told me about this, I wouldn’t believe it! After the training, I look at my husband differently!”
How to fall in love with your husband again? This, of course, does not happen in one day - it is a conscious process. You can't describe it in a few words. But briefly, we can say that the problem is that, after living with our husband for several years, we women often cease to perceive our husband as a man. We begin to treat him only as the father of our children, as a person who hangs or does not hang shelves, as a breadwinner, etc. He has many roles, and, unfortunately, his most important role, the role of a man, husband, lover, sometimes fades into the background. This is why many conflicts, problems and a feeling of distance from each other begin to arise.
Our men no longer seem to us as good, strong, brave and “prince-like” as they seemed when we first met. We suddenly begin to notice all their shortcomings in them, to find a new reason for criticism and dissatisfaction. Not only do we begin to find this, but we also voice it to them, thereby making them even more vulnerable and unsuccessful in our eyes.
Men want a woman next to them who will appreciate them, be proud of them and, of course, praise them and admire them!
And believe me, all a woman’s shortcomings will fade against this background, or even disappear altogether! Men are in no hurry to lose such a woman or exchange her for another.
So how can you admire and praise your husband, how can you appreciate him and be proud of him, if he has so many shortcomings? Yes, I don’t argue, your husband definitely has shortcomings. But I also know that he has a lot of positive qualities. No is it? Concentrate your attention on them!
And now I invite you to watch the video. As you have already seen from the articles, I really like video communication with you. I talk about how to love your husband.
How to bring back passion for your wife
- Invite your wife to a restaurant: when a man feeds a woman, she is more inclined to have sex.
- Let your wife feel that you care about her and dedicate all your victories to her: the feeling of security and safety that a woman receives from a man allows her to have crazy sex because the woman relaxes.
- Find out what your wife likes - in life and in bed. This will be the key to unlocking her vibrant sexuality. Knowing a woman’s vectors, you can always win her over. For example, a woman with a visual vector will be aroused by a huge bouquet of flowers, a woman with a skin vector will be aroused by a fashionable and expensive gift, and a girl with an anal vector will not give up without a long foreplay.
How to bring passion back into a husband-wife relationship
If the main condition for passion is novelty, then you should not be afraid to introduce something new into your sexual relationship. Today there is a huge selection of sex toys, outfits and various devices that can give new sensations and diversify erotic experiences.
Another way to bring passion back into the relationship between husband and wife is to change the environment. Many spouses note that sex becomes completely different in a new place. Why not try getting a hotel room, spending a weekend in a rented cottage, or even having sex in a tent during a short camping trip?
New ideas can be gleaned from films for adults, which, unfortunately, many people are very afraid to watch due to their own shyness or existing stereotypes in their minds that watching such films is a dirty, unworthy activity. In fact, porn films help you relax and, perhaps, gain new ideas that you can bring into your relationship with your other half.
Don’t be afraid to talk to each other about your desires and look for a solution to the problem together. If you let things take their course, sooner or later this can lead to rather sad consequences. When there is no misunderstanding between spouses and they are not afraid to raise sexual topics in conversations, they can easily find solutions to all problems, and sex will bring joy throughout their entire family life.
